The importance of Position.  

nightstogether 56M
818 posts
6/21/2005 11:53 pm

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The importance of Position.

A person's position in life is, for many, of the utmost importance. Where they stand against other people; how their work cuts up in comparison; how popular they are. All have their place in a person's estimation of themselves; their worth; their idea of how other's seem them.

In Blogland, here on AdultFriendFinder, it is really no different.

I posted quite some time ago that such a position was no longer of great interest to me. I am happy to write here; happy to have a few people view what I write; happy that some feel able to add their comments to my short entries.

For at least one other person here, and I do not doubt that there are many more, the position in the rankings is of the greatest importance. Now, I have nothing against the idea as such, each to their own. But to try and manipulate the rankings here by adding comment after comment to your own Blog strikes me as a rather pathetic attempt at gaining a position which, from the point of view of others, has not necessarily been earned.

When I see someone who has 26 comments on a fairly normal entry, and note that 12 of those comments are their own, and that in other posts half or nearly half of the comments are from their own pen, I begin to wonder what it is that they really want from life.

Is the ranking here of so great an importance that the figures need to be manipulated?

Is it not clear, for others when they come to view a Blog, that the high ranking is only because of the posters own comments and not because of their worth?

And, bearing this last in mind, what is their personal worth, how do they feel about themselves, if the only way to gain popularity is to boost their comment figures with such a trick?

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missy973 47F

6/22/2005 12:35 am

Oh no! I clicked "Request Review" by accident. Stupid fingers. Sorry.

Anyway I agree, seems lame. But if there is nothing interesting that they are saying to begin with they would not even have comments at all. There are a lot of new bloggers joining all the time, things will change and balance out after several months anyway.

sadock76 44M

6/22/2005 1:19 am

I had not realized that there were people doing this. I can't say I'm all that surprised however. I'm going with the cliche I grew up with: "Cheaters never win." Yes, they may in the short term, but never in the long run.

HughJarse2000 47M

6/22/2005 2:50 am

I hear ya.

Like being popular on AdultFriendFinder counts for anything. This shit isn't real. The server could down for a month - No AdultFriendFinder - no big deal right? Except those that thought they made it big. How small is your world that you have to make it big in AdultFriendFinder Blog ?

Maybe if I were a little insecure in the real world I would seek security here.

I don't get it either.

mi_mwpm 51M

6/22/2005 5:35 am

I've noted the same behavior in certain blogs. I still follow some of them, because I do like what the person has to say. I just wish they'd limit the "response" comments instead of replying individually to each person who has commented.

Easiest solution for A.F.F. to implement to alter the popularity contest would be to stop couting comments from the blog owner. Just one more expression in the where clause of the query is all it would take... (sql geek makes an early-morning appearance)

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
6/22/2005 5:38 am

Do you really think it is a matter of ranking???? I, myself, enjoy being about to banter with my commenters and continue additional threads of conversations. I never give it a thought about the ranking....the ranking is secondary to the pure enjoyment of being able to interact with the people who comment on my blogs. I enjoy people, having their ideas shared, and interacting with people, which is part of what has made the blogging so very much fun. I am hooked on blogging -- aren't you????

keithcancook 60M
17718 posts
6/22/2005 5:54 am

I have seen this too, as has anyone who visits a reasonable number of different blogs on a regular basis. It has never really bothered me much. I think it may have made me frown early on, but after 3 months of blogging I find I hardly give it a second thought.

Much of the value that I derive from blogging stems not just from my own writing, but from the reaction to that writing by my readers. Just knowing I could provoke a response and sometimes generate meaningful discourse helps keep my blogging boat afloat.

Hey nights! It has been long since I have seen you, one of my most favorite bloggers of all time, commenting in my blog. I fear The Venting Blog has become a boor to you.

redswallow777 48M
6810 posts
6/22/2005 12:56 pm

The back and forth banter of the blogs are what makes it so interesting and it is what keeps me here. Pooling my return comments has always made more sense than individual comments.

GleesFlakyShawl 50M
1620 posts
6/22/2005 4:49 pm

ive noticed the same, nights
now call me naive, but in some cases, it looks like the blogger has established a dialogue with some (or all) of their regular readers.
im not that sure that all the bloggers do this for artificially increasing the number of comments

rm_affbreak 46M
287 posts
6/23/2005 5:40 am

Realize that you yourself are fooled thinking the number of comments is worth _anything_. It is not. if search engines would permit you'd head for blogs the friends of yours feel worth visiting or explore new field ... realize the 'ranking' of AdultFriendFinder is computergenerated and as such has not much value at all.

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
6/24/2005 4:43 am

i try not to make too many comments on mine as i know some think this way,i hope you weren't thinking of me when you wrote this

O well back to blogging

And i would prefer that our own comments weren't counted it would make it fairer for all

I'm a

i'm here to stay

redswallow777 48M
6810 posts
6/27/2005 5:52 am

Your post has made me re-examine my blogging habits. Although, I am not likely to change anything at this point, I will be more aware of my comments moving forward.

I think the suggestion about not counting personal comments would be very workable and "fairer" as Papy puts it.

nightstogether 56M

6/27/2005 10:47 am

I should add, by way of explanation, that I wasn't thinking of one particular person; there is a difference between a good, flowing conversation, and an attempt to bolster the figures which, let's be honest, some people do consider important for their standing in Blogland. This was really more of a follow-on to my comment / post on those who create a second (or third!) personality, and then use this to comment on their own Blog as if they were receiving more attention than they really are.

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