Why do men oogle over women?  

puntachueca 105M
2534 posts
8/7/2006 1:41 pm

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Why do men oogle over women?

angelofmercy5 ponders this question.
ShayeDKresponds with the suggestion it is the same as why dogs lick their balls..because we can.

Here’s my take on it.

We men are not descended from apes. We’re descended from rodents who feel real insecure if we don’t have something extra squirreled away.

Being confronted about oogling, I spent a little time pondering the why and what of it in my case.

First, what prompts an oogle. The picture next to this post is a good example. I like highly revealed legs.

Now how and why I ended up with this is still kind of a mystery. Why do some men focus on boobs, others on butts, and others on legs I don’t have a clue.

I also notice women who smile and laugh a lot and swing their hair and talk with expansive arm and hand gestures.

And yes, I’ll spot a set of erect nipples or a thong panty line.

One theory I’ve been noodling is I tend to spot what I don’t actually experience...or want to experience.

The point is made an oogler can be with a beautiful woman, and still drool over something else. I think that simply suggests there might be something missing inside that relationship.

Another trigger is something that reminds me of a past experience or missed opportunity. She reminds me of that cheerleader I had a crush on 39 years ago…that kind of thing...She reminds me of that lady in the red dress I met at the party who blew my brains out later that night and I never saw her again and wished I had...

What is also interesting is those women who set out to be oogled...exercising a primal power over men. My experience there is that’s all they want to do, and to assume the show is an invitation is to get smacked down real fast.

Do you oogle? Why?

Do you hate it when your guy oogles another woman?

Do you like to be oogled? What do you do to precipitate this?

Do you think us guys that oogle are swine?

The cowboys suggested the best way to get out of a depression is either go on a horseback ride, or start thinking about sex...

amoldenough 70F
16436 posts
8/7/2006 2:45 pm

I think ogling is perfectly natural for women as well as men. We may not be as obvious about it, but we look at a nice face, or a good pair of shoulders or arms. We like a cute butt in tight jeans, and yes, we even check out you guys' package!!! O mercy!!! I would like to be oggled occasionally, but I don't do anything to bring it about. I don't mind if the man I'm with looks at another woman, as long as it's not all night long. And no, I don't think that men who ogle are swine. They are just being men. Why shouldn't we appreciate the sight of a member of the opposite sex.

"Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened."

puntachueca replies on 8/7/2006 4:16 pm:
I always thought we're made to react to things about the opposite sex---both sides--otherwise we'd spend most of our time and energy playing cards, reading, building cars....

I agree...when it is obviously intended toi hurt not good. Had a lady friend who always made it clear she liked guys with tight asses, tight tee shirts over washboard stomachs, Latin men of all sizes, young guys with beards, whenever we were out...

Sometimes I enjoy watching from the perspective of all the costumes and the effort it takes for some of the displays. Jewlry really fascinates me for some reason.

iluvjbsinaz 55M

8/7/2006 4:12 pm

Biology, baby, nothing but biology.

puntachueca replies on 8/7/2006 7:35 pm:
I wonder when this evolutionary trait started....cave woman in short skin?

demonicsexkitten 41F
10672 posts
8/7/2006 5:46 pm

i don't oogle often. but on occassion, sure. As for guys oogling? so long as it's not too blatant, and so long as they're not vocal about it.

when you can tell they're looking... it's nice and uncomfortable at the same time. will always remember going to the bank, and the guy behind me kept staring. i tried ignoring it at first... then got uncomfortable... then tried looking back without looking to see if he really WAS looking. I had been cleaning all day... tight comfy holey jeans, tshirt, hair a mess, sweaty, probably a bit covered in dust... and when i left, i asked my friend who had waited by the door... who informed me there were 5 men that he noticed staring at me in the bank. (he would have been a 6th but was too busy keeping an eye on the other guys).

puntachueca replies on 8/7/2006 7:36 pm:
I think there are times when someone is so amazing...covered with cement dust, whatever, that they just sprak something....then again, they could have been would-be bank robbers worried who the heck you were...

demonicsexkitten 41F
10672 posts
8/7/2006 5:51 pm

i don't think guys that oogle are swine. swine is when said guy has a great woman beside him and whistles at a passing woman.

if the oogler is vocal about it or overly blatant.. then they're idiots. though sometimes that's forgiveable

and why IS it that men always seem to notice us at our worst? re: former post. i was also hit on by a guy once walking in my winter wear (add 50 lbs) and a crocheted scarf over my head. i felt the least attractive i could have been. and yet a guy stopped working in his yard to watch me walk down the sidewalk, told me i was hot, and asked if i had a b/f (i did, else he said he was going to ask me on a date).

puntachueca replies on 8/7/2006 7:37 pm:
Don't know...see previous response.

catkit13 66F

8/7/2006 9:08 pm

if you don't oogle, you might as well be dead
then again, drooling in public isn't polite

puntachueca replies on 8/8/2006 4:25 am:
Drooling is best left for the nursing home.

RevJoseyWales 69M/66F
14393 posts
8/9/2006 8:21 pm

Oogle? Nah, that would be impolite. My momma raised me better. But I DO like to look.

Hell, Carol points chick to me.

Oh yeah, like I get fucking oogled.

We are aren't we? Joe

"McVeigh had the right idea, wrong address."

"This ain't Dodge City, and you ain't Bill Hickok."

puntachueca replies on 8/10/2006 6:34 am:
look but don't touch was the rule I was brought up with.

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