Treating people like Friends You Just Haven  

playfulwithyou33 56F
520 posts
7/12/2005 3:07 am

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Treating people like Friends You Just Haven

Treating people like Friends You Just Haven't Met Yet

Why does it seem like some people are so skeptical of another's intentions? Are we so jaded (and tired of being burnt) that some of us are unwilling to give others a "chance"?

I try to take everything that people say at face value--believing them, until their actions tell me to do otherwise. I am hardly a gullible chump so I do not endorse sending money, or extending yourself beyond reasonable efforts, but why is it that more people can not just be civil to each other?

Perhaps if everyone just remembered to put forth that little effort to wave to someone, say hello, or just even smile--the world might be a more pleasant place.

Just my thoughts on the subject...Hope you have a great day!

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
7/12/2005 4:37 am

i agree and yty to do the same,i'm friendly with all but don't shit on me as i'm not so nice then

I'm a

i'm here to stay

GoddessOfTheDawn 105F
11240 posts
7/12/2005 4:38 am

playfulwithyou33, hope you have a great day yourself

and a smile or a hello don't cost a thing, and can bring such happiness ....

727jester 56M
1 post
7/12/2005 5:26 am

I have to agree with you, but I think the answer is simply that the site is so anonymous that reality hides here. There are so many desperate people on these sites that it wears you down weeding through them to get to some real folks. But we will endure, yes?
It would be lovely to meet you. I'm Jeff jester727

rm_talldarkavg1 105M
10172 posts
7/12/2005 6:32 am

Good folks behave like good folks. Butt munches behave like butt munches. No matter what we wish or prefer...people will always behave in accordance with their own nature.

[blog talldarkavg1]

Needzit2 56M

7/12/2005 10:55 am

Dear playfull,
I very much enjoy your responses in the blog world. I think you are quite nice and look forward to meeting you in person. When I do, I want to give you a big hug! It would be great if I could come to see you right now. You are a lovely girl (and hot so I may want to do more than just hug)and look forward to it.

pelican58us 59M
5 posts
7/12/2005 3:42 pm

Playful: You have such a nice blog. Verbal womem interest me. Not the verbal endless output of social chitchat that goes on and on, but a real conversation!

rm_bonfireguy 49M

7/12/2005 5:55 pm


thanks for the reminder...after learning a hard and heartfelt lesson, both in real life and here in cyber land: you get more with honey than with vinegar.

have a super week...

Peace, Love and Happiness!

daighi 49M
1449 posts
7/13/2005 11:57 am

I'm the same honey,I always take people at face value,& trust people until something happens to change my view otherwise.

Do you find though that sometimes we end up being disappointed by people some of the time?

If you do come across people who are uncivilised,maybe they have been disappointed too many times in there lives,& have just become intolerant to others.

I hope that you don't meet many negative people while here,or in your life.Your too nice to bother with those types of people.

How can i say that without really knowing you?Well just call it instinct!

Dave XX

"Always remember...keep smiling!"



expatbrit49 62M

7/13/2005 12:57 pm

Oh Im grumpy at my friends as well 363

Thank You for Your Time and Attention

GleesFlakyShawl 50M
1620 posts
7/13/2005 1:18 pm

have a great day u too, and glad u resume blogging....

rm_izittime 48M
1 post
7/13/2005 2:56 pm

Well, there is a first for everything I guess. I saw you commenting on BLOGS and thought I would take a look. So how cool is this, thanks for the education, I appreciate it. I also appreciate the sentiment here. I am usually the one who says Hi to people in the street or in the hall at work only to get nothing in response. While most of the time this doesn't bother me, there are days when I think to myself...Would it kill you to smile back, or nod or in the lease acknowledge the fact that I exist? Thanks again for educating me on BLOGS, I enjoyed reading the comments and thoughts. Have a fine day and an even better evening.

