What's the one thing you'd want to change in the person you love?  

puntachueca 105M
2534 posts
7/7/2006 2:10 am

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What's the one thing you'd want to change in the person you love?

While we love other people..it seems like there's always something we'd like them to change.

What's the one thing about the person you love (or are interested in) that's you'd like them to change?

rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
7/7/2006 2:56 am

sometimes i wish my husband was a little neater, but i've given up on trying to change that ... it just makes me bad tempered...

[blog freelove999]

puntachueca replies on 7/7/2006 5:57 pm:
peace and harmony comes from recognbizing people are the way they are, and it is a lot less stressful to just accept 'em as they are. Lord knows they got lists too.

catkit13 66F

7/7/2006 7:05 am

it would be nice if he allowed himself to be happy

puntachueca replies on 7/7/2006 5:58 pm:
One cannot be happy until one learns to like themselves, and we all get massive doses of self loathing all our lives.

demonicsexkitten 41F
10671 posts
7/7/2006 11:02 am

*sigh* religion

being as he's anti-organized religion, there's probably very little chance of that ever happening.

puntachueca replies on 7/7/2006 6:00 pm:
considering all the mischief done to humanity in the name of various organized religions of all types for the last 2000 years, cut him some slack.

BaronessK 52F

7/7/2006 1:06 pm

I would like for him to see himself through my eyes, the way{s} that I see him -- he wouldn't have any doubt that there is at least one person in this world that loves him beyond it, because of and in spite of....

He could have some of my confidence and self-assurance; hell, I've got PLENTY to spare and share!

puntachueca replies on 7/7/2006 6:01 pm:
It strikes me that most people see themselves rather negatively. That's a beautiful thought to have him see himself as you see him.

PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
7/7/2006 2:26 pm

Absolutely nothing

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma

puntachueca replies on 7/7/2006 6:02 pm:
You probably have a relatively strees and anger free life...yes?

rm_fitnable1967 49M

7/7/2006 4:31 pm

To love me to!!!

puntachueca replies on 7/7/2006 6:03 pm:

runzwithknives 59F

7/7/2006 5:30 pm

Not a thing.

puntachueca replies on 7/7/2006 6:03 pm:
You will live a long and happy life as a result.

PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
7/8/2006 10:45 am

puntachueca replies on 7/7/2006 8:02 pm:
You probably have a relatively strees and anger free life...yes?

Well, I don't live with Dear Heart yet (heheh)... and if he can accept me as I am (fat, needy, earning very little for the job I'm doing, 2500 miles away and so on, so forth...), why should I be unable to accept him as he is, too?

I have told him that loving him as he is doesn't mean I don't want him to grow and improve, but that's ultimately his choice and to his benefit and not mine. I am responsible for my own growth as a person; if I have help, or can help someone on the way to theirs, all the better.

Most of the stress in my life comes from work these days...

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma

puntachueca replies on 7/9/2006 5:47 am:
that's the only way..change has to be internally (not externally) drive for one's own betterment...all we can do is leave crumb trails.

demonicsexkitten 41F
10671 posts
7/8/2006 3:59 pm

my problem isn't his religion so much as that i love mine. but... being muslim, i'm not supposed to marry a non muslim. it would be religiously invalid marriage if i did. as for his beliefs... most of my friends are pagan. i'd say about 2/3 pagan (wiccan, etc), 1/3 muslim. with a sprinkling of buddhist, atheist, catholic, christian, hindu, jewish, agnostic thrown in. i tend to get along very well with the hindu friends too.

puntachueca replies on 7/9/2006 5:48 am:
If religion gets in the way of love, I vote for getting rid of the religion.

lovemetouchme5 51F
2102 posts
7/9/2006 12:45 am

I know this sounds a little strange, but the one thing I would like to change about the person I love is his marital status.

puntachueca replies on 7/9/2006 5:50 am:
hmmmm...the only maried person I was ever involved with was legally separated and in a really nasty divorce which took way too long to resolve, and her anger was so overpowering we never really got it together because all she wanted to do is rant about her ex.

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