Journey of discovery....  

poohpooh61 55F
136 posts
5/30/2006 5:32 am

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1/14/2007 2:13 pm

Journey of discovery....


I jus had a call from a fren of mine whom I met on AdultFriendFinder... he is indeed my buddy... someone I could talk to and would never judge me for what I do .... and the best (perhaps to some is the worst!)of our relationship is not sex, infact there is no sexual relationship between us..... We started our first meeting with sex in mind and guess what.... through our meetings and chats, we found something in each other which is more fulfilling than what sex could bring.... frenship and moral support for one another....and we both agreed that keeping the sex bit out of it is critical to keeping us as frens.... he being divorced and me still married.... and I m very happy till this day that I found such a buddy here.....
But there was one day I was horny and I actually asked him if he was keen to have sex.... and he said if this question had come on our first meeting, the answer would have been a sure yes but now he dont want to lose his precious frenship with me.... and honestly I was touched by what he said....

My questions to u guys and gals out there....
1. would you have preferred sex over frenship in this case?
2. can i be greedy and have both - frenship and sex
3. is it possible for a married woman and a unmarried man or vice versa, to sustain a relationship and yet stay frens or can it only be a fuck and a bye.....

Dont me wrong people... he is indeed very attractive and charming and if i m not married, i would go for him........

ciao
have a good day

rm_Blinded1969 38M
916 posts
5/31/2006 4:41 am

1. would you have preferred sex over frenship in this case?
i choose friends

2. can i be greedy and have both - frenship and sex
of coz u can. juz dont let feelings mixed

3. is it possible for a married woman and a unmarried man or vice versa, to sustain a relationship and yet stay frens or can it only be a fuck and a bye.....
it can be as anything as you want it to be, its up to an individual actually. how strong or weak you are... Cheers!


poohpooh61 replies on 5/31/2006 7:59 am:
i wish things could be as simple as u made it out to be and then everyone would have be happy.... the reality of life is that we cant have it all.... sad but true..... perhaps one day u will experience what i mean.

goodtry 55M
918 posts
5/31/2006 8:14 pm

1. Good friends is hard to come by, sex you can get any time and friends does not equal to sex.

2. However you can have friendship and sex but again if you have friendship and sex the element love and emotion tends to creep slowly unknowingly into the picture and you must be able to control this elements which in most cases difficult.

3. Why not married woman and a unmarried man or vice versa can stay friends, there is no hard and fast rules stating once you got married you cannot have friend of opposite sex. Again fuck and a bye is just an effect of emotion which has got nothing to do with friends or not friends, it exist in anyone.

The only thing is that people appearing in this site tends to give people a sex kind of image which sometime you can still find some true friends here. It's a matter of whether do you manage to meet them or not.


mindz0ne 41M

6/1/2006 2:40 am

1. Everyone says friendship. I'd say friendship too. But at the moment in time, given the hormone levels, it takes the will of a saint to say no!

2. YES YES have both if possible! that's always the best! Just remember where to draw the line (between love and lust and friendship). Damn sounds tough.

3. Seen it done before. *shrug* depends on I guess. emotional control is important. Knowing who and what is important is also important. and knowing when to let go is extremely important.



STILL... nice pic...

mindz0ne


CallMe97788728 46M
29 posts
6/1/2006 9:15 pm

1. nothing is more worth than friendship....

2. if u choose both, than it'll come a day sex will take control and the friendship dies off....

3. it's tough for both. but as long as the bondage between both is strong, it'll be able to sustain... but if sex is controlling than it'll be a fuck and go....


yuhoo2006 55M
3 posts
6/14/2006 12:41 am

My questions to u guys and gals out there....
1. would you have preferred sex over frenship in this case?
2. can i be greedy and have both - frenship and sex
3. is it possible for a married woman and a unmarried man or vice versa, to sustain a relationship and yet stay frens or can it only be a fuck and a bye.....

I would prefer friendship and sex. I believe that should the friendship be so wonderful, wonderful sex follows. And as both are fully aware that it's friendship and not coupleship, than the friendship remains after. But, only when you'll geniune about it and not avoiding each other cause you felt awful how to proceed with the friendship.

For me, should the friendship leads to sex, I'll cherish the relationship even more. So what if it's the only time there was sex and friendship only after.


lovefunfantasy 48M
1 post
11/20/2006 3:17 am

This sounds like a very special guy who thought you were a very special girl! Having tried sex with a friend now I can tell you that it is possible to remain friends afterwards. I don't think this is usual because in the past the 2 haven't mixed. The difference here I think was the maturity of both of us so maybe it is just a matter of growing up and then it being possible. Or maybe it was because it was a once off thing! I don't know!I have to agree with most here though that a friend is more valuable than a fuck buddy any day!


poohpooh61 replies on 11/20/2006 6:49 am:
And you must be a very special guy too!
Am glad u found it possible to continue to remain frens even after and I m sure she will appreciate you for that.....

Have fun in AdultFriendFinder!

NthDimensions 49M
177 posts
1/14/2007 12:59 pm

My questions to u guys and gals out there....
1. would you have preferred sex over frenship in this case?

If you asked me for sex, I would have obliged
what are friends for, when they can't help you,


2. can i be greedy and have both - frenship and sex

yes. I have done that.

3. is it possible for a married woman and a unmarried man or vice versa, to sustain a relationship and yet stay frens or can it only be a fuck and a bye..

yes again. but in this case, we were both married.
and we continued to be friends.
my wife even helped out with taking care of her mother, for a short while.


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