The Fine Line Between Love and Hate  

pragmaticCTcpl 61M/50F
3614 posts
8/2/2006 8:35 am

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8/5/2006 8:44 am

The Fine Line Between Love and Hate

There is a fine line between love and hate.

This is a common saying.

If you have a mature love with someone... Can you every really hate that person?

I looked into the subject and found this:

"Loving someone entails putting a whole load of trust in them. This makes you very vulnerable to having that trust abused. When this happens you end up feeling all betrayed, and for some of us that usually goes straight on into hatred."

We all have had relationships that have ended poorly. All of these previous relationships impact us on some level. While I don't have the nicest things to say about those people...I still inwardly thank them for teaching me a lesson. Some of those lessons were harder than others.

Is it really hate that we feel or is it a cover for all the hurt and damage that has been done?

What are your thoughts? Is it true?



MWWwantmore 51F

8/2/2006 9:09 am

Sometimes I think its a coverup. I know myself personally I have never actually "hated" a person no matter what they have done. More resented them!



I'll have a cafe, mocha, vodka, valium latte to go please!

Good girls go to heaven.....bad girls go down!!


pragmaticCTcpl replies on 8/5/2006 8:20 am:
Hate is a strong word. You can hate some of the "things that people do or say but to hate someone completely takes alot. Or in my case...when I'm PMSing..!

absolutelynormal 56F
6563 posts
8/2/2006 9:21 am

Love and hate are intense emotions. The opposite of love is not hate, it's apathy. If we say we "hate" someone, we still feel enough for this person that they can make us angry, or feel less than or maybe taken advantage of. If we truly didn't care anything about them, we would be apathetic.... Kinda how I feel about GW.


pragmaticCTcpl replies on 8/5/2006 8:27 am:
I think the opposite of love is "un-love". We try to take back the love that we once gave so freely. Unfortunately, by then the damage has already been done. So un-love isn't really possible. I think we just file the love somewhere deep within ourselves and refuse it's air. Cause it would hurt too much to let it breathe.

fantasylover_05 62M

8/2/2006 11:21 am

I do think it is more hurt than anything else!


pragmaticCTcpl replies on 8/5/2006 8:29 am:
Ahhh yes! I know all about hurt. I could write a book on the subject.

zilla5x5x5 53M
2 posts
8/2/2006 5:31 pm

FINE LINE BETWEEN LOVE AND HATE!!!! WELL YAH!! OF COURSE...THERE IS AN OPPISITE FOR ALL EXTREMES. AND EMOTIONS , HUMAN EMOTIONS ARE OF COURSE AT THE TOP OF THE LIST FOLKS. IT SEEMS TO BE OUR NATURE TO ATTACH OUR OWN ATTRIBUTES, ON THOSE WE MANAGE TO GET TANGLED UP WITH. MOST OF THE TIME, AT FIRST ATTRACTED TO THE DIFFERENCES THEY MAY HAVE FROM US. THEN AS A BIT OF TIME GOES ON HAVE UNDERLINED BETWEEN THE LINE EXPECTATIONS, WHICH THEY HAD BETTER FOLLOW AT ALL TIMES "OR ELSE" THEN COMES THE NEED FOR THEM TO MOLD TO YOU.. YOU KNOW CHANGE TO FIT WHAT YOU WANT THEM TO BEHAVE LIKE. HOW DARE THEY EVEN SHOW ANY INDIVIDUALITY , THERE IS ONLY ROOM FOR US TO BE ONE.RIGHT!!WRONG, LADIES AND GENTLMEN, WHEN YOU DECIDE TO GET INVOLVED WITH ANOTHER PERSON. SET CONSENTING AGREED UPON GUIDLINES IN EVERY AREA OF YOUR INTERACTION TOGETHER. AND FOR GOD SAKE BE HONEST!!!DON'T TRY TO BE OR SOUND LIKE SOMEONE YOU THINK THEY WANT YOU TO BE , JUST BECAUSE YOU'RE HARD UP OR LONELY, BECAUSE THE RELATIONSHIP IS GOING TO HAVE A BASE OF DECIEPT. AND YOU WILL JUST END UP ALL ALONE ONCE AGAIN. AND PACKING EVEN MORE BAGGAGE AND REGRETFULL FEELINGS. BELIEVE IT OR NOT SOONER OR LATER NO MATTER WHO YOU ARE IT DOES BECOME VERY APPARENT TO ON LOOKERS JUST HOW BITTER YOU ARE. SO DON'T TRY TO ACT LIKE YOU LOVE TO SWIM WHEN YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW HOW TO SWIM. BE YOURSELVES , BE HONEST. DON'T WEAR YOUR EMOTIONS ON YOUR SHIRT SLEAVE PRACTICE AT LEAST A LITTLE BIT OF DISCIPLINE. MINE YOUR THOUGHTS , FOR WHAT YOU THINK , IS SOONER OR LATER GOING TO BE WHO YOU ARE....WHETHER YOU ARE BITTER AND LIPLESS OR HAPPY AND SUPPEL. YAH, YOU LADIES OUT THEIR EXSPECIALLY, HAVE'NT YOU EVER NOTICED THAT WOMEN WHO ARE BITTER AND FRIGID , HATEFULL AND MISERABLE HAVE NO LIPS? AND IT HAS ABSOLUTLY NOTHING TO DO WITH AGE EITHER. I HAVE BEEN FOLLOWING SEVERAL THEORIES, FOR QUIET SOME TIME NOW. AND I'VE HIT THE MARK , 9 TIMES OUT OF 10. SO LET'S SPREAD HAPPINESS, MO'S, AND JUST FLATE OUT NON NON HAYNESS, WAVES!!!!K? LOVE,SEX, ON THE UPMOST HIGHEST LEVELS OF PLEASURING EXSPERIENCE. ALWAYS STAY SAFE WATCH FOR THE COMFORT OF OTHERS. CAUSE WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. FOR REAL.....THANX.....


pragmaticCTcpl replies on 8/5/2006 8:34 am:
"SET CONSENTING AGREED UPON GUIDLINES IN EVERY AREA OF YOUR INTERACTION TOGETHER"

Sound like a contract and we all know that contracts are made to be broken.

"CAUSE WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND"

So true...so true!!

Thanks for stopping by.

docdirk 47M

8/2/2006 6:10 pm

I never try to define it. I do enjoy using it, though. And, a good grudge is often reason enough to rise in the morning!

Ah, Its you again, Your Angel Feathers and your Blood Stains...


pragmaticCTcpl replies on 8/5/2006 8:42 am:
Sometimes, I just wish that I could be the one that causes the good grudge and not be the one to carry it. That grudge sack gets pretty damn heavy!!! Beside, we both know I'm way too nice of a person. I'm just thinking of getting my next tattoo. "WELCOME" on my forehead.

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