Why, OH WHY, is it so damn hard to get laid???  

playtimehottie 45F
44 posts
9/10/2005 4:38 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Why, OH WHY, is it so damn hard to get laid???

A few years ago, (after getting out of a horrible marriage), I finally reached the pinnacle of my self confidence and sexuality. (What can I say, people, I AM in my early 30's - and we ALL KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS!) After carrying around the knowledge that I was attracted to women for the last 20 years, and generally knowing that I was an all-around, "Bad Girl", and freak, I just simply woke up one gorgeous Oregon morning and decided that I was finished being the good little girl that society told me I should be! I am NOT, I repeat, NOT ashamed to have a VAGINA - in fact, I owe that organ thanks for some of the best times of my young life! A friend told me about AdultFriendFinder, and I CANNOT tell you how excited I was!!! I mean, an entire website devoted to people like moi? How awesome is that??

I wasted no time at all setting up my profile and pictures, in what I was SURE was going to be the most amazing fuck magnet EVER for me!!! Well, I am asking Y'all - where the hell are all the serious people?? Am I the only little sub girl on this site that gets tons of emails, but then gets stood up over and over again?? I swear I shower every day and shave my ENTIRE body!! (I swear!) So what is it??

Tell me if I am doing something wrong, and being the good little sub that I am, I'll change it....



goodtimes2620 37M
1 post
9/10/2005 5:33 pm

You are a beautiful woman. If I knew you I pleasure you any way you wanted!

rm_Balanon2 48M
193 posts
9/10/2005 5:45 pm

Wish I could help you. I know I wouldn't be standing up an obiedient girl with that body. Which begs the question, are those really your photos and are they recent? If so, then maybe it is the type of filtering you're doing when selecting prospects. The e-mail may sound like what you think you want, but if you keep accepting the same style e-mails and getting the same no shows... then maybe you need re-evaluate what you think a good e-mail intro should look like. I'm sure I'm perfect (or at least close) for many of the women I send e-mails to, but rarely get a response. No feedback, so I don't know what I did or didn't say that turned them off and can't fix it. Later, I see they are still looking. Go fig.

ThunderKat101 41F
14 posts
9/10/2005 6:12 pm

Well a little advice be more aggressive with letting the man know your time is valuable so don't waste it. That should be discussed first. Then you need to find a way to get to know them you can usually tell if a man is going to stand you up. There is hope too many of us female are actually having encounters you have to be pateint when you meet a new guy. Have you tried finding a group in your area in the groups section. That works too. Good luck

lookn4mykitten 46

9/10/2005 6:16 pm

You just haven't found the right guy yet sweetie. You have a very gorgous body, and I would love to take control of it. I won't stand you up and I can be very naughty all night.What are you interested in the area of Dom Sub? What are your limits?when ever you are free just let me know. I would love to evilly tease you luscious body and listen to you moan through your ball gag. MMMMM that would be a very buitiful sight to behold.

blueyeboy666 34M

9/10/2005 6:25 pm

u look good. a virgin advice: better go look 4 men someplace else. Here u'll find only horny pigs for whom love is not important. I like both women and men and hope to find one to love, just one. Think about it i dont want u crying. and yes it's so fucking hard to find a match ( maybe it doesnt exist at all).

funsailor84 32M

9/10/2005 6:58 pm

Relax and just take your time. I was on this site for a month before I actually started meeting anyone offline. Once you get to know a few people online, you'll sort of figure out your own way to determine who's for real and who's gonna fake out on you. From what I've been told, it's the guys on the site who tend to be the biggest flakes. You just have to be your own radar and weed out the phonies. Good luck.

rm_talldarkavg1 105M
10172 posts
9/13/2005 2:48 pm

Patience. It takes time to meet the right ones...and there are many.

[blog talldarkavg1]

Everquest1984 51M

9/20/2005 1:32 am

Playtimehottie you have been meeting the wrong guys hon. I promise I would never stand you up. You are extremely beautiful they are crazy to stand you up.

BonaeFlapsCyton 42M

9/29/2005 3:40 pm


the problem certainly isn't you, it's this web site and of course, many of the people on it (and maybe all the fake profiles are a problem too).

until the people running AdultFriendFinder decide to clean it up, you are going to have to continue to wade through all the crap, losers, fakes, etc... to find some actual people on here. i have met some AdultFriendFinder members - some are great, nice , attractive people - others are complete, desperate freaks. and still others have no spine and will stand you up.

the idea of this site is actually really cool, however these types of places attract a ton of people who couldn't get laid in a whorehouse with a fist full of $50s, and of course all the opportunists that are trying to gather email addresses to spam you.

if you stick with it, you'll meet some cool men and women, but as i have found out, it's WAY more work than it should be, and i'm not sure how much longer i'm going to continue my membership. i'm thinking it would be easier to go back to the bar scene and be much more up front about what i'm looking for. anyway, there's my 2 cents

Iluv2dou2 53
2 posts
10/1/2005 7:19 am

I would have to agree with some of the comments here. There are way to many fake profiles on here. Some it seems try to direct you to another site for one reason or another. Ever back in Tennessee look me up, guarantee there not to stand up a smile like yours. Of course the rest of your "profile" is something to behold too.

