Friends with benefits?  

patsam69 51M/51F
704 posts
4/13/2005 8:07 am

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Friends with benefits?

I am extremely curious to know...Is this really possible? Can people hang out, have fun, knock back a few drinks , some food maybe, then get down and dirty, say goodbye and do it all again over and over without any emotional ties?

I am finding in my own life, that this seems hard to attain. I thought I had it once..unfortunatley the guy turned out to be a liar. Have been looking for this type of "relationship" since. But due to schedules, kids, and life in has been slow going.

Would love to hear of anyone that has or has had an ongoing friends with benefits relationship. I need inspiration! Thanks!

Apolybear 54M

4/13/2005 7:40 pm

I've had these kinds of friendships before. It's definately possible but, as you've figured out, you need the right friend.

You could attend a swingers party. Everyone there is into recreational sex (no strings or attachments). However, there will be lots of couples there. But, there will be singles too. That might be a good place to find a partner.

Hang in there. Feel free to check out my blog. I have some lifestyle stuff there you might find interesting...

Tala4u2 54M  
2957 posts
4/14/2005 12:12 am

Yes I have and still do have friends with benefits. Some are single women and some are married women who swing. One thing ids crucial to these freindships the rules must be in stone and no changes once they are set. When I go out on a date with the Swinging Babe, she phone s her husband when we are out to say where we are, hee hee and somtimes what hi jinks we are up to. Once I even met him and a g/f at a party and that was a laugh. Good party too. The guy must be informed that he is an ;'Accesory' to your marital harmony this is so important. I can't speak for other guys but I do not play with attached women often but sometimes I meet one who is nice and good fun to be around.

Tala, Wizard of The Kingdom of BooBoBia, DEITY,


4/14/2005 12:57 am

I have been in a WFB relationship with the same man for almost 6 years now , he is my best friend and is always there for me and NOT just for sex , although I do have to admit there are alot of e3motional ties there, but I do not ask him for anything more than hes willing to give and vise versa

Apolybear 54M

4/14/2005 8:17 pm

Patsam69, thanks for comments on my blog.

You may have the wrong impression of me. I'm not cheating on my wife. We have an open marriage like you do. Only, we prefer to seek out partners separately, and not as a couple.

My wife and I have experimented with different kinds of alternative lifestyles before we figured out what worked for us. We tried swinging, but my wife didn’t like all the aggressive sexual energy at the parties. Also, because my wife is heterosexual, she didn’t appreciate all the unwanted advances from very aggressive bi-women. I, however, was like a kid in a candy store…lol.

We tried a few threesomes and hooked up with a few straight couples, but we had mixed results. A majority of our lovers were only interested in us as sex partners. Whereas, we were looking for real friendships that happen to include benefits.

We’ve always been comfortable being close friends with our lovers and even having emotional ties with those rare souls who could handle such a relationship. Finding one person like that is tough enough without having to find a compatible couple, so we now look separately for our lovers.

Btw, my wife and I used to live in St. Petersburg and I know Brooksville very well. Anyway, good luck with everything…

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