Cumming Troubles  

pragmaticCTcpl 61M/50F
3614 posts
4/12/2006 8:13 am

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Cumming Troubles

Cumming. We all love to tell when we do or when we have given others the "BIG O." We also enjoy mentally patting ourselves on the back when we have made our partner climax.

( "PAT-PAT. Mission Accomplished. JOB WELL DONE!!" )

I have to admit. I love a good challenge. I also have to admit. I hate defeat. Have you ever had a problem cumming? Or have you been with a partner that has had trouble with cumming?

Sometimes, I feel like I'm the only one, in the whole wide world, that has ever had this happen to them. Either, I haven't been able to cum or my partner ( certainly not, for a lack of giving it, one hell of a try ) can't cum.

Perhaps, we don't speak about this. Maybe we should be more open to this discussion. Asking....Does every sexual experience have to end with a release of cum? If I'm unable to cum or my partner doesn't cum....Am I a complete and total failure in the bedroom? Is it me? Is it him? Is there someone else?

Is it at that very moment, that we should never ask, "Did that feel good?...Did you enjoy it?"

Oh, the horror!!!!!! The frustration!!!!

Then you might think to yourself, "What are they thinking about?...Who are they thinking about?...Where is their attention?...What is the problem?...This has never happened before!"

Is it possible for a man to truly enjoy and appreciate a head caving blow-job or ball pounding intercourse and NOT be able to cum? Is the same possible for a woman who has either had her pussy banged beyond comprehension or has had a very talented tongue flicking and licking to see how many licks it truly takes to get to the center of a tootsie-roll. Then finally, NOT to be able to cum.

Have you hoped for a rainy day and ended up with it being dry and overcast ? Tell me, has this sort of thing ever happened to you or to a partner? How do you handle it?



49AK 55M
1823 posts
4/12/2006 10:12 am

I'm young at heart... but to be completely honest, some parts of me don't work quite as well as they did when I was 18. When I was younger, I could go all weekend, and make it happen for me pretty much on demand. What has changed as I get older is that my penis has adopted union rules: It'll work on demand the first time, but it needs a mandatory coffee break immediately afterwards. I think for my partners, that might be a positive, because when I am making love, I am a lot more focused on pleasing her first, because I know that once I'm done, it might be a while. This is not an absolute hard and fast (excuse the pun) rule, however... so sometimes I try to go for a second orgasm, and occasionally I can make it happen, with the help of my partner. When it does happen, it is always a mental thing that gets me over the hump (again, excuse the pun).

Recently, I was with my partner, and it felt so good insider her, and I was going to orgasm sooner than I wanted. I was actually able to fight it off, but it was almost as if I had an orgasm, and getting back to that point was very difficult. I think it worked out for her, because it took a lot of effort on my part to get back to that point, and if it weren't for her active participation in bringing my head mentally along, it wouldn't have happened.

I like to think I am rather talented in the area of pleasuring my partners, and when she struggles with an orgasm, I am disappointed. Perhaps I am fortunate to have partners that are easily orgasmic, because it is relatively infrequent... but when it does happen that it is difficult for her, I take it personally.


pragmaticCTcpl replies on 4/13/2006 11:02 am:
Sounds like you and your partner have a good thing between the two of you. Good for you!!! I'm like you, I take it personally if I can't get my partner off....What can I tell you ? I'm a giver.

MOfunNOWWOW 55F

4/12/2006 1:45 pm

I had that problem for a couple of months, which in turn caused my partner to have it. I went to the doctor and they switched my medication. Two weeks later things improved, two more weeks, everything was back to normal. I am pretty sure this is a fairly common problem...regardless what it stems from. Doesn't make it any easier while it's goin on though so hugs to ya both. {=}


MOMO
just a squirrel trying to get a nut


pragmaticCTcpl replies on 4/13/2006 11:06 am:
I have to thank you for taking on this tough question. Not too many people wanted to comment on this one. I guess, it happens due to stress, fatique.... Just don't like to leave my partner hanging. I'm an equal orgasm kind of gal! Hugs Honey!

firestarter665 42M/39F

4/12/2006 5:06 pm

I cannot for the life of me cum in the morning. Mr. Fire loves morning sex, but I can never get to the climax. Don't feel bad, it happens.


pragmaticCTcpl replies on 4/13/2006 11:08 am:
YES!! I'm with you Mrs. Fire...I can't go from zero to 100 when I first wake-up. That's what morning blow-jobs are for!

curious311241 34M
145 posts
4/12/2006 9:19 pm

My ex gf couldn't cum. This was probably due to some psycholigical issue (she had few), but I could never make her cum (though I certainly tried!). Thankfully I knew this before we started dating seriously, so I didn't really feel bad when she didn't cum, though I did enjoy the challenge of trying to get her as close as possible!


pragmaticCTcpl replies on 4/13/2006 11:09 am:
A man who likes a challenge. A man after my own heart!

mycin62 54F

4/13/2006 1:04 am

Occasionally we have this problem, usually when one of us is really tired or when we have been over stimulated past the point of orgasm. When we get to that point, we usually, very nicely tell the other that it just isn't gonna work this time. We NEVER fake it to make each other feel better, we both realize this happens some times.


pragmaticCTcpl replies on 4/13/2006 11:12 am:
Cin, I agree we you on this one. There is such a thing as too much stimulation. You end up feeling like a drop of water on a hot grill. I also agree... NEVER fake an orgasm.

rm_kneel_be4me 48M
457 posts
4/19/2006 5:12 pm

Well with me and my ex wife I used to have this problem. most times it takes alot for me to cum, and she wasnt into providing foreplay. So it was basicaly just me going down on her then sticking it in and bouncing up and down for a while till she was either tired or sore. She had a hard time with it, but didnt want to hear that it might happen less often if she provided even a little foreplay.


pragmaticCTcpl replies on 4/19/2006 7:29 pm:
That sounds very much like my husband's ex-wife....probably why she's his EX..!

rm_KirkVW44m 54M
688 posts
4/21/2006 8:19 am

I'm a strong believer in the excitement factor more then the simple physical act of fucking. You know when the woman decides she is gonna bust your balls in a very short time there aint much you can do about it if you want her like mad, but its so you can get back to some good lengthy lovemaking and thats what she is after ultimately as are you. I've fucked before like a oil well out of control and couldn't cum then again i wasnt heated up if you will. Same goes for a woman. You have some you can nearly make cum by just pushing your cock inside them sometimes and others well drilling for oil is what it takes.

Kirk


pragmaticCTcpl replies on 4/21/2006 11:33 am:
I guess the old saying is true, then...at least in this situation..."different strokes, for different folks..!"

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