IM should carry a Health Warning!  

PeterPiper2020 50M  
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7/9/2006 2:49 pm

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7/17/2006 12:22 am

IM should carry a Health Warning!

IM can seriously damage your relationships!

Why? I hear you all cry! lol!

Let's go back in time, way, way back!

When human kind came down from the trees the only means of communication that they had were visual & aural but they managed to convey their emotions to their fellow beings with a relative degree of success. As time moved on words & language were developed but still most communication was face to face.

Then of course, came writing & with it a whole new world of communication that didn't require the people who were communicating to be in the same place - with the advent of the postal service they didn't even need to be in the same country! However, this new form of communication had it's problems. With no visual or aural signals the sender of the 'letter' had to be sure that his, or her, words were interpreted correctly by the recepient otherwise much confusion could be caused.

The next step was, of course, the telephone. This invention at least restored the aural connection - the parties talking could hear each other's state of emotion even if they still couldn't see it & could quickly remove any ambiguity from any statement or soothe any worries that they may have created in the other person's mind.

Now we come to the 'electronic revolution' with it's instant communication by e-mail and, of course, Instant Messaging!

Isn't it great! You type a message, press send & there it is on your friends screen. No, NO, NO, NO!!!!!

It is, without doubt, the most dangerous, most soulless means of communicating ever invented. It punishes every mistake be it with spelling, grammar, punctuation or emotion! AND it does it instantly. Once you've pressed 'send' that's it! There are no re-assuring utterances you can make. You cannot way-lay the postman as he empties the letter (mail) box. You cannot get flowers, or yourself, there faster to apologise in advance. What you thought & typed is there, to be read & imparted. It's too late! If you send something you regret immediately you are f*cked!

And don't think that any amount of 'LOL-ing' or Smiley icons are going to fix it because they won't!

My final advice? Make yourself a red cover for your 'send' key, like the ones they show on films where someone has to launch a missile - they always have to open this little red cover to press the button.

Your 'send' key can launch a missile that can destroy your world. It happened to me!!!

Worryingly normal, Frighteningly sane and Intriguingly different!

CB_2 51F

7/16/2006 1:30 pm

You are so right OoP. I wonder how many men on here realise they immediately wreck their chances from the off by sending out sloppy e-mails. If he can't spell or punctuate, I immediately bounce him unless he has some truly outstanding attribute to compensate.

I have had a cyber toy boy for a couple of months, and our relationship almost faltered at the off because I inadvertently pushed him on something he did not want to talk about. I realised as soon as I pressed Send that I had said the wrong thing, but by then it was too late.

Luckily for me, the situation was retrievable, but I often think how easily it might not have been.

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