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parkingspacereq 45M
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8/3/2006 10:53 am

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angry


As some of you may know that i very rarely get cross or angrry but right now i am. do you want to know the reason why??? well tuff i'm going to tell you. Its the ffffing ex. how can people become so evil and vindictive. she may have reasons and i accept that but why get the kids involved is beyond what is neccessary. what she says and wants to do to me is irrelevant and does not bother me as we are both better of on our own.
but to use the only thing she knows she has that will affect me is just plain evil. i know you will all say that the kids will eventually see the light and all will be ok but i went to see them today and my sons face was one of pure hatred at me and that hurts.
to give you a brief background this is all about selling the house and me being accused of putting them out on the street and making them move. now please tell me that in most marriage breakups the house is normally sold or one party has to buy the other one out if they want to stay there, i dont know this but this is what i understand. all i want is my share so i can move on and start a new chapter of my life, as i am sure she does as well. also there was no one else involved in the breakdown we just fell out of love.
sorry to rant and rave but i just need to get this off my chest and hopefully later oon tonight i will have got over this and will post a cheerful post lol
pxx


parkingspacereq 45M

8/3/2006 5:00 pm

    Quoting blonde367:
    Dont get me fucking started, glad u brought this up cos was gonna do a blog later bout it that would have been 10 pgs fucking long..my sale fell thru today, on the day of signing, everything done, conveyancing, survey the lot,,like a fucking briar..not sure how it works up there, but do know here I couldnt be forced to sell with a minor in the house till he reached a certain age,,i just did cos i couldnt afford to keep it running and needed to free the equity on the house and head for the country somewhere..hope it all works out ok for u, going to watch the end of BB and chill..i need a take away, my comfort food..will UPS up a portion to ya xoxo J
am so sorry, knew how much you had planned, but another buyer will come soon. and thanks for the curry, best get you one back, i have their number so will phone it through


rm_xxSpecialKxx 45F
1614 posts
8/3/2006 6:14 pm

<------ first of all hugs 4 u xx

Hunny sorry your goin through a crap time its a really sad thing when someone we decide is the 1 and things go wrong and that love turns to bitterness and hate and all the good times you once shared are no longer addressed all thats left & shown is sourness ya not alone trust me im going through similar issues was with hubby 9 yrs married for 6 no children thank goodness would hate for them to suffer through our selfishness etc! the break up very messy domestic violence police involvement resulting in trial taking place in august but although hes on bail his vindictive side has taken over and his sanity clearly jaded he s been constantly intimmidating me by visiting my father who has alzeimers and who he never visited when we were together , phone calls visits to my work , sendin his 17 yr old son round , and most recent was lump of dog shit stuffed through my letter box yep people really can get nasty when something they once had power over is no longer there hunny be strong ya gonna get through this & your son will remember how good a dad you are & yes he's probably going to go through many motions of bitterness and hate towards you but if thats all he s hearing its in evitable he;ll feel hostile,& he'd never hate you hes probablu scared confused , unsure, feels let down maybe & angry but not hate x however all those feelings he experiencing are natural and he'll also at some point stop taking on the bad things people are saying &want to seek his own answers and from you just be patient, dont rise to her bait, she wants that ,it isnt going to be an easy ride but bide your time take each day as it comes and let him come to you when he's ready! because its almost certain he will big hugs x hunny


rm_gata11459 57F
10597 posts
8/3/2006 8:52 pm

parky, im sorry to hear you are going thru this. I never worried about it much as i always kept the kids and i always paid for the house and all the insides.. i have never let anyone take control of anything that had to do with my kids. I know many marriages are different, and that is maybe the reason that none of mine ever worked, as i have never trusted anyone to take care of me or my kids. Most marriages are a partnership, and that is where the pain comes into play. I always felt it was ok for me to hurt but didnt want them involved or to suffer along with it. I hope things straighten up for you hun.. if it doesnt leave the house to them hun.. it is money, that shouldn't be allowed to come between you and your kids.. she can pay you something or take the money from your child support.. there should be an easy solution here that wont take your kids away from you xoxox god bless parky xoxo k

