Is it harder to be a BBW at 21?  

panthergrl05 33F
14 posts
8/17/2005 10:40 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Is it harder to be a BBW at 21?


Alright, so Im taking our dearly departed ChiChi's advice and throwing myself out there, expressing myself and hopefully making some people think.

I really wanted to my first entry to express how I feel as a young BBW and perhaps get some feedback on others who may or may not feel the same way.

So I just graduated from college and moving back to columbus, I am surrounded by the same adolescent boys I went to high school with, who in turn are still lusting after the same unavailable stick thin girls. As a young BBW, I really think it's difficult to meet people, unless I want to hook up with someone 5+ years older than myself. Which isn't always a bad thing. An older lover can be useful to teach, but I hate the fact that I automatically have to look specifically for older men, because the ones my own age can't appreciate a shape on a female.

SO I came here to try and expand my horizons and let me tell you, in regards to AdultFriendFinder, I am so tired of guys who get pissed when they find out Im not 140 with huge breasts. BBW does not stand for Big Breasted Women. I think a BBW can be any female with curves...from 150 to 500...personally, Im 215 and just happen to have DD breasts. Oh no, it's the end of the world, because I just stated my weight. I don't even care anymore.

And a word of advice for guys IMing BBWs...if your profile says something like "I will take anything...anything at all" that does not make us feel special...in fact, ladies, if you see that, run screaming. Or you could do what I do...tell them to get a blow up doll and they won't have to deal with headaches, a menstral cycle or a condom.

But seriously that's enough of my ranting tonight. Im off to bed. I'll try and update every few days, so feel free to stop by and chill with me again. Later

seductiveinblack 32F
14 posts
8/18/2005 5:55 am

welcome to blogging, i rant and carry in my blogs it helps to express how you feel with out really getting a weird look or harsh stupid remarks about what you say. so its cool
ive been on this site for a while, and its been a good experience but much like my real life i dont seen to attract people my age but im not complaining cause most of the younger (okay SOME not most) arent like those who are older they are too .. i dont know some that i have dated in the past i felt like i was kissing my younger brother not that i have one but if seriously felt that way. so its good that you attract older men, im having fun with them
good luck on the site


Out_of_touch2 33M
1 post
8/18/2005 6:10 am

Hi Panthergrl05,

I just read your blog and i`ve got an other opinon about your situation, well okay i really don`t know who things keep rollin`there in the US, but here in Germany the Situation with BBWs is mostlikely the same...I`m 22 and about 230 i never went with a girl that`s under 150 most of them where 200 or more, its not the size that matters the character is more reasonable, well the thin girls are in some cases really interessting but as a man if you are gettin`older you don`t look for a girl that looks like as seen on X-Rated Adult Videos, you`re lookin for a person who treats you right and won`t fool yourself or your feelin`s in that case every BBW was treatin me better than the thin ones. Oh damn, my English isn`t that good, i wasn`t practising for a long time but I`m a US-Citizen

Well I`m thinkin` about movin to US this Fall, but as i read your blog about the peoples opinon about dating a bbw, i`m quite pissed Well if i have to be older to get a date, i have to look for BBWs 16+ ha? *laugh*

Get your Head up and use every chance you have, maybe once you will meet i guy like me, who doesn`t care about thin ones

Kisses

Jérôme


rm_jayR63 59F
1884 posts
8/18/2005 6:30 am

Realistically assess the situation and stop hiding behind the facade of calling yourself a "BBW".
You may say you are happy but are you really?


panthergrl05 33F
3 posts
8/18/2005 10:03 am

Ok, so just to put it out there, I will never delete someone's comment, even if I don't agree. Seductive, thanks for the insight in regard to older men...I will definitely keep it in mind. As for Jay...what about the situation do I realistically need to assess? The guys my own age seriously do prefer the smaller girls. Which is fine because everyone is entitled to a type. However, I don't think I hide behind the fact that I am a BBW...it's taken a long time for me to accept that I will never be thin...crash diets, unhealthy weight loss techniques, all because I could never accept myself. So to answer your question, am I really happy? Not all the time, but I have a lot more peace now hitting the gym 5 days/week and eating right than I used to when I wasn't being healthy.


freshmeet2 52M

8/20/2005 12:58 pm

Hi panthergrl05, I'm an older guy and from my POV I look for someone I have more in common with than looks. We all get older and looks change, I used to have hair and so on. Looks aren't the most important things in a relationship. You want to find a guy who accepts you the way you are and the way you're going to be in the future. You going to the gym and eating right will improve your health, but are you doing it for you or someone else. It boils down to do what makes you happy and others will pick up on that attitude and respond to it. Good luck.


IWantYou492 31M
13 posts
8/21/2005 8:07 pm

Whoa there jayR...that comment definitely wasn't needed. Maybe you should wake up a little bit next time before you decide to say how you really feel. First she's pissed off that most guys don't want to talk to her (not all I may add), and now you try and negatively psychoanalyze her situation. Just because you may be overly insecure about yourself doesn't mean others cannot be comfortable with themselves and how they look.

Lauren, just keep on looking for the guy that likes you for who you are. True, some of your contemporaries may be disillusioned by the twigs, but there are a few that are just looking for the person inside. It might take a while, but they are there.


hungINmaloneNY 48M

2/5/2006 8:54 am

It takes the right guy to be centered. It should not really matter what your weight is. If a person truly loves you it should not matter to them. My questionm to you is do you prefer athletic bodies on the men you want? Your answer will tell you the true story and answer your own original question. Just a tip from your Uncle Kurt lol


shell12953 34F

2/19/2006 6:06 pm

just read your first blog ....you said it I respect you.


rm_sexybbw2383 33F
2 posts
3/14/2006 6:23 pm

i feel ya im 23 bbw and the guys i went to school with are still looking for or dating stick thin girls and thats all.... guys need to realize that big is beautiful too


rm_sexybbw2383 33F
2 posts
3/19/2007 4:06 pm

being a bbw at 21 is definatly hard because its hard to find people our age on websites.....i know this because ive been there...or mabe im too picky


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