what do I do now?  

prettiprincess68 48F
62 posts
9/8/2005 2:17 pm

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what do I do now?

Hey to all....not sure how long you will continue to see me.....I feel that I have met someone totally amazing.....and he may be "the one". I am just finding it extremely hard to "wait out the process". What do you do while you wait for them to figure out the same thing? I am so afraid of getting played and it has happened, more than once. Why does the man have to be perfect and say everything that you have been wanting to hear....when you are with them? Not to mention amazing sex and explosive chemistry. Then when the date is over.....you wonder if it will continue, if there will be a next time. Maybe that is why I rarely meet anyone....too afraid of finding the one I am looking for and then not being able to have him. Then you get back online, only to discover after you delete most of your network (because of him), that he has added to his. Is this a sign? Please someone, tell me what I am doing wrong.

mailmantrouser2 54M
534 posts
9/8/2005 2:34 pm

Are you maybe running away from yourself? You want to meet someone perfect, but you do not put yourself in a position to meet him because you are afraid that if you meet him you may not be able to have him. Amazing sex is wonderful, but it does not tell you much about the man himself, and he does not find out much about you other than that you are amazing in bed. Would you see him again if you did not have sex together? Would he? There just is not surefire way, we all have to expose ourselves one way or another and run the chance of getting hurt. Don't expect him to say all the things you want to hear. For one thing, if he did, would you be satisfied? For another, he may mean these thing, but just express them differently, or at a diffeent time. You should know that it takes a year or more to really get to know someone enough to make any kind of acommitment . . .


greatdate73 43M

9/8/2005 2:43 pm

If he's adding to his network, and you have obviously fallen for him, I think your best bet might be to proposition him to go searching together. I can't see your profile, being a lowly standard member, but from what I've seen the theme her seems to sway more toward variety. Either way, you should probably have a chat with this totally amazing man and see if he shares your feelings.

Sweetest_Sin_Jes 36F

9/8/2005 3:03 pm

Sorry for your dilemma Pretti Princess! I hate to hear of a Princess worrying about such things! Princesses should be happy and content all the time, right? I think so!

I'm not sure how to help your situation, but I will say this. I have men in my network who are strictly there as friends only, so this may be the case with your man!

Good luck to you Princess!


rm_Balanon2 49M
193 posts
9/8/2005 3:05 pm

You might be reading too much into it also. I have a bad history of doing that myself. Not sure of time line involved, but many men have been trained to wait a few days after a successful date as a cooling off period. This time is supposed to show that they aren't needy and to produce some anticpation in the woman- make you want him more. Apparently, at least the second part works. As for the network, he could be hedging his bets (most dates don't lead to a relationship and don't put all your eggs in one basket stuff), the network invites could be old and recently accepted (I had one accepted today that I'd put up over a month ago), or he might just be fishing for network albums. Most of my 'friends' just get the 'Hot Photos' tag. Only 4 out of the 23 current are people I actually hope to meet. It's a guy thing.

Also, what does his profile say his goals are? You were specific about wanting a relationship in yours, I can't read his though so can't compare. Only be worried though he specifically says he DOESN'T want a relationship.

frogger1995 39F

9/8/2005 4:40 pm

The same thing always happens to me. I fall for a guy and never hear from him again. But you know the rules...move slow and play a little harder to get. Make him want you. I know I sound like a chapter out of The Rules but it was published for a purpose.

In the meantime, try not to think about him so much. Go on doing what you are doing until he does in fact come around.

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