Peace xxx K


parkingspacereq 45M

8/4/2006 5:12 am

    Quoting rm_xxSpecialKxx:
    <------ first of all hugs 4 u xx

    Hunny sorry your goin through a crap time its a really sad thing when someone we decide is the 1 and things go wrong and that love turns to bitterness and hate and all the good times you once shared are no longer addressed all thats left & shown is sourness ya not alone trust me im going through similar issues was with hubby 9 yrs married for 6 no children thank goodness would hate for them to suffer through our selfishness etc! the break up very messy domestic violence police involvement resulting in trial taking place in august but although hes on bail his vindictive side has taken over and his sanity clearly jaded he s been constantly intimmidating me by visiting my father who has alzeimers and who he never visited when we were together , phone calls visits to my work , sendin his 17 yr old son round , and most recent was lump of dog shit stuffed through my letter box yep people really can get nasty when something they once had power over is no longer there hunny be strong ya gonna get through this & your son will remember how good a dad you are & yes he's probably going to go through many motions of bitterness and hate towards you but if thats all he s hearing its in evitable he;ll feel hostile,& he'd never hate you hes probablu scared confused , unsure, feels let down maybe & angry but not hate x however all those feelings he experiencing are natural and he'll also at some point stop taking on the bad things people are saying &want to seek his own answers and from you just be patient, dont rise to her bait, she wants that ,it isnt going to be an easy ride but bide your time take each day as it comes and let him come to you when he's ready! because its almost certain he will big hugs x hunny

thanks hun for your words, it kinda puts my problems into insignificance with what you are having to deal with, no one needs shit like that either to worry about. why cant partners just agree on things nicely and move on. - oh for a perfect world lol. keeping fingers crossed for you xxxxx


parkingspacereq 45M

8/4/2006 5:13 am

    Quoting rm_gata11459:
    parky, im sorry to hear you are going thru this. I never worried about it much as i always kept the kids and i always paid for the house and all the insides.. i have never let anyone take control of anything that had to do with my kids. I know many marriages are different, and that is maybe the reason that none of mine ever worked, as i have never trusted anyone to take care of me or my kids. Most marriages are a partnership, and that is where the pain comes into play. I always felt it was ok for me to hurt but didnt want them involved or to suffer along with it. I hope things straighten up for you hun.. if it doesnt leave the house to them hun.. it is money, that shouldn't be allowed to come between you and your kids.. she can pay you something or take the money from your child support.. there should be an easy solution here that wont take your kids away from you xoxox god bless parky xoxo k
cheers hun, i know things will get sorted out xxxx


yerwansbrother 104M
8 posts
8/4/2006 5:40 am

Feckin women only good for one thing and that ain't cooking


amber3471 45F

8/4/2006 6:15 am

Parky hun you know im in the same predicament..so decided to sell it and move on, as if you both cant come to a decision you will do nothing but argue over it..and will never get on with your life, you can force sale on the house if its in joint ownership as I found that out..its not a nice situation to be in and I hope it settles soon for you, as for the kids the just need time to adjust and realise they wont be homeless what with the best Dad in the world making sure that doesnt happen.I know what you say by wanting to see them now but let dust settle for a bit and heres hoping its all over soon enough

Axx


amber3471 45F

8/4/2006 6:17 am

    Quoting yerwansbrother:
    Feckin women only good for one thing and that ain't cooking
And as for you if you have nothing constructive to say on this blog shut your cakehole...


irishandopen

8/4/2006 7:57 am

Parky, feel for you on this one m8, been there seen that..... but I can tell you it does get better. Never thought I'd say this but 2 years down the line we are able to have civil conversations and not try hurt each other. Hang in there it will get better and no matter what she does as long as your there for them she can never take your kids away from you.


parkingspacereq 45M

8/4/2006 8:55 am

    Quoting irishandopen:
    Parky, feel for you on this one m8, been there seen that..... but I can tell you it does get better. Never thought I'd say this but 2 years down the line we are able to have civil conversations and not try hurt each other. Hang in there it will get better and no matter what she does as long as your there for them she can never take your kids away from you.
cheers mate, nice to know there is light at the end of the tunnel, and glad to hear it.


ladyjim1 86F

8/4/2006 10:42 am

Amber .. we need hammer for the fecker ...yerwansbrother....


ladyjim1 86F

8/4/2006 10:46 am

parkie .. it will sort it,s self out ... an dont worry about the kids ...they kinda surprise you when you least except it ...t/c xxxx

an just by way ... i,m grand...just busy working an the wee man takes up most of my spare time.... but thanks for the concern


amber3471 45F

8/4/2006 4:37 pm

    Quoting ladyjim1:
    Amber .. we need hammer for the fecker ...yerwansbrother....
Ah hammer ffs a kango hammer wouldnt get through that

Axx


rm_xxSpecialKxx 45F
1614 posts
8/4/2006 7:31 pm

thanks hun for your words, it kinda puts my problems into insignificance with what you are having to deal with, no one needs shit like that either to worry about. why cant partners just agree on things nicely and move on. - oh for a perfect world lol. keeping fingers crossed for you xxxxx

reply to your Quote
No worries hunny i saw the post and just felt oooh yes im feeling you on this 1 and just wanted to let you know if you ever need a chat etc that sounds a bit cheesy lol but i really mean it as a virtual friend x give us a shout hope things improve for you hun i really do & your son he'll never stop loving you hun x x take care big hugs xk


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