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problklover 53M/F
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8/21/2005 8:26 pm

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I have to laugh in that i keep finding those who have their ex partners living with them The latest was a woman who had broken up with the boyfreind , only to tell Me that she is thinking of getting back with him ( something that I suspected from the beginning). Perhaps I am being a bit stubborn or old fashion, but how can someone start a relationship with someone if they are STILL living with (they were initmate once or two after the break up). It makes at least in My book for some interesting issues and problems. I am not interested in making anyone look bad, but I would like to know if I am being to strict in that your ex needs to be out of the picture before I step in. I dare not be freinds since there may be the temptation of her and I being sexual (and I would like that a LOT.....LO What would you do if you were in My shoes? What would you think?


problklover 53M/F

8/23/2005 3:50 am

Oh I certainly agree wtih you on that. The issue is one of common sense and careful thinking. While she was there with him, I had to think clearly and realise that this could (and did happen). What and Where I am also coming from is a case of not wanted to "stir the coals" as well as "rubbing My face" in it so to speak. It is not a nice position for the "outsider" Me to be in. Had they been apart longer, had we spent more time talking, perhaps I would feel comfortable in that area. Not sure, but I get the feeling off: "Hey, I got her back and you lose" and I never really had a real chance to get to know her. It comes across more from her as a "game" of Let Me get him jealous ( old boyfrined) and He will come back. In either case Being the outside is not a good or comfortable place to be. I think it is wiser to leave them be to let them sort things out than be in the middle where what I could say be mis-read or twisted about by one or both. Any one else care to share their thoughts? Personally, I could go without the drama.


problklover 53M/F

8/23/2005 4:06 am

Hmmm somehow I managed to lose the person's comment that I was responding to. Here is what I believe what was being said by her:

I totally understand your concerns and think anyone in your position would feel the same way. As for continuing a friendship...whats wrong with it? temptation to be with others will always be there, but you just gotta keep it under control! lol


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