Porn...Porn...Porn...PORN  

pretty_blue_eyes 38F
3045 posts
8/16/2005 8:08 am

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Porn...Porn...Porn...PORN


Hey everyone! Okay, I've got a question about porn. So all you ladies and gentlemen please help me out here. What are your opinions on porn? I am not against porn, as long as a couple is watching it together. Last night I was going through my email, and a friend had emailed me some funny pictures as to why not getting drunk with friends. I clicked on them to get a better look. Afterwards, I started deleting them. Well, as I was deleting them other pictures that were saved in the temporary file started coming up. Porn. I was upset, I had asked my husband several times not to look at porn on the computer. First time, we had been married for about a year. He swore he would never do it again. I almost left him over it. About a year ago, he started doing it again. I found it. Asked him not to, every so often I find porn sites on my computer. Well, now he's been on the computer alot here lately and he just says he is playing games. So obviously he's lying about it. I have not confronted him on the recent discovery of porn on the computer, b/c then it will be if I would only give it up to him. Its just that about every time I start to trust him again, something like this comes up to violate my trust. So, what are your opinions on my situation? on Porn? Comments appreciated.....

Priapeo 46M

8/16/2005 9:29 am

To me the question is pretty simple: if you asked your husband not to watch porn and he still does it, well, 99% there is something that leaves him unsatisfied. Don't be alarmed, perhaps it's just something related to fantasies, and not real desires. However, you should investigate that with him; he will be thankful and your sexual life will sure take benefit. But first find a good reason to ask him no to watch porn without you, a reason that he can understand and on which he can agree.

Adamo, the matrimonial consultant.

P.S. My opinion on porn? half a book to write on it, concise is "funny, almost totally worthless, it can empoverish one's spirit"

Never argue with an idiot. He brings you down to his level then beats you with experience


harleydavidson88 38M
1 post
8/16/2005 9:34 am

As long as he is only looking at it there is nothing wrong. I don't see why you would get so upset about it. You put this up in a porn website so it is okay for you and not him. I don't understand your concept. Okay for the woman but not the man. What is wrong with you. You don't make any sense. It is always okay for the woman but NEVER the man.


wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
8/16/2005 10:14 am

I wouldn't worry about it too much....

it is more his honesty is an issue, although that could be due to the issue you make of the porn....I don't have a problem with Boney checking out porn at all....I have a problem with the cost of it

particularly if the sites use dialers and such it can be exceptionally expensive

if I am sick or it is that time of month or even if he is just trying to ease the tension when trying to go to sleep when on night shift (timing is usually very bad for actual play then) I know female playmates are very difficult to get your hands on at appropriate times so he hits the porn....

why don't you sit down and talk to him.....don't be so totally down on it.....why don't you both find a compromise.....discuss what level is appropriate when it is appropriate....and that might not always be when you are both there....actually mostly it will likely be when your not there....!

and find some common ground where he doesn't have to fear discussing it with you...

you don't have to worry about bills arriving for it...

and he can relieve himself when needed in a manner appropriate...? would you rather he found another woman to help him relieve it?

not all calls for relief call for a 3 hour session or even a quickie...nor can it always be squeezed in around other demands...

if you want free porn or cam's look at anywebcam not bad no quarentee but not bad and they don't cost the earth

WyvernRose


friendlykycouple 50M/44F

8/16/2005 10:21 am

Calm down your making a mountain out of a mole hill.Him looking at porn doesnt mean hes cheating or going to cheat.Its just something different,sometimes it helps men get turned on or women.I dont mind my hubby looking at it sometimes we look at it together and have really great sex.Its like a sex aid sometimes.ask him if you can look at it with him and ask what pics turn him on and try it its fun.


MUTigerinOPKS 48M

8/16/2005 12:11 pm

I agree with all the posts here that Porn is not the issue. Trust is the issue and it probably is damaged and needs repairing. YOU control how that is repaired so do what wyvernrose suggested and sit down with pen and paper and set the ground rules. You may even watch with him..suggest it, at least that way you control where he goes and can alleviate any concerns that he's talking to other women or at risk of seeking another woman for relief rather than a quick Porn nut. Brian


GleesFlakyShawl 50M
1620 posts
8/16/2005 1:38 pm

seems like u r more computer-savvy than ur husband....now if u comfront him about porn, would u tell him ur here?


walrus63664 54M

8/20/2005 4:26 am

From a males perspective: porn is a visual thing and that is how we are wired to look at a thing and feel the upwelling of desire. As to what you can do I can only give the advise others have may have given, ask him if he would view with you. Touch one another. TALK to one another. If he wont then deal with the refusal and not the porn, that could be a separate issue.


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