UP IN ME?!?!?  

patsam69 51M/51F
704 posts
6/23/2005 7:59 am

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UP IN ME?!?!?

I am chatting this morning with this guy from here. He is younger than I ususally like...but he sent me pics and was kinda cute..so I figured no harm in chatting. We chat the other day, and I got a hint at a cocky attitude...but I let it slide. He asked me the usual what do u like sexual questions, and I answered them. He asked when we could meet...I said I didnt know, we have kids...the usual. Well today he is on and we say hi..he says it was nice chatting with me the other day (nice)other pleasantries...and he then he jumps in to when are we gonna meet? I tell him We have family obligations and then a vacation we probably won't be going out for at least a month. He says he understands...I say thanks. Then...here it comes....he says...
HIM: You need a 27 year old up in you
ME: excuse me?
HIM: I said you need a 27 year old like me inside you.
ME: and why would that be?
HIM: because it would feel really good
ME: and you are so sure about that?
HIM: yes
ME: No thank you...I don't need anything UP IN me.
especially a cocky little boy.
HIM: well that is a change of heart
ME: Is it?
HIM: actually, yeah. You offended?
ME: I don't recall say that I wanted to fuck you...u assumed that yourself
HIM: my misunderstnding
ME: No..it takes alot more to offend me
HIM: well I guess the offer is out there
ME:thank you anyway....but i think i will stick with men who know how to talk to women
HIM:you are offended
ME: I am not offended....you and I don't know each other well enough for u to offend me.
HIM: okay

I didnt say anything else...and neither did he.

Is this how men are taught to talk to women? Or is it because we are on a sex site that they think they can get away with this? Personally, I don't like being spoken to this way right off the bat. Many men have made pleasant converstion for the first few chats, and wait for me to talk sex, or they slide a couple of questions in to feel me out. But why do some assume that because I say they are cute that means I want to fuck them? and some..i haven't even said that!
My husband says it is they way we meet. It is a sex site. I am aware of this. But because I say hello and tell you that I like oral when you ask me if I do doesn't mean I want you UP IN me.

I suppose some women like this? Do they really? Is that what many of them want? To be spoken to and used as a sex toy? Not me. If you want to get to know me...ask me about me and let me learn about you for at least 10 minutes please!

I would like to blame it on his age, but I have had older men speak to me that way also...so I don't believe age is the reason.

frank5819 58M  
3 posts
6/23/2005 3:24 pm

sam no men are not taught to talk that way. i think they should be treated with respect.

patsam69 51M/51F

6/23/2005 4:08 pm

who should be treated with respect...the men? or the women? or how about both?

play4fun3642 54M/48F

6/23/2005 4:41 pm

Sam..... "up in you" ??? could this be proctologist?? talk about a smooth talker..... he sounds like he is very impressed with himself..... which is good because I don't think anyone else is

frank5819 58M  
3 posts
6/23/2005 6:57 pm

i think both should be treated with respect. you should treat someone the way you would want to be treated

AltumHunksUnite 53M

6/23/2005 8:04 pm

I believe many guys act and react the way they do here because of the way this site is marketed to them. Don't mistake this as an excuse for Mr. 27-year-old's behavior, but A-F-F is sold to guys as a banner on adults sites, or as a teaser to go along with a montage of sex pics, including the message "Join A-F-F today, get laid tonight, just like the guy in these pics". Once again, it's no excuse.

An intelligent man will figure out on his own that the women in here are just regular women, with feelings, lives, dreams, desires, etc., just like all the other personals sites. It's possible that Mr. 27-year-old will figure that out if he sticks around long enough. Otherwise, he's wasting his money... and trying your patience.

Let me drive. I like the view

Apolybear 54M

6/23/2005 9:30 pm

See, that's the issue with youngsters. They look great, then they say something and ruin it..lol

The problem is, men of all ages don't get any training on how to interact with women. They don't realize that women aren't testosterone driven horn dogs like they are, so they just blurt that stuff out.

Kinda sad actually...

Take care Sam

patsam69 51M/51F

6/25/2005 6:30 pm

Play4fun...LMAO!! I think even a proctologist has smoother moves than this guy.

patsam69 51M/51F

6/25/2005 6:34 pm

Cleavis...I undertand the fact that a WEBSITE says they will get laid tonight. But as you say, theat is not an excuse. Men should understand that this is not a call girl service. I wish more of them could be as real and sweet as you are!

Bear...I don't have training on how to talk to men. I just talk to them like they are people. Why is that hard for men to do? Testosterone or not! Even on my horniest day I would not degrade myself that way. O.K. welll...with my hubby I would

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

6/25/2005 10:19 pm

It seems the loozer-mobil arrives in everyone's town at sometime.

They do not "get it" and think everyone woman should be their personal call girl, and serve no other purpose in life.

Luckily there are those few who you connect with that makes it all worth it.

AltumHunksUnite 53M

6/27/2005 12:48 pm

Ah, you make a good point... the website can say what it wants, but it doesn't speak for you.

Only you and your hubby speak for you.

Let me drive. I like the view

Apolybear 54M

6/29/2005 2:31 pm

Easy for you to say Sam. You don't have all that testosterone running through your veins...lol

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