why r some men such idiots?  

poohpooh61 55F
136 posts
5/27/2006 1:41 am

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why r some men such idiots?


i got to know someone recently through AdultFriendFinder and i kinda like him although he is not absolutely goodlooking but is wity and intelligent. Well i thought he was until he told me one day that he is giving up his 8 yrs marriage for one woman who swept him off his feet.... and sent wife and son back home.... while he continues staying and fucking that woman.... his reasons being that he is a romantic person and is finding the feelings of being head over heels with a woman, somthing which he dun feel with his wife anymore.....
Questions :

1. is it being romantic when a guy gave up on his wife and son so easily for someone he only knew for a month or so?

2. why r men so slow to learn that such heart thumping feelins r never 4ever???

3. how could one person falls in and out of love so eaily?????

4. is it wise to give up marriage for jus a woman u barely know?

i was sad to hear it but as a fren i could wish him the best.... but when i think of his young son.... missing out on a father's love and the pain of his wife.... cant help but feeling sad....sigh....

rm_Lovestud00 39M

5/27/2006 4:38 am

1. Giving up on one's family on a whim like this is not romantic. However, it does indicate selfishness as well as a loss of focus.

2. The realization that heart thumping feelings are never forever is an experience endured by both men and women and is usually associated with the freshness of a new relationship.

3. If one could fall out of love with someone so easily, perhaps they were never in love to begin with.

4. It is never wise to give up marriage period. Something or some things prompted love to exist, and I am almost certain that if a self-analysis is conducted, that that same thing or those things are still present--but one must allow themselves to see them. (See response #1.)

Though you were saddened by the news, as a friend to him, I hope you were honest about how you felt about his decision. Sometimes the honesty of a friend can be the only enlightenment for those of us who aimlessly wander in darkness. Regardless of how far he has progressed with this new woman, I recommend you express to him the wrongness of his decision, if in fact you feel that he is truly wrong.


GoddessOfTheDawn 105F
11238 posts
5/27/2006 6:45 am


1. is it being romantic when a guy gave up on his wife and son so easily for someone he only knew for a month or so?
I don't think so
2. why r men so slow to learn that such heart thumping feelins r never 4ever???
they're men
3. how could one person falls in and out of love so eaily?????
they can't, they just think they do
4. is it wise to give up marriage for jus a woman u barely know?
in my opinion it isn't

welcome to blogging


mindz0ne 41M

5/27/2006 9:32 am

Answer to 1.
That's not being romantic, that's thinking w/ his small head.

Answer to 2.
Such thinking are not limited to men only. I'd say the numbers are fairly balanced between the sexes.

Answer to 3.
People fall in and out of love all the time. Just depends on what the that person deems as 'love' right?

Answer to 4.
See answer to 1.

nice pic btw.. hehe

mindz0ne


poohpooh61 55F

5/27/2006 7:49 pm

i have already expressed my views but no one wants to listen to truths i guess or is too blinded by love and lust to even think straight but whatever it is , i wished him all the best...


sfvppl818 50M/50F

6/3/2006 3:28 am

    Quoting poohpooh61:
    i have already expressed my views but no one wants to listen to truths i guess or is too blinded by love and lust to even think straight but whatever it is , i wished him all the best...
I tend to be more supportive of men than most women, but even then who knows what men want these days, outside of food, sex and remote controls. That's the easy way to look at it .. but seriously they are a lot more complex than we give them credit for, and many of them are just too worked over to reveal what's really inside them.

Always, but always ... be a friend with men. That way you have their respect, if nothing else at all


rm_zen269 45M
82 posts
6/30/2006 2:18 am

I agree with you that some man are like this, as for me I am always with those that I love and here is only for a buddy of friend or whatever, so, it all about how you can get a control of yourself and knowing what you want and need, and also what's best for you.


imhornybuck 60M

7/3/2006 6:49 pm

Superfine


1nonconformist 61M
1 post
7/5/2006 4:06 pm

The guy is a selfish pervert who is so immature he can't distinguish between commitment to his family and satisfying his juvenile desires. You should reconsider your choice of friends and re-evaluate your own standard of morality for wishing him the best.


poohpooh61 replies on 7/6/2006 8:21 am:
what strong judgemental statements u made about me and my fren..... I dun say he is right but neither m i or u are in any position to pass such judgements... becos we do not know the true state of affairs.... whether it is juvenile desires or not, no one knows, much less u....and i dun judge my frens by what they do, although i may not condone or agree, but that dun mean i have to evaluate my frenship with him! Someone could be a poor boyfren or husband but that dun mean he is a bad person... oh puhlease.... we dont need such extremism in the world today cos there is already too much of it going around!

MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
10/23/2006 1:28 pm

    Quoting sfvppl818:
    I tend to be more supportive of men than most women, but even then who knows what men want these days, outside of food, sex and remote controls. That's the easy way to look at it .. but seriously they are a lot more complex than we give them credit for, and many of them are just too worked over to reveal what's really inside them.

    Always, but always ... be a friend with men. That way you have their respect, if nothing else at all


Well said...you deserve a kiss...and quite a few orgasms...



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MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
10/23/2006 1:33 pm

Hahahaha...is this the blame game???

It takes two hands to clap...I'd never blame one person unless I had his / her life...we don't always do the right thing...on the one hand, people harp about responsibilities and what is expected...on the other...they yell out, life is short, make the most of it...

In many situations...you can choose but one of them...



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dewey4chat_153 105F

12/21/2006 7:41 am

ahhh Pooh, I finally visit your blog...

ok let start with all your questions then :

1. is it being romantic when a guy gave up on his wife and son so easily for someone he only knew for a month or so?

a. Let me just said that this man is either stupid or he simply stupid or extremely stupid. He playing the game of his heart not his brain or his feeling. If I'm his wife....I know wat to do with him. I did shot him dead. That will save my son's life forever.

2. why r men so slow to learn that such heart thumping feelins r never 4ever???

a. Why do you think there are so many man end up marrying two or three time in their life. The reason is simple...they let their eyes rules their heart and head. Man nowadays looked for looked not quality of a woman. They don't understand what the real meaning of love instead they think lust is love. Phew!!!

3. how could one person falls in and out of love so eaily?????

a. That is not love, Pooh...love last forever. I can't carry on with this in here or I will end up doing the blog.

4. is it wise to give up marriage for jus a woman u barely know?

a. Now anyone of this guy wud have done this just for the same of lust...I tell you..I swear he did die in the next tsunami along with the woman he hardly know


poohpooh61 55F

12/21/2006 12:15 pm

u know something dewey? i think one of the best thing that ever happened to me when i joined this site is getting to know some truly great ladies and u r one of them.... although we have never met, but that is not as important compared to the exchange of thoughts and feelings, and to me u r one of the most feeling person i have talked to here.
thanks for being a friend and i do wish u all the best too...


NthDimensions 49M
177 posts
1/14/2007 12:49 pm

I always say this, and I shall always say this again, and again:

There is no rhyme and reason for a man falling for a woman, and vice versa.
There is nobody that can judge them, except they themselves.
Love knows no boundaries, fetishes cross all borders, etc, ad nausem.

Someone can fall for someone at first sight.
Someone can elope with another person after 30 years of marriage.
Someone beautiful and intelligent can fall for a trash collector who in uncouth and uneducated and married.

Who knows what is happening in the chemistry between a man and a woman, or a man and a man, or a woman and a woman?

That's the human tragedy,
and that's why human beings are unfathomable,
and that's why we are a treasure and a curse in the Creator's eyes.


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