CasualHardWorker 52M
1 post
7/14/2005 10:11 pm

Excellent perspective. It's good to understand one side like you do, and then realize the other side of the coin. Make sure to flip it over before you assume everything is a mistake. Your words are too genuine to be unforgivable.

rm_bonfireguy 49M

7/15/2005 10:56 am

that's right CHW...

and make sure its not one of those two-headed coins!!!
yes - there are scoundrels out here, so be wary

interested13563 53M
2557 posts
7/15/2005 11:36 am

It is better to always start by assuming the best intentions
but with caution. Most people are not bad at all and want to
be treated as friends.

interested13563 53M
2557 posts
7/24/2005 10:25 pm

This comment does not belong here but I have been trying
to post replies and comments on the bloggers group site
and have failed for weeks. So, please, do not misunderstand
It also looks that going to the convention is getting
a little harder for me right now.

rubby68 48F

7/27/2005 5:48 pm

(waves hi to you) and i like the way you see's a great way..
Christine xo

rm_bonfireguy 49M

7/30/2005 8:22 am

A smile to a stranger you pass on the walk
opening a door for someone
saying hello

pretty simple and easy...

now try going out of your way for a friend...a letter or greeting card to someone you have not heard from for a while....thats nice.

and as far as ppl being jaded - it it sad playful...too many wacko's and weirdo's out there I guess???

I tend to trust ppl and have faith in my friends...but doing so has put me in situations where I can get my feelings hurt.

You have a wonderful dispostion about yourself...and that I admire as your friend.

Take care!

Barbiebunny69 43F

8/1/2005 11:46 am

Indeed kindness takes you a long way, but i am ashamed i do enjoy a good ruckus now and then

Harmon7 53M
17 posts
8/8/2005 7:16 pm

Every one starts as a possible friend to me until their actions tell me otherwise. It takes too much energy to deal with those who are set on ruining your day though. Then there are those who are just having a bad day, (we all have one once in a while) so I'll give people the benifit of a doubt in most cases.
How many times have you wished someone to "Have a good day" to hear not one response? I feel at times I give a little of myself to those I wish well to, especially if they are looking somewhat down in spirit, in hopes that it helps them thru their day. Sometimes it sounds so cliche though, but still I'll say it.

rm_affmin21 55M

8/10/2005 2:50 am

Playful wrote "why is it that more people can not just be civil to each other?"

I think there are lots of reasons. I think sometimes people don't realize they aren't being civil. Sometimes people are out just to raise a stink (those people really disappoint me).

And it is really a shame when people aren't civil. I've read all the Miss Manners books, and what I learned made my life _much_ easier. In other words, civility pays off.

For example, if a store goofs up an order, I don't scream and yell at them. I'm nice to them and point out that mistakes happen and they shouldn't feel too bad. Not only do I leave someone feeling better, but I almost always wind up getting better service than the people bitching and yelling.

Goldenhairgodess 63F
396 posts
9/16/2005 9:49 am

Hi Playful;
I agree with what you said. And I believe that some are truely Jaded by their experiences (God help them). And some are only fair weather friends or friends justlong enough to get laid. There is little you can do about "them". Just be careful about new people, and consider them aquaintences for a while before embracing them as friends. Real friends stand the test of time. The song "Smiling Faces" comes to mind. I do not remember the singers name though I remember all the words.

476 posts
9/21/2005 6:57 am

Hmmmmm, not to sound jaded or anything, but in the last six months I've been stood up at least six times.

One girl said we could meet at a restaurant, never showed. I called, my kid was sick she says, so I agree to try again. She gives me her address, I show up and it's her ex-boss she had an affair with.

One girl invited me over for a roll in the sack (it was 90 miles but hey I've driven farther), gave me directions, and talked to me on the phone the whole way down to meet her (till the last 10 minutes). When I knocked on the door her husband answered.

Another girl gave me her number and it turned out to be a nursing home.

Another girl cancelled six times.

Another girl was suppose to meet me at the mall, gave me her cell number to call if we missed each other, when I called I got an answering machine. We never met. When I finally called her back (at the same number) and she answered, she swore she was in the mall when I was there (so why did I get an answering machine). I tried to set up a time and place but she wouldn't commit.

Another girl won't return calls but will answer by email.

And then there's AdultFriendFinder - The World's Largest Sex and Swinger Personals Site where, as far as I can tell, 99% of the members are all talk. I've posted at least three opportunities for people to get together with very, very little response. In truth I've met a lot more people on FREE dating sites. Now I'm here for the blogs and interaction with the bloggers.

Like the buddist monk said, "The secret to bliss is lowered expectations."

Don't get me wrong, I still say, "hi" way too often, and I'm quick to extend my hand for a handshake, I still reply online to people that are "interested," and if someone wants to meet I will still show up. Some of the best friends I've made over the past ten years have been people I met through the internet in one way or another.

So, maybe I am jaded a little bit, but I haven't given up hope. I just want to know, "Is it too much to ask that people interact with some personal integrity?"

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