F***ing and the female orgasm  

patsam69 51M/51F
704 posts
4/7/2005 6:16 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

F***ing and the female orgasm

The other night I am chatting with this very nice gentleman that I am thinking of meeting one day soon. He says to me...I want to see if I can make you cum without penetration. So I say...I bet you can! I explain to him that I cannot cum with penetration alone. I, like many women, need a good clit rub to get off. Of course, he was fine with that..and does he really have a choice? LOL

This got me thinking again about how men are in the dark about female anatomy. Being a sexual person, and having an interest in science and anatomy (yeah right) I have read a few books on the subject of womens sexual health. I found in my research that only 10 to 15% of women can orgasm with penetration ONLY. No finger rubbing, vibrator pulsing...Just pure F***ing.

Now, my sister cums with penetration, and I do not. and yes, I am jealous. So, If I were in a room with my sister and 98 other women only my sis and maybe 14 other women will orgasm with penetration. The other 85 of us need the clit rub. (Which is sooooo not a bad thing)
BUT..if there were 100 men standing with us,ALL 100 of them would think that we could cum by them sticking their cock in us. (HMMM JUst had a vision..LO OK...maybe 95 of them...Gonna give some of you experienced guys the benefit of the doubt.

I wondered why so many men think this? and I know that they do because I have talked with many, many of them. I have had to explain this to every partner that i have had, and have gotten some confused reactions. I think it may be lack of communication....So many people have NO problem getting naked and screwing...but talk about sex? OH NO!!! can't do that! Ladies...tell your men. They cannot read minds. I have a friend that does orgasm, but then will throw a few fakes in for good measure. I told her she is ruining it for the rest of us that do not fake. What is the point of faking? You are robbing yourself. And if you moan and groan and tell your man that you came from his cock inside u alone...you are essentially lying to him and cheating yourself of something wonderful.

PLUS...pornos. I am a porno advocate. I like to watch them with my husband and then go at it. But....some young (and not so young) men see these and think it is reality. These are not learning tools!! LOL...communicate people!

I know some women have vaginal orgasms..not just clitoral...and to you I say..LUCKY!!!

I guess what I would like to ask is this...How many of you AdultFriendFinder ladies can cum with penetration alone? No finger rubbing...not vibrators helping you along.

I would ask the men if they know if their ladies are faking...but I don't think I will get honest answers!!LOL

boundandwet 62M/F
2 posts
4/7/2005 8:26 am

I was married for 20 years to a woman who never orgasmed and could not be encouraged to explore the matter. Some years later I find myself with a magical lady who is multi orgasmic. We are in heaven - vaginal orgasms, clitoral orgasms, nipple sucked orgasms, rope tied orgasms,phone call orgasms and combinations which make for varied chains of orgasmic experience. It seems that they're in the mind and wherever you can tune your mind into. Well that's just a humble male observation, but they're great, I love them and I do whatever I can to just keep 'em cumming !

patsam69 51M/51F

4/7/2005 9:27 am

mzhunyhole...thats right!! We women need to help ourselves and make the most of the experience!

boundandwet....I am soooooooo envious!!

horny4threeways 35M/36F

4/9/2005 11:55 am

Its mostly in the mind and the rest is technique.We all have a g-spot and I'm sure with good communication and some practise,you will get there.Tip.Dont be in a hurry to orgasm.Theres nothing like a good waterfall and when this happens you'll never look back.Good luck and have fun practising!

rm_l_pug 44F

4/17/2005 5:06 pm

My boyfriend and I have discovered that I'm able to cum from penetration alone without any manual stimulation. However, it only happens when I'm on top facing him and he's sitting up. The reason I think this is is in this position I can make sure his cock hits my G-spot, and at the same time his pelvic area grinds against my clit. It's that indirect clitoral stimulation that does it. Even so, at least for me it takes longer than a clitoral orgasm. Even if we have extended foreplay, I still usually need at least 15-20 mins of steady penetration to get that first orgasm, but after that I can usually have 3 or 4 in a relatively short time. It's well worth the wait!

patsam69 51M/51F

4/17/2005 7:02 pm

cruehead.....OH NO!!!! I am sorry to hear that u kept that from him for so long...but am glad that u resolved things...congrats! and enjoy!

patsam69 51M/51F

4/18/2005 10:38 am

I pug....thanks for the tip...will have to try that...and yes, I am sure it is worth the wait!

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