The second guy  

patsam69 51M/51F
704 posts
8/18/2005 6:32 am

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The second guy

I had recently posted about seeing the first guy we met on AdultFriendFinder at the grocery store. Well, I also had a recent encounter with the second guy we met too. It was through e mail, and it was not pleasant. Let me geve you some background first.

We had been on AdultFriendFinder a few weeks, and R e mailed us. I chat with him a few times and we got along fine. After about 3 weeks, we met at a local bar. Things went great. He and my hubby got along wonderfully. I was attracted to him, and apparently he was attracted to me, cause he came home with us. Needless to say, we had some great sex. The man came 3 I am thinking he liked me, right? We chat a few times the week after, and It being the summertime, and the kids out of school, my kids slept at friends house, and R came over again. And again...really good sex, great chemistry...great time. I think about a week went by again, and My husband and I were getting ready to go away on vacation. I wanted another meeting with R before we left. My friend could watch the kids that Friday, but R was not avaliable. So, we made plans for Thursday, but the kids would be here. I met him at a bar in a local restaurant. The plan was that My husband would get the kids to bed...then we would come back to the house. When I got to the bar he was there. He was already drinking tangeuray gin and orange juice. When I went to kiss him hello he kind of backed up and looked surprised. to make a long story short, he drank a lot. probably 4 gin and O.j.'s in the space of an hour and a half. I hinted at that he was drinking so much...perhaps he didn't want to be there? He said no and gave me a story as to how alcohol doesnt affect him like other people. he can even take cold medicine and it doesnt do anything...blah, blah, blah. I don't believe him, but he says he wants to come back to the house, and we go. When we get to the house, I ask him to get in my car. (hubby and I had talked about being alone with him for a few minutes before we came in the house) We start kissing and touching in the car, and I want more...but I had to pee!! Then My husband came outside to see what was going on, and took a picture through the window. We all laughed, but I think it may have weirded R out. We go in the house, and start to fool around. Things are going fine....R is going down on me and I am sucking hubby's cock. Then they switch. I get on all fours for hubby to fuck me from behind, and To suck R's cock. But as I am doing this...R loses his erection. I try...I really do. I lay him on the bed and try....but nothing. I stop because I don't want it to seem like a big deal, because it isn't. We are all adults, and we are all supposed to be friends. Shit happens. No big deal. any husband leaves the room for us to be alone and talk. He tells me he is tired. He cut down trees that day...I think its the alcohol, but dont say that. After a bit he says he is going to go. O.k. Pleasantries to you soons...good night.
Well , guess what? Never heard from him again. I tried to call him twice. Wanted to know if he was alive after drinking and then driving home. No response. I IM'd him in yahoo a few times...nothing. After a couple of weeks...I tried to write him on AdultFriendFinder to say...WTF??? He had me blocked!!!! I douldn't beleive it. I was hurt. What had we done to deserve this? So, anyway that was that.

A little more than a year has gone by now. about 2 weeks ago I am checking my e mail from a yahoo group I belong to. And I see a general e mail to the group. It is him. .... 34 year old male...looking for single ladies and couples, yada, yada, yada. I couldn't help myself...I got pissed all over again. Pissed that he treated us that way. At least tell people you don't want to do this anymore. HE had said that we were friends....When I met him some guy had just blown us off, and he said he would NEVER do anything like that. Yeah right! Have some simple human decency for crying out loud! just an e mail would have been enough if you are too chicken to call. Sooooo... I responded to his post. I simply wrote...So, I see you are still fucking people and then never speaking to them again? is what he wrote back....

You can just FUCK OFF. It's quite obvious that YOU are the one w/ the issues. It's also Quite obvious that I made the right decision not to talk or correspond w/ you any further because you have shown quite well that YOU are a vindictive BITCH that just can't let go. IT'S JUST SEX. GET IT THROUGH YOUR FAT FUCKING SKULL YOU FUCKING IGNORANT BITCH. AND LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


I sat here at my computer laughing.

I resonded with....R, LMAO. Thanks for the good laugh.

He then responded with more profanity...and something about me not being able to read cause he told me not to write him again.
Don't worry... I won't! What makes someone sooo angry. What did I do to him? Yes, What I wrote was a bit vindictive as the whole yahoo group could read it. BUT...He screwed me over first. least I did learn something from this experience. I learned that you cannot really trust anything anyone says in this lifestyle. (except for me...cause I am honest! ) And It also helped me at the beginning of our swinging endeavors to separate feelings and sex. He made me realize I DON'T have to care about someone to fuck them. It can just be a fun time. Being in monogomous relationships all of my life, and being a woman..LOL...I always wanted feelings served with my sex. Live and learn, right?

ByteChaser2 53M

8/18/2005 8:08 am

Serious hormonal imballance I suspect...Bi-polar perhaps? Can you say... "Psycho"?

More than likely, just a deep-seeded self loathing for his *perceived* failure. Embarrassed males tend to get hostile and vindictive, particularly when they perceive a sexual inadequacy. Don't get me wrong... Any guy with a healthy measure of self awareness understands that this happens. Hell, it's happened to me a few times... It's only a failure when you can't get past it!

Stans right too. Wish em well, turn the page and start a new chapter!

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

8/18/2005 9:41 pm


That would really put a damper on hotwife/swinging. I bet bytechaser is right he felt embarressed and could not cope with it.
at least the sex was good and you can rememebr that

yummy those memories!

excited045 57M
92 posts
8/19/2005 2:20 am

sounds like a jerk(understatement) You are the bigger person, Iagree with all the above I bet prozac iis in the picture somewhere.

patsam69 51M/51F

8/19/2005 6:26 am

Frnds4play....he never gave me the chance to wish him the best! And miss Manners needs to get with the time! LOL. I woul LOVE to read that article in the Sunday paper!

Byte...I have thought that maybe he was embarrassed, but come on...grow up. really not a biggie.

patsam69 51M/51F

8/19/2005 6:29 am

P N S....It DID put a damper on swinging for me. It was the beginning of our lifestyle change..which is forever an ongoing learning experience. At the time I didn't want to do it anymore. I didn't want to put trust into ANY other person. I felt deceived. But...eventually I go over it...and as I said, it did helpe me separate sex and feelings.

pakrat1 49M/48F
33 posts
10/7/2005 10:40 am

maybe it was a combination of two things that made him that way sam....his inability that night to preform and the fact that maybe...just maybe he couldn't separate feelings and sex and knew he couldn't have you all to himself....just a thought....needless to say, the way he went about it just showed he was a jerk and your better off never speaking with him again.

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