Anyone care to share a thought on this  

problklover 53M/F
46 posts
7/17/2005 8:27 pm

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Anyone care to share a thought on this

I have not posted in a while. I thought I was doing well in that I was developing friendships with the chance of something more. Saddly, the old divorce thing came up to rear it ugly head.
When I got My divorce, I hurt a lot of women in an effort to reclaim my manhood. I did not realize then what I do now. My ex wife all but destroyed My belief in My manhood. She had an affair and I found out about it. What made it hurt even more was that I even suggested everything from swinging to consuling to you name it.
I had met a female on here ( same old story ) who was going through a divorce. We went out a bit and share good and bad times together. All the while the ex treated her like crap and kept her children away. She finally pulled away from me because she is starting to hate all men. for several weekends ( about 5 ), I would call and leave msgs and not hear from her till that Sunday or Monday.
I lost a freind and so much more. I have told her the last time we spoke that I will give her her space and will no longer just call to speak to answering machine or that I will im her and be ignored. When she was sick I was there. when she needed Me, I was there. I told her that if she needs Me, I will be there, but she needs to start reaching out to Me, not just the other way around. Does that make sense?
This is a great site to meet and have a wild time, but at the same time, it is a great site to meet someone that you both perhaps share a common interest in . I I guess I am just rambling....the words of an old man who Is understand "The 5 love Languages" and hopes to find someone who also understands them as well.

redmustang91 57M  
8598 posts
7/18/2005 12:07 am

She is hurt, involved with someone else or just not that into you. Find a new love and move on with life. She has.

yagottalikit 49F
583 posts
7/18/2005 12:56 am

Unfortunately, you may have lost that friend, not much you could have done to change the outcome. Developing ANY type of relationship is difficult when the wounds are so fresh! Don't give up on your ideals.....I think you have a wonderful view of this site!

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it

randy54156 58M
5 posts
7/18/2005 2:10 am

NO, You can't always be the agressor in the situation. There comes a time in your life that you have to just stop. As much as it may hurt you because of your children. You'll have to wait.
The kids also need their space, and they'll come to realize who was really telling the truth. That phone call will come. NOT Today; NOT Tomorrow. But it will ring. (You do have an answering machine?)

volcanoinu23 52M

7/18/2005 7:01 am

I would agree that there are outstanding people on this site and I have had the favors of several. I would caution you to not try to grab onto to much for a while yet. Dable if you will, but let some distance come between you and your previous relationship. That might also be the same message I would convey regarding any new ones that you form. For a while, it might behoove you to be a little shallow...don't discuss previous relationships/current drama. Enjoy each other in the here & now. If that is not easy to do, perhaps you even need to go back a step further.

rm_mieze626 52F
145 posts
7/18/2005 7:41 am

wow, i'm always in shock to hear that a woman is taking the manhood away. what is it with those women?? did they never heard about the 50/50 thing? u give each othe?? i wish to have a man that i can cherish and cater, a good man who will also cherish and cater all those women out there: stop fuckin' with your man's mind and stop using innocent children as a weapon...

problklover 53M/F

7/18/2005 6:47 pm

Thank you all for your words. It is good to see that there are those that share some idea of something more than just carefree sex....but right now I can use BOTH the carefree sex as well as a hug...LOL. I think I have an idea for a new line of posting....

teddiesbear2 53F
3 posts
8/10/2005 11:59 am

Youn always sound so positive but perhaps you too, can be wrong? Always wanting things done your way. Your time. You plans. If you were in her shoes, what would you have done? Have you not pushed away someone you cared about because of their past or something that you didn't like? Same thing. How did it feel to you when it happened to you? Like SHIT!!!! Well, that's what it felt like to her, I would imagine. Maybe she's hurting a lot and just doesn't know how to handle everything. Maybe try contacting her and ask her if she would like to go for a coffee or a picnic or something different from the same old same old. Just a suggestion.

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