When Gay And Straight Collide  

pragmaticCTcpl 61M/50F
3614 posts
7/2/2006 10:25 am

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When Gay And Straight Collide

Yesterday, at our picnic, some of our guests that were present are friends that I have known, loved and have been a part of my life for more than 10 years. These people happened to be gay. Both males and females. I just happen to have more gay friends than straight friends. They are not ashamed of the fact that they are gay but do not advertise their sexuality either.

Some of my our family members and guests knew of their sexuality and some didn't. It is not my place nor my business to "out" these people. That is for them and them alone. Just as my sexuality isn't a topic for discussion when attending other friends and families parties. We, as a group, always know our audience and act accordingly. When my friends and I are at a gay bar or party, then it we can talk freely and joke with each other about sex and other various topics. However, in a mixed setting, no one is waving a gay pride flag.

At one point my son was unwrapping a play-station 2 game that we had bought for him and my female friend (who I will name Lisa) said, "Oh, that is for Playboy." One of my other friends laughed and said, "Ah Lisa, I think you just outed yourself."

Some people at the party were very intrigued by the lifestyle and some even changed their views and feelings on gay or bisexual people. Yes, some previously thought that gays and lesbians were all weak wrist-ed, high-heel wearing fags, and flannel wearing butches who preyed after little boys and young girls. One couple later made a statement saying, "These gay people were way cooler and more fun to be around than straight people." They even asked if I would invite them to their next picnic for them.

Of course, some thought it was their business to ask questions like, "Has she always been gay?" or "How do you know so many gay people?" or "Has she ever been with a man?" or "Do all gay men have anal sex?" Or the best question of the day, "Mrs. Prag, have you ever had sex with her?" Would I dream or care of asking what these straight people do in their bedrooms?" The answer is NO.

I suppose I should look at it this way:

One party brought a group of very different people from very different lifestyles and backgrounds together and it had a positive effect on all. It helped break some of the myths and prejudice outlooks that many people carry around with them. Even in this day and age.

These are people that helped me move, read bedtime stories to my baby, played games with my children, had over for dinner, went shopping with and spoke with for countless hours on the phone. However, to me they all will always be just my good friends who have been there for me and I for them. People who I am fortunate enough to call my friends.

NSAAddict 42F

7/2/2006 10:55 am

Wonderful post Mrs. Prag, isn't it nice when two cultures, in this case gay and straight, collide without any horrible disasters? Gives you hope that maybe one day people will all get along despite their differences

pragmaticCTcpl replies on 7/5/2006 6:11 am:
There is hope yet for this world, NSA..!

49AK 55M
1823 posts
7/2/2006 12:47 pm

I couldn't agree with you more.

I am a bit embarrassed to say that I was not always the most diversity-tolerant person. It isn't that I grew up in a particularly intolerant family, but rather, I was just middle-of-the-road with American culture. I think I've changed quite a bit faster than America has, and now I am way out on an extreme as far as tolerance goes... some might call it the left extreme. No matter, I am proud to be where I am.

That being said, I regularly find myself surprised at how my attitudes have changed over the years, and how different the world seems to me now. It really is a much more beautiful world when you see the entire spectrum of cultures, rather than your own. I love it when others have an epiphany, and it kills me when the beauty of diversity stares someone in the face and the person refuses to see it.

I was walking through the grocery store the other day when I thought that I would write a blog about diversity, and I am glad you did, because it gave me the opportunity to comment about it.

pragmaticCTcpl replies on 7/5/2006 6:16 am:
Ignorance and myths are the only obstacles facing this world. If people buy into either than they limit themselves and others ability to see the entire picture. And what a beautiful picture it is!! Thanks as always for stopping by and being a part of our journey..! {=}

imLadyBambi 58M/50F

7/2/2006 1:18 pm

Ditto what NSAAddict said - she said it so well.

Lady Bambi

pragmaticCTcpl replies on 7/5/2006 6:18 am:
Thanks Lady Bambi...once in awhile I feel that I have an important idea or feeling that needs sharing. This was one of them.

angelofmercy5 58F
17881 posts
7/2/2006 2:26 pm

Great post MrsPrag!!!! I do agree that what people do in their bedrooms is nobody else' business. We certainly wouldn't ask them what their favorite position for sex is, and they shouldn't ask gay people those questions. I have to agree also that some of the gay people I know are more fun than the straight ones. I'm not gay....but we are free spirits....free to choose the way we want to go. And we should just accept each other whether we agree or not.

pragmaticCTcpl replies on 7/5/2006 6:22 am:
Very well said Angel!! That is they key...we all should see others choices and not be judgmental or critical. Who are we to judge others? No one on this earth has that much power.


7/2/2006 6:05 pm

Great post..why do some judge others for what there sexuality is.. sex is life ..life is sex.. but we don't have sex every minute of our life.

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pragmaticCTcpl replies on 7/5/2006 6:24 am:
Thanks Muff. Sex is important and very much a part of being human but no one thing defines a person. Only those close minded people...are one sided and as a result very sad individuals. {=}

Nightguy_1961 55M
4866 posts
7/2/2006 11:51 pm

Bravo, well done...

NG61...slipping back into the darkness...

pragmaticCTcpl replies on 7/5/2006 6:28 am:
As I said earlier to someone....once and awhile I feel that I have something very important to share with you all. I am glad that people here are receptive to the subject of intolerance. We all need to do our part.

mycin62 54F

7/3/2006 5:37 am

Gotta love diversity

pragmaticCTcpl replies on 7/5/2006 6:30 am:
It is what makes the world go round.!!


7/3/2006 7:12 am

Big ups to you and all the comments love the don't tolerate intolerance! {=}

just a squirrel trying to get a nut

pragmaticCTcpl replies on 7/5/2006 6:32 am:
Thanks Mo. Wish everyone in the world had the same feelings as the people that commented. What a lovely world that would be..!

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