How To Say No  

purejoy4fem 46F/44F
860 posts
4/25/2005 4:47 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

How To Say No

I really need help with this one guys, how do you say no to someone you are not interested in? This guy e-mails daily (yes I have already blocked him, but he gets new yahoo or hotmail addresses and e-mails again) I've tried being nice, being a bitch, but nothing seems to work.

Any ideas?

JoLeeS 40F

4/27/2005 3:40 pm

Was not sure where to post... Just wanted to thank ya for bein the first on my blog! And about that guy... Not sure what ya can do about that... Sounds like a bad situation all together...

purejoy4fem 46F/44F
682 posts
4/27/2005 4:36 pm

You're welcome JoLeeS, never too busy to pop a cherry

titsrus2 52F
331 posts
4/27/2005 4:40 pm

that's a tuff one...some idiots just don't get it. i think you no longer have to be polite...just tell him NEITHER of us is interested in seeing you, chatting with you, e-mailing you, meeting you or fucking you. good luck and DON'T send me another e-mail.

and then, get your ass down to miami so i can give you girls a tour of the tropics.

purejoy4fem 46F/44F
682 posts
4/27/2005 5:13 pm

We'd like to take you round-the-world

PerthPete 50M
124 posts
4/28/2005 7:47 am

This guy needs to get a life. He is being completely rude. No means No!. Unfortunately that does not solve your problem.
Perhaps you can contact AdultFriendFinder, to see if they can remove his profile or similar. Oh, another thought, maybe ignoring him, and any attempts that he makes to contact you. Whilst that does not stop him from contacting you maybe if he gets nothing from you, he may eventually give up hope.
Good Luck!

ExcitedSenses 38M

4/28/2005 9:19 am

It is best to be honest and clear first and not to ignore people. If you tell most of them the truth you will not hurt their feelings. You shouldn't worry about hurting anyone's feelings this is just an online site which isn't even close to being reality. Don't waste anyone's time by not responding and making them think they still have a chance. If you have responded on more than one occasion, and the other person hasn't done anything to make you feel like talking to them, *then* you should just ignore them.

titsrus2 52F
331 posts
4/28/2005 8:35 pm

yeah, excited, but as a girl who also has "no men" on her profile....sending a polite no thanks and good luck NEVER works. sometimes iggy is the best thing you can do for an undesireable e-mail.

rm_curiousmnguy 36M
1 post
4/29/2005 11:13 pm

You could also contact the local law enforcement agency. Some jurisidictions are well trained and up to speed on cyber-crimes. I bet you are saying "crime" this is not really a crime. Well yes it is, depending on your location, any communication that is meant to harass, harm, annoy, or bother another is a crime. Some jurisdictions will look into it, and can even bring criminal charges against the other person. For that to happen it would be a good idea to get an OFP/RO/NCO (if you have enough info on the other person to do so). Otherwise you could contact the other person's ISP if you know it. Almost, if not all, ISPs have a TOS (terms of service) that the person agrees to when they sign up. These TOS often include harassment or violations of the law as reasons for disconect if, not legal action. I hope this has helped some. If you have more questions get ahold of me.

purejoy4fem 46F/44F
682 posts
4/30/2005 11:34 am

Curious, I understand what he is doing is wrong, but to me it's not a crime if nobody gets hurt. We may be annoyed, but far from hurt, but thanks, your advice may well help another reader

illuminati_604 45M

5/1/2005 6:14 pm

IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE!!! Contact AdultFriendFinder immediately. Do not give this person the attention they want, this is exactly what they live off of, despite your repeated attemps at refutation. Whatever you receive from them, throw it out, don't waste your time on them... instead, take that time to go down on your partner! Mmm mmm!

4 posts
6/15/2005 9:32 pm

I like the idea of contact the cops or AdultFriendFinder, but here is another idea---Agree to meet with him, then send him a cross dresser or transvestite, maybe that'll teach him

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