Surprise, Surprise!  

patsam69 51M/51F
704 posts
6/5/2005 7:44 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Surprise, Surprise!


I have a great dinner with my husband...really yummy food, good conversation. I go to the ladies room...my cell rings...it's him. He doesn't want to meet us at the swinger's house. O.k. I say no problem. He is not comfortable going there. He goes into a story of how he had been there before and things happened. I will not disclose all of the details. Plus, I don't feel like typing them! Anywho, He asks me if we are going to go to the house anyway. I say, I don't know. We had planned on meeting him. Did he want to meet elsewhere? I get total silence. I joke and say to my husband, who is staring at me, "He is giving me the silent treatment." He says...get this..."I am just trying to figure out what I want to do."
Well, I got the hint. If you have to think that long about whether you can pull a pair of jeans on and meet us at a bar to see if we click...then you don't really want to meet us.
So I say..If you want we can do this another time. and , surprise surprise, He says o.k. another time.

I see him in yahoo today. So I ask him what happened. He tells me the swingers house story again. I say yes, I know...but we said we would meet you somewhere else. He doesn't answer. time goes by and he goes off line. No response. Nothing.

What is with these guys? that is 3 strikes for me now. I don't know what I am doing wrong. We had met a few guys last year and everything went well. This year so far, a big zero.

I think it may be that I don't promise sex. I always say lets meet first..cause you never know what will happen when we see each other face to face. My time for going out is limited...these kids that live with me cramp my lifestyle!!
So, if I do set up a meeting, I usually know that I want to get physical. But I do not want to promise this. What if he doesn't like me? plus, if you are really looking for friends with benefits, why would meeting for a drink first be such a hassle?

I bet if I said meet me at the holiday inn...room 217 he would have been there!

My husband says all men are dogs. I refuse to belive this. Perhaps I am just a sucker. I think I may give up on the MFM thing. it has been 7 months since we have done it. I am so tired of chatting and then nothing. I becomes draining. OH WELL.

Hubby and I did go to the swingers party. We did not hook up with anyone, but had a great time anyway. I always have a great time with him. And I had sex anyway...so I guess the guy who stood us up lost! I hope you all had a good weekend.

teachhotnique 52M

6/6/2005 6:50 am

I feel bad for you. Imagine, a woman who wants mfm and these men are the one's backing out...lol. My wife an I had a love making date set for last night, but we got into a fight and I ended up sleeping on the couch. So at least you did get some!! ha ha


Apolybear 54M

6/6/2005 9:01 am

Sweetie, it's not you. Trust me. Like I said in your last post, men get cold feet when it's time to produce the goods. Yes, some are dogs, but there are some good ones out there. Now, they may not live in Florida... Hey, if you give up threesomes, that will give you more time to blog. Our gain, his loss


patsam69 51M/51F

6/6/2005 10:43 am

Can you believe it Teach? Dissed again. I tell you ..men suck! (nothing personal) I can't understand why we are having such a problem. SIGH.


play4fun3642 54M/48F

6/6/2005 5:19 pm

awww sam..... i think i am going to set up a date night with you & maybe we can try & turn each other on to women..... lol..... you know my feeling...... i say the guys that say they are going to meet you are married or just on here playing games..... kinda feel like you are in high school again huh?


patsam69 51M/51F

6/6/2005 6:44 pm

Bear, I don't know...sometimes I think it is me. How many times can a girl be rejected before she gives up? I know there has to be a nice guy out there who will fuck me for who I am! LOL

I know I will keep trying , but I am becoming more jaded as time goes on.


patsam69 51M/51F

6/6/2005 6:46 pm

play4fun......wouldn't oor husbands love that!?! Except we might get pissed when they are thinking about baseball instead of watching us!


Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

6/9/2005 12:52 pm

Hey
As a couple with the same situations as you. Family, work, ect makes the time limited. We have had many many "ghosts" they just flake out and are never heard from again.
Like you we do not say hotel room 666 right now! Friend with benefits not free call girl for everyone.
Do take heart there are others in the same situation, and it is NOT you at all. We been trying on and off for four (4) years and only one encounter. You have to have much better luck than we have.

Best wishes and have fun


patsam69 51M/51F

6/9/2005 5:10 pm

Thanks P&S...I know it is not me...(I think)...but it gets so frustrating at times. I think there may only be one guy out there who really wants friends with benefits. And damnit all...I am gonna find him! (maybe..LO


Apolybear 54M

6/10/2005 9:15 pm

Ok Sam, repeat after me: I will not let others affect how I feel about myself. I'm desirable and men would be lucky to be with me…

I know I would!


rich4812 63M  
26 posts
6/12/2005 6:51 am

It"s to bad your not in Montana. I would love to do you any which way.


expatbrit49 62M

6/19/2005 10:48 am

Woof Woof LOL

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