Have you had to start over?  

puntachueca 105M
2534 posts
6/27/2006 6:56 pm

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Have you had to start over?


One of the things I did not expect at this point in my life was starting over virtually from scratch.

I'm renovating a house...which will be my house and not anyone else's house. Twice in the last decade I ended up basically homeless...I'm renting right now and I hate it. Soon I will have my own house.

Spent the last week at Home Depot stocking up on tools and stuff. My ex kept all my tools and stuff. Why I bought 2 ladders I don't know. Must be a hording thing.

I am certain I will not have the job I now have by the end of the year. New political regime coming in...and I'm on the firing line. I really hate politicians.

I could go back to what I was doing 10 years ago...but I really disliked that career. Too many games and bullshit.

I decided I like the part of the world I live in, and am going to stay...even if I end up as a dishwasher to survive.

I'm fairly burnt out on relationships still. Yes, I would like to finish off this life with the most wonderful woman in the world. But with 791 criteria so far...and the only interesting women I'm meeting are in blogville and all are way far away...I'm seeing myself surrounded by plants and animals and birds and waterfalls...receeding into the sunset as a kind of curmudgeon wizard sort living in my adobe micro hacienda with chickens and maybe a pig. Milagro Beanfield War lifestyle.

Starting over gets harder and harder the older you get.

Have you had to start over? How did you do it?

Hydragenias 56F

6/27/2006 7:15 pm

OMG! I've had to start over more times than I care to count and certainly more times than I care to admit!
My sister once said to me, "if I were you, I would have commited suicide a long time ago"
She didn't mean anything bad by that, it was actually a sort of compliment meaning she saw me as a much stronger person than what she sees herself as being.
I did it out of necessity. I did it any way I could. I did it any way I HAD to! I had two children to take care of!

I'm really hoping I never have to do it again. My life is FINALLY becoming what most would consider "stable"! LOL

Whenever those "situations" arose in my life, I always reminded myself of the story of Job in the Bible.


puntachueca replies on 6/27/2006 9:09 pm:
You seem to be doing pretty good.

Now...that Job thing...got to admit my Bible knowledge is pretty limitied.

catkit13 66F

6/27/2006 7:47 pm

don't think of it as starting over again - look at it as an opportunity to reinvent, or fine-tune, or something else on the up-side . . . or if it is starting over, it's with all this great accumulated info and wisdom, right? and you don't have to reinvent the wheel for every little thing
just call me pollyanna
and HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!


puntachueca replies on 6/27/2006 9:10 pm:
I think the starting over capacity is something that when it runs out, you die. So I'm working real hard to rekindle it.

rm_kalanchoe88 54F

6/27/2006 7:54 pm

Jumped in. Burned my bridges. Have to keep going. No alternative.
Kala


puntachueca replies on 6/27/2006 9:11 pm:
I have a friend who burns bridges before he crosses them.

What I find is stuff just sort of comes barging in.

Hydragenias 56F

6/27/2006 9:36 pm

Job, was a righteous man and no fault could be found in him. But one day, Satan appeared before God, who was seated on his throne. Satan said that he had been walking up and down the earth. God replied with a question. God asked Satan if he had observed his servant Job. Job, God said, was a perfect and upright man, one who feared God and hated evil. In the whole world there was no one as perfect and righteous or as good as Job.
To God, Satan gave a challenge. Satan accused that Job would not be faithful if he was allowed to test Job. Satan said that if he was allowed to test Job that Job would sin. So Satan asked God for permission to put Job to a test. God granted Satan permission and told Satan to do what he desired, but not to take Job's life. Happily Satan agreed and left to attack the good man, Job.”
Satan believed that he could make Job sin, but God knew that although Job was a rich man, that Job was also a godly man and that Job would never sin against God.”
In one morning Satan sent thieves to steal Job's cattle. He sent the Sabeans to steal Job's cattle, 500 pairs of oxen and 500 donkeys, and kill the servants guarding them. Next fire fell from heaven and burned up his 7,000 sheep and the servants with them. As if that wasn't enough, more thieves, the Chaldeans, stole Job's 3,000 camels and killed his servants guarding them.”
No sooner did Job hear of these attacks than another servant ran up to Job and told Job that while all his sons and daughters were in a house, a great wind rose up and hit the four corners of the house and caused the house to crumble. All of Job's children were killed.”
Job tore his clothes, in mourning, shaved his head, and declared, "Blessed be the name of the Lord!”
Satan struck Job with a disease and his whole body was covered with big sores that tormented Job. Then to add insult to Job's misery, Job's wife advised Job to just curse God and die!. Even Job's close friends accused Job of having sinned and bringing this judgment upon him. No one defended or pitied Job.”
Job never sinned. Job faithfully endured this great trial. Job had done nothing to deserve these attacks upon his family and himself except to live a holy and good life.
In the end, Job received many blessings from God. The Bible says that God gave Job two times as much as he had before. He now had 14,000 sheep, 6,000 camels, 1,000 pairs of oxen and 1,000 donkeys.”
Job lived 140 years after this trial and had seven sons and three daughters who were the most beautiful in all the land.” Because Job was a righteous man, Satan and his evil forces attacked him. But because Job refused to sin, God blessed Job far beyond his wildest expectations.”

REMEMBER!

Sometimes it may seem that everything is going wrong in your life and that maybe God has quit caring for you. But remember the story of Job and remember that God always cares and will always help you through your problems if you remain faithful to God and sin not.


puntachueca replies on 6/28/2006 3:24 am:
Profuse thanks!!!!

