Does age matter to you?  

qship52 63M
187 posts
5/17/2006 1:57 pm

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Does age matter to you?

Or more precisely, age difference.

I'm going with a woman 5 years older than me. Makes no difference to me at all, though I've never dated someone that far different from me previously. (She is 58, I am 52).

What's the biggest age difference you would accept? has it changed as you got older?

littlevixen92 43F

5/17/2006 2:08 pm

Good question.. it is more common for guys to go with younger woman..although I think that trend is changing. I have always been with older men. The oldest was about 11 years. I am now with a guy a couple years younger and I have to say I prefer to be with older. They know how to please a woman are more stable in life. Either way.... go with what makes you happy. Thats the most important thing. Not a number or a birth date. good luck.

qship52 replies on 5/17/2006 2:21 pm:
It seems like so many people on AdultFriendFinder are looking for someone younger.

The biggest difference I've noticed that is age-related is that she missed a lot of the 60's/70's and the music of that era. She was married by then and kind of missed out on the free love generation. She likes 'older music' than I do.

Novitas99 40M

5/17/2006 2:09 pm

Age is a state of mind, so it does not matter to me whatsoever. The largest age difference I have experienced was with a woman that was 10 yrs older than me...

...and she was spectacular!!

qship52 replies on 5/17/2006 2:27 pm:
Ah - but was it a long term relationship?

Were you her boy-toy? (smile)

49AK 55M
1823 posts
5/17/2006 2:10 pm

Age sorta matters. I want my partner to feel like a peer. If she doesn't (either too young or too old) I an a little turned off...

qship52 replies on 5/17/2006 2:22 pm:
I know what you mean.

I can't see myself with a much younger woman - not that much in common to talk about. Same with much older. I guess this 5-year difference is fine, but more would be ... suspect.

Nightguy_1961 55M
4866 posts
5/17/2006 2:15 pm

I used to think it didn't matter, but I've found that I prefer ladies around my age...give or take 5 years.

I have observed that, with a lot of the ladies' profiles here, once a person is past older guys are screwed. Not sure why, I must have missed a memo somewhere....

NG61...disappearing into the shadows....

qship52 replies on 5/17/2006 2:24 pm:
I nver bothered to look at profiles for women under about 42, and that seemed too much of an age difference after a while. Maybe 47 was OK for me. But it seemed that women were looking for men 10, even 15 years younger, and sometimes only up to 2-3 years older in a lot of cases.

rm_saintlianna 45F
15466 posts
5/17/2006 2:36 pm

Pffffffft, even when I was 18 I liked them in their 30's. Now that I am in my thirties I like them 40 and up. 5 years is nothing.....

qship52 replies on 5/18/2006 9:42 am:
I'm glad to see that most people don't seem to have an issue with 5 years. It's just a bit new to me.

SexyJayWantsU 50M
1 post
5/17/2006 2:36 pm

There is all that talk about "age is just a number". That's a lot of Horse S**t. I have been with ladies that are 15 to 18 years younger than me. If a woman likes older men - so what! If a woman likes younger men - Great! Just because a 50 year old guy has a 21 year old on his arm doesn't make him a prevert. If you think about it, he must be able to do IT right to keep a 21 year old.

qship52 replies on 5/18/2006 9:43 am:

fun4sher 69F

5/17/2006 2:40 pm

in the past year I have had the pleasure of a 23 year old and a 61 year old and a couple in between, My opinion, if it matters, is up to about 35 the men are after satisfying themselves and although most say that the woman comes first, the woman is usually an object. from 35 to 50 it is about 50/50 over 50 years old the man is definately out to please the woman.
A lot of the younger men are pretty well endowed and make that their main "selling" point. older are fewer well endowed men and the will quite often list themselves as avg/avg. After 58 or so they almost always have trouble keeping it up. So to answer the question. Older is extremly relative and subject to your point of view.

qship52 replies on 5/18/2006 9:45 am:
I know what you mean about differences with men as they age, at least from my perspective. And let me say that I'm glad I'm living in a time where Cialis has been invented!

0nno61 54M
227 posts
5/17/2006 2:46 pm

For my partner in my relationship I like to have the earlier stated age-link. So all my girlfriends and my current wife are within 3 years from myself.

Via AdultFriendFinder I however found a girl:
- 20 years younger
- different country & race
Great experience but we will never ever relate well enough for an actual relation. and this counts for both ....



qship52 replies on 5/18/2006 9:47 am:
I definitely think having little age difference makes it both easier to relate to someone.

rm_hotpockets20 52F

5/17/2006 3:16 pm

I recently had a thing for a man who was 24 years old but I never let him know that I had it bad for him because all I kept thinking was, How would his mother feel if he was to get involved with a woman that was her age. And how would I feel if a woman my age got involved with my son. Many people told me that age is just a number and I should have gone for it but I'm glad that I didn't.

qship52 replies on 5/18/2006 9:48 am:
24 years is a LOT of difference, no matter what age you're at! Hard to see that one working out in the end.

sexyariesgirl 57F

5/17/2006 4:13 pm

My ex husband was 6 years older than me in age....but much more in attitude. Since I was only 18 when we married, it ended up making a HUGE difference!

However, in the past year I have had short-term relationships with men both younger and older than me. I much prefer near the same age or older. I was very much in love with a man 14 years my senior at one point, but circumstances prevented the relationship continuing. The love of my life is nine months younger than me! lol So we have LOTS in common. I really enjoy this relationship in so many ways.

I generally think age differences matter less as we get older, unless one partner is MUCH younger than the other.

Power To FOK

qship52 replies on 5/18/2006 9:49 am:
Totally agree.

I remember back in high school when a 1 year difference was HUGE.

rm_wetfingeraz 54F
3012 posts
5/17/2006 5:41 pm

Yes, it does matter to me, but I couldn't say why. Probably the Doris Day side of me. I prefer men older than myself, but think I might be able to go 3-5 years younger, although I haven't tried yet. I really wish that the profiles didn't show people's ages. It's an immediate bias for me, and I feel like that I'm missing a lot because of it.

qship52 replies on 5/18/2006 9:50 am:
You seem to be the exception here. I've seen a lot of profiles and comments that lead me to think almost everyone here wants someone younger.

(And then there is the occasional woman's profile where she is just looking for a Mrs. Robinson experience with a much younger stud.)

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