been away too at times is most intersting.....  

problklover 53M/F
46 posts
8/9/2005 11:16 pm

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been away too at times is most intersting.....

I have really fallen behind on My blogs. the last few weeks have been crazy with work and life. I hope everyone is doing well and smiling.

Here is an interesting question: What do you do if someone that you know seems to suddenly want to be more than freinds again? How do you deal with the past issues and move beyond? I have a male freind who asked My advice and I told him what I thought, but want to see what everyone else thinks. Here is brief outline.

He likes this girl and would like more. He did just about anything for her.

She did not really show any interest in him and was out chasing and dating other guys. He was someone she would turn to if she needed something, help, support, shoulder to cry on, etc.

He finally decided to move on and start dating. Still her freind, but does not drop everything for her any more.

she is now wanting His attention and is pushing for more.

What would you tell him? what would you say to her?

teddiesbear2 53F
3 posts
8/10/2005 11:47 am

I would tell him to talk to her if they are such good friends. If he doesn't it could end up causing both of them their friendship and that's not an easy thing to do. Aquaintances come and go but friends, true friends, are hard to come by. I say this with certainty as it has happened to me. And I lost someone that was very near and dear to me. I still love him but we will never be the same. Too much has been done and not enough words were spoken. Now it's too late and I'm left with a huge hole in my heart that he used to fill with happiness,love, and laughter.

problklover 53M/F

8/10/2005 11:28 pm

hmmm I am not sure what to say to everyone comments. I have let him see them and I think he agrees. As for the hole in your heart.....hmmm that is a tough one. I guess if there is a reason why , then you should perhaps contact that person directly. a phone call, email, something. but I think that if not enough words were spoken, then there is a simple solution....say them. As long as you mean it, I would at least like to think that he would listen.

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