Obligatory AFF Commentary (with a twist)  

pseudohippie 49F
219 posts
8/26/2005 5:55 pm

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Obligatory AFF Commentary (with a twist)

Years ago, I went on a dating site. Not "The World's Largest Sex and Swingers Personals site," but a "I Want to Have A Romantic Relationship, Of What Kind To Be Determined Later, Probably A Dating Kinda Thing" site.

I'm an analyst. I'm a thinker, a designer, a cover-all-bases type. I problem-solve, even in the romantic realm. lol And I liked this site, cause you had multiple choice lifestyle/stats questions, PLUS 23 essays of which you could answer some, all or none. Loads of data! And the search tool was exquisite, the membership free for two weeks (three if you uploaded pictures, which of course, I did).

So anyway, I applied my research/analysis skills and then came up with good screening tools to get the best benefit from the site in the free time allowed.

It was all email...no chat option. But that search tool...ahhh...I could even find Deadheads with it! A joy.

So I'd start by gathering data and researching my man-universe, eliminating because of this logistical issue or that one...until my pool was manageable and had the best potentional.

Then I wrote to them, ensuring my messages showed I related to their profile, that my interest showed I took the time to understand as much as they gave me, that I READ the damn thing! Then I put some witty mishmash crapola in there, and a good jigger of barely suggestive flirtatious sexuality. NOT TOO MUCH. But some.

Didn't take long for chemistry and a like-minded person to surface...

I was successful. I had two year-long bf/gf relationships from that site. I'd say it was a good experience and I did a good job managing in a short period of time, getting my needs met, and making two men happy, at least for awhile.

(Okay, this is weird...I set out to blog a COMPLETELY different topic, and now I find I've rambled to death and I'm gonna switch midstream and make a completely different observation that ends this long ramble. Hmmm. Well, maybe I'll do the first idea tomorrow, check me out if you want, but don't expect me to actually do it when I say I will. I'm goin' on an overnight vacation! Woohoo!)

Ahem. Let me get back on track.

So anyway, this was a date site. It wasn't a sex site. It wasn't a swingers site. You could't put up penis or breast or barely-clothed pictures, or be blantantly provocative (or downright obscene) with your writings. Different goals, different rules...I guess...

But...

Guess what I've noticed during my quarter-long sabbatical here? You gotta do the same work, the same research, the same investment of time and effort, the same flirty banter...that you use on a dating site...that you use in REAL life...

...if you want to be successful and get your goals met (whatever they actually might be, sexual, romantic, friend with benefits, some kind of kink, group sex, eh, you guys know all of them ).


rm_tiny_tim 41M

8/26/2005 7:24 pm

pseudohippie - you got it right girl. What is true in life is true in "virtual life" - you get out of it what you put into it....


nietchze 43M

8/27/2005 12:02 am

UMMmmm....my goal is world domination. First, by slowly convincing like-minded people (like the ones found here) of my awesome ability to kick ass, I hope to build myself a small and loyal army of followers. Second we get together and plan afore-mentioned world domination, lead by my also previously mentioned super-hero ability to kick ass and rock harder than Motley Crue with an uncut 8 ball. However, this task is going to take some more convincing I believe, as all the training missions thus far have quickly degenerated into drunken orgies. My dedication however, is undaunted.


pseudohippie 49F

8/27/2005 4:45 am

Nietchze...too bad Mephisto and I have already developed a full and integrated plan to easily take over the universe in 2015.

If you'd like to sign up as a minion, see me later.


MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
8/27/2005 6:28 am

*ahem* Son, how many times do I have to tell you, you are but one of MY minions and that world domination shall be mine? Do remember your place. You can be replaced with another cyberson, you know. World domination shall be MINE, not yours. You shall get a nice, middle management, do nothing job. Got it?

Now, pseudo, even in a bar, you have to chit-chat and flirt and convince the drunken cute chick you really want to be in her pants, that she's not just the hole of the night. Which is why it amazes me when all these guys come into the chat rooms saying things that would get a drink dumped over their heads and a visit from Mr. Bouncer.

It doesn't matter what you want. You have to flirt. You have to chat. You have to make that person feel special, even if it's only to take care of a special need.


rm_TallPAGuy73 43M

8/28/2005 12:47 am

World domination? Ah, if only I was that ambitious. As it stands now, the only way I'm dominating the world is when I play Risk. Then again, there's always the AdultFriendFinder world...yeah right. Who am I kidding?


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