I dont trust needs.......  

playwithme_wi 46M
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7/24/2006 2:53 pm

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7/24/2006 7:09 pm

I dont trust needs.......

You need food and shelter and when the need arises. When you are cold and starving, and you have no choice. Any food and shelter can fulfill your need. In a life or death struggle, you would be amazed what you will eat, and where you will sleep.
This is the nature of needs. If you need me, you don’t really need ME. You need someone, and at the moment I am here. But when I am not here, when you are starving for me, someone else can do just as well. But if you crave me, then I am the one you will come looking for.

If you crave something, only that which you crave can satisfy. When you are craving dark chocolate, you can’t get by on a vanilla milkshake! You want dark chocolate, and all the other foods in the world could be at you feet. But dark chocolate would be the only thing you wanted.

That’s what I want, that’s who I want. I don’t need someone in my life. I am ok with myself, my own thoughts, my own feelings; I could be alone the rest of my life and be happy. But I would still have cravings. And that is what I would like, to be craved and to crave. This isn’t some new word for clingy. I hate clingy, needy, whatever you want to call it. I am way too independent for that. You may crave dark chocolate, but you don’t have to have it everyday. You don’t have to see it, to know its there. You know where to find it when you want it and that’s enough to make you happy.

Craving is passion, desire, wanting. It is choice. And it is by no means an everyday event.

bipolybabe 55F

7/24/2006 3:44 pm

Don't know, dude, 'cuz I use the the language of Non-Violent Communication, and sex is listed as a need. I've written more about NVC in my blog if you're interested or just google the topic.

Speaking solely for myself, I need sex on a regular basis, if not daily. I'm pretty happy with masturbation, which I consider one form of sex, but even happier with another human to rub against.

Now, I think love with sex is nice but not necessarily a necessity. I have a lot of love in my life: my kids, my friends, my cat. It's a plus if I find love with sex.

But, dude, I need sex. What does it mean you "don't trust needs"? I trust what my body tells me more than what my head dictates. Don't you?



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playwithme_wi 46M
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7/24/2006 7:09 pm

Ok, well, I didn't say anything about love. And your statement "I need sex on a regular basis, if not daily. I'm pretty happy with masturbation" kinda proves my point. You don't really need anyone. Anyone you choose to spend your time with is a choice. My statements were never intended to say "you don't need sex"

This was more a commentary on relationships.

Personally I choose to spend time with certain people and I choose not to spend time with others. And when I am told by someone "I need you" I don't trust it and prefer to be a choice, rather then I need.

amoldenough 70F
16436 posts
7/24/2006 7:19 pm

Craving--that is a great word for the feeling I have sometimes for another person. I never thought of it that way before. Thankyou.

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