They SHOOT Horses, Don't They..?  

pragmaticCTcpl 61M/50F
3614 posts
8/4/2006 10:29 am

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8/10/2006 12:23 pm

They SHOOT Horses, Don't They..?


So, why do some people "beat a dead horse..?"

When something comes up...most people discuss it...hopefully resolve it...and then let it go.

Not my wife..!!!!

She loves to beat a dead horse..!

If you read her blog below,
Mr. Prag's Southern Belle , you will see that she beat a dead horse that occurred almost 10 months ago..!

Actually, this all began last night.

We were looking at blogs...emails...etc., and out-of-the-blue, my lovely wife said to me (with me being at the keyboard and mouse),
" up the IM that you used to use with "Patty."

Now...I haven't even looked at that IM in almost 10 months (alone...she has had me open it a few times, when we're together)...and up popped an IM dated 3 1/2 weeks ago.

Looking at the Message Archive, there are at least 4 other IM's...from "Patty," that are sporadically dated since last October.

I try not to "bait and challenge" my wife, with comments that cause her to become defensive, but after looking at the intensity of her face...studying the latest IM...I made my comment.

"You love to beat a dead horse, don't you..?"

As long as she's asking for your advice...I'll ask for it too.

Do you "beat a dead horse" too...or do you discuss things...resolve them (I thought we HAD)...and forget them and move on?


moonlightphoenix 45F
6508 posts
8/4/2006 11:52 am

Ahhhh....all this technology is just a new way for families to fight.

Gotta love it.

pragmaticCTcpl replies on 8/8/2006 11:16 am:
Glad we could add to your perverse pleasure.

JuicyBBW1001 54F

8/4/2006 12:04 pm

It's a woman thing. I have beaten dead horses in the past with lovers, friends and associates. Till I learned that it truly got me no where fast. Sometimes as women we have to learn for ourselves what works and what doesn't. Give her time and make sure she knows she is loved everyday in some small way whether is it a night of toe curling sex with her or a passion filled night with rose petals on the bed and candles and some romantic music playing in the background. Women need reassurance of a man's love for them as much or even more then the man needs reassurance of a woman's love for them. Trust me it will be alright. As they say this too shall pass.


pragmaticCTcpl replies on 8/8/2006 11:18 am:
Thanks, Juicy....and it has..!

firestarter665 42M/39F

8/4/2006 5:12 pm

I agree with JuicyBBW. Sometimes something reminds a woman of a certain situation and all the old feelings come back.

It will pass.

pragmaticCTcpl replies on 8/8/2006 11:19 am:
Thanks, fire.....yes, it has..!

docdirk 47M

8/4/2006 8:41 pm

I'm sorry... I completely mistook your meaning for "Beat a dead horse." I thought it was something along the lines of choking a chicken.

My bad!

Ah, Its you again, Your Angel Feathers and your Blood Stains...

pragmaticCTcpl replies on 8/8/2006 11:21 am:
Ever play "Whack-A-Mole" doc..?

ZZ_Todd 59M

8/5/2006 4:43 am

Yeah, I remember those good ol' days! I've been divorced now 20 years... Don't let this dead horse kill your relationship; I know I made the right choice getting out of my marriage, but our dead horse was a way more serious issue. Go with the flow... I think it's great that the two of you write the same blog; it shows us that you're together, and happy... and in this day and age where 1 out of 2 relationships fail, it's always nice to be reminded of the success stories.

pragmaticCTcpl replies on 8/8/2006 11:23 am:
Thanks, ZZ_Todd..!

We make it work.

fantasylover_05 62M

8/5/2006 8:44 am

The horse may be dead in your eyes Mr Prag.. but apparently it has not been buried in her eyes?

I think it is wonderful that the two of you can be so open with each other and with us and that gives me great confidence between the two of you.. you will indeed figure out how to confirm this horse is dea and bury it!

pragmaticCTcpl replies on 8/8/2006 11:24 am:
Thanks, fl..!

Yep....dead and buried..!

Cozy_Red 50F

8/5/2006 10:51 am

No I dont beat a dead horse, once its talked about, or yelled over...its in the past. I never understood why people do that. Words are like arrows, you can remove the arrow (say your sorry), but you cant erase the scar.

pragmaticCTcpl replies on 8/8/2006 11:27 am:
Thanks, cozy..!

I can see that in this particular instance, Mrs. Prag carried it for so long because it was never brought to closure.

It now has been, and is over.

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