My philosophy about receiving WINKS  

pashunateatty 57M
13 posts
8/29/2005 8:27 am

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My philosophy about receiving WINKS

My philosophy about receiving WINKS

Love those Winks, but they are tough for me to figure out! Thanks to all you ladies who send me a wink!

Ah, but here's the rub: When a lady won't take the time to write me an email, then how much impact did i really have on her? I don't like wasting time creating dead end personalized replies.

Here's something I wonder about winkers: Are there so many guys of interest to the winker on A-F-F that the winker is too busy to take the time to reach out personally to me? From my profile the winker should be able to deduce that I am very verbal and would appreciate a more meaningful initial verbal connection.

ALSO: A personalized reply helps me figure out whether the winker is really a female! Lots of males create female personas. I want to be able to detect a feminine aura from the profile and initial contact.

On the other hand, if the winker is just too shy to reach out more meaningfully, that might make the winker seem more complex and could make her more appealing!

I love to think of the mystery of a woman who has a deeply passionate soul that wants to express itself, and so she comes on A-F-F, and yet she can keep the intensity a bit inside herself for awhile. And so she approaches men very gingerly at first, just to see if the guy is really as safe as he might appear. Hence, she only winks at first. Depending on a lady's profile, I might decide she fits into this category.

BUT - I never know what is really going on in a lady's head if all I get is a wink. All kinds of things pro and con run thru my head. Is she a super slutty thing grazing and firing shots at lots of guys? Or is she feeling a strong possible connection with a guy like me and wanting to create some mystery? Who knows!

And so I'm torn about whether to spend any time on a personalized reply. I check out the lady's profile if they wink, and deduce what I can, and then make my decision about whether she is potentially sincere.

Sometimes I check out a winker's profile and don't follow up. Usually that means I saw something in the profile that mean a low likelihood of a good connection. But I could have been wrong!

If you Wink at me and don't get a wink or a personalized email in return, you need to sell me on the connection.

To sell me on the connection, a lady can send me a follow up email and tell me more about herself, and flesh out her profile a bit, taking into account the things I like (as stated in my profile). She can show me a side of herself that I might find appealing that might Not be reflected in her profile.

Love those Winks, though!

justsayhi2005 51F

8/29/2005 10:16 am

Perhaps an email reply simply saying hello and asking the winker if she is interested or merely one of the "super slutty grazing things"?

hotandhorny107 58F

8/29/2005 10:50 am

Okay, here is my reason for winking. I am a standard member which means I can browse the site for men that may interest me. However, I cannot always initiate contact with silver/gold members. So I wink at them. If they are interested after checking my profile they can write and then I can respond.

As to being winked at, this is where it does get tricky. Lots of guys see my photos and wink, never even looking at my information. A lot of thought went into my profile and it took some time to get it just so. But a lot of times it obviously does not get read, because when I get winks I look at the profile and it is far from what I am really looking for. But if something interests me I may make contact anyway just out of curiosity. Often one can never tell by what is written here and in a picture, so I will chat/Email and if there is an interest do a face to face somewhere public. Then if it works, more is to come in the future.

Bossman18013 53M/53F

8/29/2005 10:55 am

I like your philosphey, but maybe its as simple as the girl is a standard member and cant send an email, she can only wink at you.
Maybe she just wants to see if your interested but is a little old fashion and wants you to make the first move, LOL, or doesnt want to waste your time with an email, she figures you will check her profile if you like what you see then you will contact her. Just a thought.

redmustang91 57M  
8656 posts
8/29/2005 11:04 am

I sometimes wink at ladies that have set rules which prevent emails on the chance they might decide I was too good and make an exception for me! Has not happened yet!

rm_Joybaby2004 70F
1 post
8/31/2005 5:32 pm

We wink because; we are not paying customers and thats about all we can do. We wait for a response from the other person.

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