Sex and the smaller man...does physical size matter? (and Im not talking about his cock)  

panthergrl05 33F
14 posts
8/20/2005 12:22 pm

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Sex and the smaller man...does physical size matter? (and Im not talking about his cock)


Alright, so I decided to get right down to it with this post and talk about what is often on my mind...SEX. I mean, this is a sex/swingers site, right?

Anyway, my last sexual encounter was with my friend John and occurred after a party at a friend's house about 6 weeks ago. (Yes people, I have not had sex in 6 weeks...shouldn't we as a family be doing something to remedy this issue?? That's for another entry I guess).

Anyway, John is about 5'7-5'8 and 140 maybe soaking wet. But let me tell you, he was fantastic. Great oral, wonderful kisser, a great penetrator and the perfect one night stand...well almost. I would like to say that as a BBW, I feel at least somewhat more confident with my size, but when it comes to guys a good 60 lbs less than me, I get a little nervous. The moment he starts pulling me on top, a million things cross my mind, none of them having to do with whether or not his cock is hitting my special spot.

"Will I crush him? Can he breathe?" Usually top the list. Of course, Ive never had any complaints...but I wonder, do some BBW find it harder to enjoy sex with physically smaller men? In the large man/small woman dynamic, the man is often categorized as a "Teddy Bear". But for large women and small men, what are we...a "pillow"?

I truly wish that I could put this fear away so that can be completely uninhibited during sex, but it's still there, lingering in the back of my mind. So ladies, gentleman, any tips on how to silence that voice so that I can enjoy the full pleasure of the act? Better yet, anyone wanna teach me? <--lol...that's for another day.

Lauren

HandyMan3418 47M

8/20/2005 2:12 pm

Dear Lauren,
As a smaller man (5'8", 150) who truly enjoys soft, healthy women, I HATE this insecurity that society has instilled into the otherwise wonderfully beautiful, loving creatures you refer as BBW's. My fiancee is absolutely obssessed by this fear and it has paralized our sex life. I do everything I can to reassure her she is beautiful to me, but at this point we aren't having sex. That may be a good thing tho, as I intend to remain her friend and try to show her what a worthwhile person she really is. Maybe that will give her the confidence she needs to renew our physical relationship again someday. That is my hope. As for helping you silence that evil insecurity, I really doubt that can be accomplished by anyone else's advice, but let me reassure you as I try to do her. You aren't crushing us, or smothering us when you press your soft, magnificent bodies against us. If you were, do you honestly think we'd be coming back for more? We love it girl. Don't be so hard on yourself. Bye.


seductiveinblack 32F
14 posts
8/26/2005 5:10 am

Hey!!
well as for the whole will i crush him i doubt any guy who thinks that he cant have you on top will actually physically place you on top. So Chill have a great time And good luck! i havent had sex in 1 month!


rm_ChiChi2727 47F

8/27/2005 1:47 pm

Girl...any man who is going to get in bed w/you in the first place is going to realize you are a BBW, and is going to love it!! Many men I know LOVE having thier gorgeous BBW riding them cowgirl style, because the LOVE seeing thier gorgeous breasts bouncing, and thier lovely curves right there in front of his face. I actually think that on top is the #1 preference for men who love BBW. That, and doggy (if they are an ass man). So the next time you are in that situation...saddle up and ride him hard (longer then 8 seconds lets hope!!). He LOVES it!!
GiddyUp!!
xxx
~Chi


amptnt 50M/42F
6 posts
11/17/2005 6:49 am

Hi Lauren

As a guy, like Handyman, I will have to agree with him. I am essentially in the same situation. I think that first and foremost when you get to the point of having sex with a smaller man and he asks/move you on top there is a real reason he wants you there. Some of our most incredible climaxes have been while I'm watching her body move up and down, back and forth on me. Please, never worry about us little guys. We love you and need you for who/what you are. We want to see that body move!!! I believe that you are probably a very sexy and vivacious woman. So, please relax, enjoy the ride and watch us cum.

Would love to chat some more

Tommy


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