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Ah, yes...that annual reminder. Do we really need one day a year to be reminded that we should play show and tell to the one we love?
I think this year, more than any year in the past, I’ve read more articles, stories, columns, and blogs, about Valentine’s Day. What it means to different individuals, based upon their individual experiences and current relationship. What they have planned. Their “best.” Their “worst.”
From this male’s perspective, I have a lifetime of Valentine’s Days to reflect back on.
From the earliest days of my childhood, getting a box of chocolate from my parents...through grammar school, when the whole class would exchange paper punch-out Valentine’s Day cards...to my teen years, when my then-current infatuation would prompt me to spend most of the money I hadn’t already spent from Christmas on some gift that I hoped would convey my devotion.
Jump ahead to the relationships when I was “going steady,” “had an understanding,” or had entered into a relationship where age and maturity had been attained to know what it meant to tell, and be told...”I love you.” The one day a year reminder would become a ritual to affirm those feelings...by acting “grown-up” and going out to dinner...giving a gift of “love”...and (hopefully), ending the evening exhausted and satisfied from body-pounding sex.
I honestly cannot remember what occurred when I had become engaged to my first wife at Christmastime, before our May wedding, when Valentine’s Day came along.
After we were married, the memories are vague and blurred, but I’m sure that Valentine’s Day evoked from me the typical response of most married men...dinner...flowers...candy...occasional lingerie...and OF COURSE...the Valentine’s Day card..!
Our last Valentine’s Day as husband and wife (last two, actually), were tainted by the lengthy process of divorce. No dinner...no flowers...NO card..!
Today, I celebrated (yes, CELEBRATED!) the 5th Valentine’s Day with the love of my life.
She is my friend, best friend, girlfriend, lover, and wife. She gives to me, every day, more love than I could have possibly dreamed or imagined.
Elaborating on each of those 5 days...what we did, what gifts we exchanged, where we went for dinner, what transpired in the bedroom, after...would serve no purpose here.
The purpose of this blog is to affirm what I have felt, continue to feel, and cannot fathom feeling any less, any day for the rest of my life.....
Each and every day of our lives together, is a Valentine’s Day.
Not a day goes by that we don’t share our love for each other, openly, genuinely, and without reservation.
We don’t have to be reminded by the media, on one day a year, that our love for each other is special. One day a year, for us, would be pointless. How can one commercial holiday hope to convey what we have each and every day, of every year? Does going out to dinner...giving flowers...candy...cards...having mind-blowing sex, reaffirm for us what we saw in each other and continue to have?
However many Valentine’s Day cards that have been written and sold, in the history of the recognition of this commercial holiday, will never accurately define the love we have for each other.
No, we don’t ignore Valentine’s Day. We subscribe to its commercialization of being a “special day.”
But each and every day, with or without the calendar telling us to, we say, feel, and know, that we love one another.
Happy Valentine’s Day..!
2/14/2006 9:31 pm
HAPPY VDAY anyway !|
2/15/2006 3:15 pm
You're such a romantic So happy that you found each other and have that kind of love you see in movies! Happy (belated) Valentine's Day!|
2/15/2006 7:52 pm
mangomamiCT - Thanks, we did..! Hope yours was great. |
NSA - Awwwww... Let's see...the kind of love you see in the movies...all I can think of at the moment is "Doctor Zhivago."