Today, I saw my current "EX the second"  

plowboylashes 44M
26 posts
12/3/2005 3:24 pm

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Today, I saw my current "EX the second"

I call her that because I dated for before the last woman I dated that ended about two months ago. Anyway we still are friendly towards each other. I liked her a lot but ultimately had to let her go because of her child. Together we had a great time but a single mother has little time without her child amd I am not ready to be it's dad.

kats60 56F

12/3/2005 4:21 pm

how sad!!! kat

lookingguy4girl 60M
3 posts
12/3/2005 4:36 pm

LOL liked the It's comment! I have dated women with kids in the past, even if your relationship is going well without the kids, they will always come first. My current to be x-wife had grown kids that needed a place to stay, I let them move in, then we had no privacy and I rated a low 2nd. The kid is 25 and would just walks into my bedroom and use the master bath. My soon to be x threw a hissy when I told her I did not want him in my private space. It is a pain to live in a 4 br house and have an adult kid just walking into your only private space.

online69n 51F

12/3/2005 4:43 pm

at least you realize that you don't wanta be a fill-in dad and broke up with the single mother...I'll give you that
and here is some advise
remember to check the part where it says
wants children=NO!

there is nothing wrong with you not wanting a kid that isn't yours,
I just pray when and IF you have your own that you WANT it!

LustGoddess2469 50F  
2453 posts
12/3/2005 5:03 pm

Who said you had to be a "dad" to her child? Yes, most single moms, and single dads for that matter, have their children as a priority in their lives, while the other "parent" is out living the high life with no responsibilities whatsoever. I'm sure it's difficult for someone that doesn't have children yet to understand, but I think it's rather selfish of someone to break off a relationship with a single parent just because that person is a single parent.

Just my opinion, for what it's worth.


BuxomFrau 44

12/4/2005 9:22 pm

I think it was less about her being a single parent and more about him understanding what his limitations were. He did try dating her. I'll give him that. But he understood that it just wouldn't work out. Personally, I'm the same way. I would prefer to seriously date someone that didn't have children. Simply because I want to be THE priority in someone's life, not just "a" priority. Also, I like the lifestyle I have were I can be more spontaneous, and live out certain and dreams and aspirations because its just me. I'd like to find someone in that same space in their life. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. That being said, if I met this incredible guy and he had a kid full-time, I'd probably have to give it a try. Love is hard enough to find, right? But I'm not going to call someone selfish just because they don't see things my way.

Plow could have meant that if this relationship were to go further and eventually marry, then he would certainly be a father figure. Not necessarily the kid's dad. And let's face it, it would be quite an adjustment. If he doesn't want to assume that kind of lifestyle that involves kids, he shouldn't have to. Especially since he's taken the steps to not have is own. I can understand if he doesn't want the complications that may come from someone elses.

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