DDandNessa 62M/59F
140 posts
10/3/2005 7:20 pm

Contact us...

Babealicious241 53F

10/5/2005 8:09 am

It is a rule, I think: "You have to kiss a frog if you are looking for a Prince!"


griminflictor 49M
21 posts
10/11/2005 9:36 pm

Oooohhhh. leave it to Babealicious241 to come up with something witty and profound like that. haha JK babe. I'll keep the war in my blog. I know exactly where you are comming from playtime. It is the same for guys. Well it is for me. But I don't stand them up. I show up to their house to find that they gained 150 lbs and are married! Overnight, I might add. I don't lie about who I am. Why should they.
Well Miss X-All Around Bad Girl, count your blessings that this Bad Boy is so far away from you. Then again. I'm only an airline ticket away. BTW, thanks for posting in my blog. Hows the face muscles?


Babealicious241 53F

10/12/2005 11:20 am

Hey Playtime:

You may have just met your Dreamtime player. I sure hope so. He has been stalking me for years. Even follows me around on this web site. He has some really bad habits, but is good enough in bed to make you write bad checks!!! And, just so you know, that is not his hair. He is wearing a wig.


griminflictor 49M
21 posts
10/12/2005 5:15 pm

Ooohhh That is soooo not right Babe. DO NOT MESS WITH THE DEW! I see you can't take the heat in my blog, you have to run for new territory. Fall back and regroup. You needed to. And you know my hair is real. You tugged on it enough. And I don't follow you around. Playtime posted in my blog. I was returning the favor. I figured you sent her when I saw you were here also. And you know you like my attention. You keep coming back for more. But all bs aside. Playtimehottie is one smart cookie. She has beauty and brains. And is so well spoken. These guys here should be climbing over each other to get a shot at meeting this woman. I would walk to Oregon if I thought I had a shot.


rm_Orcyclist948 68M
1 post
10/14/2005 12:44 pm

Weel, having a vagina is not nearly as sexy as having a brain[ , which you seem to have based upon your post. If the brain is engaged or sexually excited then the body will follow - mostly anywhere.

Well, I was raised a catholic with one parent catholic and one jewish - now I don't need to tell you how that fucked me up. Guilt squared. I threw off the mantle of guilt a long time ago, but I didn't do it in a day, it took me a while. I guess I am a slow learner. I no longer am ashamed of who I am, what I do and what I think and desire. I am me. I think you will understand, based on your apporach. I have allowed this to permit me to experiment (ask me)

I have learned to dislike body hair and mine is also all gone. Bye-bye! Save some but wax "down there" I don NOT repeat DO NOT standf people up. GOlden rule - DO unt others is stall a good philosophy.

I can't say that I am an atheist, but I surely am agnostic. Hey dro me a line.

rm_yourroboman 47M

11/1/2005 1:55 pm

Damn Playtime,
Where were you and Babe hiding when I was looking? Oh well, such is life. Anyway, I saw a blog string and thought I would follow it. There is life in the pacific northwest after all. As for your visit from the grimster, careful it would appear he has a habit of leaving kids scattered all over the US, Canada looks to be safe cuz the feds are watching the boarder. Playtimehottie, very much a name that fits you well. Who knows when recess will come this way again.

rm_yngbrvheart 39M

11/11/2005 8:18 pm

sorry that you have had hurdles to JuMp! relax and ENJOY the RIDE

let me know how I can assist you along the journey!

I'm like the LEWIS & CLARK of AdultFriendFinder! haha

rm_balls4u57 59M
125 posts
11/21/2005 1:03 am

Playtimehottie -- u look hot - i don;t see why you should have any problem getting laid -- i am sure there will be a line of men wanting to you. Good luck. Hope you get the "fuck of the century".

laid_in_canada 49M

11/21/2005 10:35 pm

must be going around.

BouncyRedhead2 49F
6 posts
12/11/2005 1:20 am

Hi Playtimehottie,

I wish I could say yours was the only one time I have heard this. But it is not, no matter the location, the men here are either liers, or great stand-up artists. They make the dates and they just forget to keep them, or never really were going too in the first place. And somehow they expect us to forgive them and give them another chance and keep talking too them until we say HEll NO! Forget them and move on to the next one. You will find one or two soon. Just keep looking and Keep Smiling and they will find you. We should go out hunting for them in person.... Smiles BouncyRedhead2

6 posts
2/25/2006 9:17 am

Girl you are looking for women or couples right?I have hundreds of couples in my network but i barely DID one or two....they are writing to me begging and than dissapear...
when we are talking about men all different, they are real i can get one every day...my experience is bad with couples and girls

mikie598 42M

4/9/2006 1:51 am

you hotter then hell would love to do you..

knullakvinna 36M/36F

5/14/2006 5:58 pm

We are a couple that loves lovely, caring women we can relax with. We are real, and are into this because our female half loves pleasuring women, domming women, and watching them try to take my rather large endowment.

Drop us an email, and let's talk, for real.

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