On the Subject of Sex vs Morality  

noordinarychic2 48F
510 posts
5/18/2006 9:57 pm

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On the Subject of Sex vs Morality

I've been doing a lot of soul searching lately and one issue I can't seem to reconcile is my love of sex vs my love of God....Now before you jump to any conclusions...no NOC2 is not a Bible-thumping, tongue-talking fanatic....but I do believe in God and have been known to spend sometime on my knees...(hey this is the moral part of the blog...get your mind out of the gutter!) Hell my favorite song...and has been since the end of my love affair with my best friend...is a song by a Christian artist. I go to church almost every Sunday....I've read "The Purpose Driven Life" (twice ) I've had things happen to me that I know without a doubt that there is a God. Just an example...I was in a terrible car accident when I was 17. Hit a clump of trees going 70...talk about young and stupid...anyway...I walked away from a car that looked like a lump of steel...literally walked away...after of course they spent 3 hours cutting the car open....I was in and out of consciousness but I remember hearing one of the fireman commenting that my parents were about to get news that their child was dead....but I walked away with nothing more then a banged up ankle and a sever "seat belt" bruise. No one will ever convince me that God wasn't protecting me... there is no valid reason why i survived that crash let alone survived without injury....which brings me to my dilemma...How do I reconcile my beliefs and what is so evident to me with my sexualty...not only my love of sex but the enjoyment I find in the kinker side of things. I love it...always have....I would have sex every day...hell twice a day...if i could. I love masturbating...hell I've been doing it since I hit about 13. Now I think my aversion to casual sex stems from my upbringing as well as my own beliefs but now...hell if I was in an exclusive relationship....the boy would have a nympho on his hands... lol.....but the thing is...I want to be one man's nympho not his momentary play thing. When I think about it... God made me...He made me a sexual being with wants and desires.....He also gave me the conscious to hate the road I was on when I did do the one night stands and casual sex.......Hell every part of my life has this same complexity...last Saturday my girlfriend and I listened to Christian music all the way to the club and then spent three hours grinding to anything but......my mouth....hell I could give a sailor a run for his money at times.....and my imagination....oh god do I have a dirty mind...but yet throughout my day I am struck by this urge to say a prayer or whisper a thanks....its an odd road I travel.....but in the end its all part of who and what I am......a very sexual woman who's not afraid to admit she believes in God and is not ashamed of the way He made her and choses to relish it and not try to bury it under the concrete of shame. Sex was not meant to be this thing we are not to do or think about....if it was why would God have made us the way we are? and hell...read the Bible....its got some of the steamest sexual references every put to paper....fyi... Solomon...quite a ladies man.... So here's to being once again that not so ordinary chic....one of these days one of you men out there are going to be very very happy to know you have your own personal nympho to play with at whim love and hugs and sweet dreams to all.... NOC2

midwestboy1972 44M  
663 posts
5/19/2006 4:01 am

I wrote an entry regarding this subject sometime back and got some great feedback from the readers on this site. I recently joined the parish here and have pondered this subject at great length. I'm Catholic and also go to church every Sunday. I have the Catholic guilt thing going on, and of course I also believe that God forgives when asked so I don't worry about it too much. But here's the thing. My Pope tells me that it's wrong to have sex outside of marriage and the sex should only be used for procreation, not recreation. I love my religion and I love my God dearly, but I don't buy it hook, line, and sinker. God made us in his likeness but he also made us individual beings. With that individuality comes sexuality. I don't believe Jesus was married and I certainly don't believe Jesus ever had sex, but Jesus experienced pleasure and pain on this earth. He said to love each other, and what better way to love than to share our pleasure (and for the SM's out there, our pain) and our bodies with each other if that makes you happy. And as long as your not fucking goats or doing something hurtful against another living thing's will, I just don't see anything wrong with a little kink! Not a sermon, just my thoughts

And one other thing. I went to Catholic school for 12 years. Why would God possibly give us the catholic school girl outfit if he didn't want us to enjoy it!

sexyariesgirl 57F

5/19/2006 4:53 am

I have those same conflicting thoughts and emotions! I know so very well exactly where you are coming from. Thanks for this post!

Power To FOK

noordinarychic2 48F
242 posts
5/19/2006 8:11 am

Amen and Amen midwest...and I was one of those girls in the plaid skirt, white oxford and penny loafers lol One thing that struck me after I wrote the blog was the issue of premarital sex...my take on it...my one and only marriage was doomed from day one because sexually we were completely incompatible....completely...no amount of anything could have changed that....we test drive cars, we bounce on mattresses before we buy them, we research electronics....but when it comes to our bodies and probably one of the biggest things that can sink a relationship we are to just assume that all will be well? I think not....Now I'm not saying sleep with every man/woman you can get your hands on...but not sleeping with someone that you potentially may have something serious with.....big mistake... smiles and hugs and all good stuff....NOC2

fndsinva 50M

5/19/2006 3:13 pm

I think that you have already answered the question that you asked; "How do I reconcile my beliefs.....?" You were made that way, and with a sense of morality. You won't do anything that will hurt other people or will have you not respecting yourself in the morning, but you can still have fun at the same time. I think you are more enlightened with regards to religon than most people. If more people travelled their respective roads like you do, and actually apply some morality to their actions, this would be a much better place to live. And I agree with the test drive theory. If you are that sure of someone, it is silly to not know how compatible you really are.
And for those of us that like to fantasize, I don't suppose you still have the plaid skirt, white oxford and penny loafers...

rm_remodman3 49M
128 posts
5/19/2006 6:24 pm

To those who have ears............ Listen.
To those who have eyes.............SEE.
NOC2, I do not know how to get in touch with you.

Would love to talk to you.

noordinarychic2 48F
242 posts
5/20/2006 12:07 am

remod....talk to fnds....i gave him the ok to give you my outside email....since we are both standard and this site doesn't let us initiate contact....whatever the hell that means...lol...hope you are well...big hugs...i'm sure you had a tough day.

sassybelle21 32F
13313 posts
5/22/2006 8:08 pm

Just want to say I miss you

rm_VoodooGuru1 49M
2053 posts
5/24/2006 9:24 am

Relatively rare post for A FF and engaging. I found myself agreeing with it more than disagreeing.

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