Hurtful words  

no_strings1963 53M
55 posts
7/27/2006 5:13 am

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10/15/2006 4:30 pm

Hurtful words


The most hurtful words are the ones that we believe are true. Just because we are not what some one else wants doesn't mean we need to be "fixed" or to become some one different. As I grow back to being myself and who I am after a long marriage I realized that my ex-wife didn't make me into who I had become. I had allowed it, most of it to my disliking. Getting back to being me I have never been happier in my life, ever.

rm_magnet4u22 49F
18406 posts
7/29/2006 10:54 am

Good to see that you are being you. We have to be true to ourselves and not to what someone else may want. I have seen too many people forcing change in what they do or wear ore be in order to be what someone wants. That seems to be the first step to misery. Thank you for your comments on my blog.



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rm_magnet4u22 49F
18406 posts
7/30/2006 8:02 am

Yes, I have noticed your visits, and thank you again for your thoughts. Sometimes we may not feel that we have anything to say in response to a post, so we don't. I will only comment if it is something that I relate to or can be of some benefit to someone else. I think as we age, we get less wild and free although, it still resides somewhere in there! Don't worry....if a question is too personal, I won't answer it, or I will sidestep around it!



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VCF1962 105F

8/22/2006 7:46 pm

I noticed that too.

I was only married 5 years but the person I am now is so far removed from the person that I was "allowed" to be. I mean, I thought he married me for my sense of fun and silliness !!! I know with some of the posts recently, that is a little hard to believe - and we all have our down days - but I think I am a natural born show off (in some company anyway) and just enjoy being crazy (the meds are wearing off now - can you tell ??!??!?! ), but he stopped me - or rather I allowed him to stop me from being me.

So people, if you are trying to change someone, ask yourself why ???

IF they aren't the person that you want them to be, then why be with them ? You were attracted to that person for a reason - remember it and appreciate it !

Phew - needed to get that off my chest !

Mistress Innuendo
Taking what you say and turning it into something naughty !!


VCF1962 105F

8/26/2006 2:30 pm

    Quoting no_strings1963:
    How interesting it is to me how many girlfriends I've had before I figured out that it was me needing to be strong enough to be who I want to be. I can't express how much easier dating has become coming at it from that point of view. I really connected with the poem you wrote, would you mind if I kept a copy?
Of course not hun - I would consider it an honour.

Mistress Innuendo
Taking what you say and turning it into something naughty !!


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