Love on AFF  

qship52 63M
187 posts
4/30/2006 11:54 pm

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5/5/2006 10:25 am

Love on AFF

It's possible. You can find a woman on AdultFriendFinder, fall in love with her, and have her fall in love with you. It's happening to me.

I don't know where it is going, and right now I don't care. Both of us are kind of surprised at the turn of events, and neither wants it to end. I'm sitting alone in my house tonight, missing her. I'll see her again tomorrow, and I'm smiling just thinking about it.

I wonder what love needs to start? Why is this happening to me, and to her? Why is it not happening to more people? Why do I feel like I've won the lottery here?

There were so many reasons this might never have happened. I loved her profile, and she thought mine was OK, so at least we started out as some sort of reasonable match. There were a few things on her profile that I did not match up on though.

For one, I was too tall. There is quite a height difference between us, and it's pretty obvious that is something that can't be fixed. She doesn't really know now why she didn't delete my email as soon as she saw my height. Something there intervened on my behalf.

Then there was the sheer volume of offers she had. She's good looking, and got dozens of emails per day from men. Most of them get deleted without even being read, but she read mine.

Somehow I got past the initial screening, and we set up a meet-n-greet. That went OK. I liked her from the start. I emailed again, and we set up a date.

I won't provide details, but we didn't have sex on that first date. Perhaps that helped - we started out being friends instead of hopping into bed.

We set up a second date, and a third. It was unusual for her to have a third date with the same man. I wondered why she kept dating me. She seemed to have everything going for her, and I didn't seem to be able to provide anything she couldn't get more of from someone else. Except friendship. Both of us needed a friend, and I could definitely provide that. She was certainly a friend to me, and in my hour of need.

As time went by, she kept dating me, in addition to others. But I was one that she kept wanting to see again. We did lots of things together for fun that didn't have anything to do with sex. Anyone could do that, but there was also some kind of chemistry going on. We saw each other a couple of times a week for almost three months. We stayed awake late many evenings talking.

And then I fell for her. I left on a trip and could not stop thinking of her. We talked and emailed every day, but I didn't tell her about my feelings.

Why? Because I was scared to. Because I didn't know if telling her that I was in love with her would scare her off. Because I didn't trust myself at first to believe that it was real.

Why should I not believe myself? For perhaps a good reason - the rebound effect. I was *very* recently separated when I met her. Even though we had known each other 3 months when I started getting these very strong feelings for her, was that enough time? Was I just someone who had been through so much rejection and pain of a long-term marriage ending that I would fall for the first person who showed kindness and attention to me? Time will tell, but my feelings ring true to me.

My brother-in-law admitted that he met my sister ONE DAY after his formal separation. They've now been married over 10 years (and he is her 4th husband - none lasted this long).

I waited a while to try to gauge my own feelings, and I eventually decided that it was only honest to tell her how I felt.

So I told her.

It did not scare her off, but it did concern her. She was not sure if I was serious, and she'd been burned before. We kept dating. I noticed she was going out with less new guys, then none.

Last week, it happened to her. She fell for me too.

It's been a wonderful week.

wildoats19622 54M
3483 posts
5/1/2006 12:49 am


libgemOH has been blogging about love recently. Perhaps you might enjoy reading her.


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qship52 replies on 5/1/2006 6:56 am:
Thanks, I'll check out her blog today.

thencshell 46F

5/1/2006 12:58 am

awesome...what an inspiration for those of us who have been hurt and question how we feel about the new perosn....Good Luck to you....I wish you all the happpiness you deserve....and own that happiness j- only speak of the positive of your relationship and not the so - called questions...if you own it you will have let your heart own these feelings for your lady and be good to her knowing your heart has found happiness....owning your relationship however does not own control of her or you in any way! this just owns a good relationship between the two of you!! hugs ...shelly....

qship52 replies on 5/1/2006 6:57 am:
I'm going to work at maintaining this. Thanks for the thoughts.

rm_PurryKitty2 48M/49F
9753 posts
5/1/2006 7:00 pm

I always say, Love happens when you least expect it. Enjoy it sweetie.

Purry {=}


qship52 replies on 5/2/2006 9:30 am:
Enjoying every minute. Late to work again because of it!

free2chose2 66F

5/4/2006 1:39 pm


Don't worry, be Happy

qship52 replies on 5/4/2006 3:01 pm:

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