How long does it take you to recover?  

penelope474 46F
24 posts
7/1/2005 5:43 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

How long does it take you to recover?

Yep, definitely feeling better!

Just emailed a guy here who was recently divorced. (Been there, done that.)

It brought to mind a question/theory I have about breaking up. True or not, it seems to me that when women break up, they grieve. They wallow. They experience the emotions. They take time to heal.

Men... I wonder if the way they heal is by jumping into a new bed/relationship?

Now, I'm not saying one is bad and the other is good. To each his own.

Me: I didn't date 'til 2 years after the divorce.
My Ex: Dating again within a few months.
My Hubby: Seeing someone (not me) 2 months into his separation!

I'm just wondering, what's average/typical for guys, and what's average/typical for girls?

I have a friend who broke up with his long-time girlfriend. From what I hear, she's heartbroken. Him? He's already dating his dental hygienist. I'm happy for him. I'm sad for her. Oh well. To each his own.

DougSensual 48M
59 posts
7/1/2005 10:24 pm

Okay, so I'm about a year on the other side of my big D, and was separated for about a year before that. I haven't had a real date since.

I can only speak for this guy. There is a certain element where my needs are met though physical relationship. My immature side says that that's what I need to be fulfilled. In reality, I'd be settling for so much less if I stopped only there and didn't actually get to know the girl on a more emotional and intelectual level.

This is a case where the grass ain't always greener on the other side. In this case, though, he may not see the different shades of color.


rm_ghoststory3 61M
1 post
7/2/2005 11:21 pm

well i'm recently divorced and my ex is out and about. i'm feeling the hurt and emotions. not ready to explore yet. too many years in the relationship and feelings to just act like nothing happened. so i also feel the grieve and emotions

sandhazard 54M
129 posts
7/11/2005 6:51 pm

It was about 8 months after the divorce was final before I got back in the dating saddle. It was really tough.

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