Disturbing trend  

pussy_eater73 43M
64 posts
2/21/2006 1:34 pm

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Disturbing trend


Lately, something's been happening on my dates from AdultFriendFinder. I contact a girl from the site, we exchange emails and chat with messenger and talk on the phone. Everything goes very well. Once she's comfortable, we meet. Good so far, right? Well, the problem is, I'm a gentleman and, apparently, a nice guy. More times than not lately, the dates have ended with no sex. NO SEX! (Unless you count the sex I have with myself when I get back home.) Sure, there's some making out and I usually end up getting all hot and bothered, but I've been going home with a hard on. I've thought about this and I think I know why.

It's like I said, I'm a gentleman. Even a bit old-fashioned. Sure, I love sex and that's why I'm on here, but I'm not the type of guy who can insist on it after just meeting a girl. Once we talk after our initial contact, my true personality comes out and girls see that I'm just a nice, easy-going, goofy guy. I think that ruins it for me. Instead of viewing our meeting as a "sex date", they instead see it as a "real date." That's not a bad thing, really. I mean, I like going on dates and I don't have to have sex to have a good time. In fact, I never assume that that's going to happen. I'm not a pushy guy. It's nice when it does happen and I always hope that it will, but it doesn't ruin the date if it doesn't.

After we've talked for a while, I'm just not comfortable asking a girl to meet me at a hotel. Now, some girls are bold enough to suggest it and that's great. I'm all for it. I just don't feel right asking a girl to do it unless we haven't really talked and we both know what it's all about.

Like I said, I'm all for dating, but I thought it would be easier on this site to just "hook up" without the regular dating rituals. I figured that's why everyone was on here. Guess I'm wrong. Now, I'm glad for the women who feel like they can just go out with me and not be pressured to have sex. I'm sure that makes them feel comfortable. Or, maybe they do want to have sex, but they think I'm too nice of a guy to do that on the first date. (Here's a hint...I'm not that nice!) But, it would be nice if some of the women were more aggressive. I'm not really shy, I just don't want to make a girl feel like whore. So, please, for my sake, I'm asking that the women I meet from here in the future, if we go out, just jump on top of me and get the sex out the way first thing. Then, we can enjoy a nice, "regular date."

rm_goddess1946 105F
13518 posts
2/21/2006 2:46 pm

Going into the meeting with expectations will set you up
for a fall every time... Better to underpromise and overdeliver
and under expect and be pleasantly surprised if there IS a
connection. Every meeting is special in and of itself...and yet
once one begins *expecting*, it seems to affect the energy of
connection.... at least it does for most women, I will tell you
that! Liberated and enlightened, perhaps..and that makes them
even more aware of the fact that they are in choice every moment.
All in it's perfect time, beautiful one.... {=}

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...
{=}


rm_goddess1946 105F
13518 posts
2/21/2006 2:48 pm

and..................how CLEAR are you with your intentions
before you meet???

If sex is all you are interested in then be clear with that..
and then be prepared for that dance.... you know, it is a dance

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...
{=}


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