Compared to Job, my problems are meaningless.

I very much believe there's a constant battle going on between Good and Evil. Seen the Devil and been saved by an Angel.

I hope you post that in your blog....great message.

demonicsexkitten 41F
10672 posts
6/27/2006 10:05 pm

thankfully... i've never had to do so. i usually take great care (maybe TOO great) to keep from having to. including putting up with stuff i shouldn't. my current job, like my first ever job, is starting to make me ill at the mere thought of going. i never know when i'm going to be in trouble. Some are saying the asst. mgr is power-crazy (which was my problem with my first job. Mgr was power crazy and felt threatened by me). i'm not a threat at this one, but perhaps i have stepped on her toes due to having absolutely no respect for her. (brown-noser in all caps!! enough that most brown-nosers would probably be sickened by it). i'm ... in a bit of a race now. "Get myself a better new job before I get myself fired" and "hold out till July 15th... then I get 2 weeks paid vacation".

I'm hoping to get a 2nd job, better quality all around, and keep working the other till August or September. Been interviewing left and right. Gotta work on the confidence issue though. And it would be nice if it wasn't so hot.


puntachueca replies on 6/28/2006 3:30 am:
Besides the usual human jealousy and crap, when you add a dish of politics things really get nasty. It doesn't matter whether or not you are doing a good job..they get elected by promising "change" which means their cronies get the jobs and you're out. It's been a good "ride" as political jobs are called...I got a $60 million grant for the city...so I'm reasonably confident there's something useful and purposeful to do out there.

What I also don't like is abusive management. I've learned an empowering style of management...nurture people so their lights can shine. Most managers put people down, ignore them, create confusion, and make work hell. I figured a big part of everyone's life is tied up in work, so why not make it positive and something to look forward to every day. I've got a wonderful nuch of people I work with.

puntachueca replies on 6/28/2006 3:37 am:
Besides the usual human jealousy and crap, when you add a dish of politics things really get nasty. It doesn't matter whether or not you are doing a good job..they get elected by promising "change" which means their cronies get the jobs and you're out. It's been a good "ride" as political jobs are called...I got a $60 million grant for the city...so I'm reasonably confident there's something useful and purposeful to do out there.

What I also don't like is abusive management. I've learned an empowering style of management...nurture people so their lights can shine. Most managers put people down, ignore them, create confusion, and make work hell. I figured a big part of everyone's life is tied up in work, so why not make it positive and something to look forward to every day. I've got a wonderful bunch of people I work with.

LustyTaurus 48M  
21253 posts
6/27/2006 10:35 pm

Although I respect the point of the story of Job...I have issue with God for putting him through all of it just tomprove a point. Seems sort of an unnecessary exercise! I digress...I've had to start over for all intents and purposes twice so far at 38 years old. Once after divorce and once after a failed business. I have no advice for you...I couldn't imagine doing it all again at age 59. If you were closer, I'd be happy to lend you some tools or my strong back and weak mind for a bit...


puntachueca replies on 6/28/2006 3:34 am:
Thanks for the offer. It is times like this when you really see who your friends are. A bunch of the guys who work for me have been showing up at my house helping out in the renovation...the mini excavator just showed up one day. Strong backs and willing hands are all anyone needs mnost of the time.

I didn't like that part of about killing Job's kids. Losing a kid is one of the most awful things that can happen to someone.

Crashed a business once, too. DFopn't really have a lot of attachment to stuff any more. It comes, it goes. All you really have is your friends.

puntachueca replies on 6/28/2006 3:38 am:
Thanks for the offer. It is times like this when you really see who your friends are. A bunch of the guys who work for me have been showing up at my house helping out in the renovation...the mini excavator just showed up one day. Strong backs and willing hands are all anyone needs most of the time.

I didn't like that part of about killing Job's kids. Losing a kid is one of the most awful things that can happen to someone.

Crashed a business once, too. Don't really have a lot of attachment to stuff any more. It comes, it goes. All you really have is your friends

demonicsexkitten 41F
10672 posts
6/28/2006 10:25 am

Now... a great book to read is "Job: A Comedy". Take a modern day "Job" character... that is suddenly whisked to a new time... no warning. So he may end up on the side of a freeway 20 years in the future buck-naked, or back in Roman days with a bathrobe and $20 US. It's all the trials, tribulations, illness, craziness you can imagine... then in the end... the entire good/evil and craziness of life in general, and his especially, was a jealous sibling rivalry between Jesus and Satan. Quite amusing to read. Though i'm sure many would say sacriligeous. Of course, the angrier the masses are at a book, the more interesting it is to read.

I have an autographed copy of The Satanic Verses. Just think how many ppl i could make mad over that. lol.

i'm posting a song on my blog (heard it on the radio on the way home) just for you. Well: and all the rest of us going through hell at the moment. Hope you've nothing against country music


puntachueca replies on 6/28/2006 5:31 pm:
I love country music.

BaronessK 52F

7/3/2006 1:32 am

Every day I have woken up, hun...every day.... {Because of and in spite of....}


puntachueca replies on 7/3/2006 7:26 am:
know the feeling...going with thre flow as it were...we never really do know what each day brings. In my job I quit planning what I was going to do for the day because it never would happen anyway, and suddenly work got very stress free...I just show up and wait to see what happens.

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