nightstogether 56M
818 posts
4/9/2005 9:12 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm


I've noticed that many people simply cannot wait for something to happen, especially when it concerns an online event.

It's true, everything online is meant to happen quicker than in the Real World; instantaneous because it is handled by a computer, by the software on a server, by a machine.

But, tell me, when you are using a vibrator, which is, after all, a machine, do you come instantaneously? When you use online banking, is the update to your account immediate? When you send an e-mail, is the person receiving it already there to read it at the precise second it arrives?

The machines are faster, but the human interface remains where it always was; travelling along through life at a speed it can handle, at a speed which is comfortable to it.

And what does that mean? It means that the e-mail you sent, which was transmitted in milliseconds to its destination, cannot be answered within milliseconds because the Real Person on the other end might have something else to do. Or the Real Person who handles your bank account, your internet connection, your AdultFriendFinder Profile (yes, a Real Person there too!) has other things to do as well.

Everything is meant to be faster because of the advent of the computer, because of DSL connections and because of all those other little gadgets and trinkets we are fast accepting. But the acceptance is faster than we can really handle. It's like playing with that vibrator, you need to be a little bit patient and, sometimes, the journey is better and more profitable, and certainly longer, than the moment of arrival.


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keithcancook 60M
17718 posts
4/9/2005 3:34 pm

That was well said nightstogether. Great post!

slickkitty67 50F

4/10/2005 4:40 am

NIGHTS - i could not agree with you more! a lot of people (men and women) expect 1 email exchange and then a meeting and then a hook-up. in "real life" things take much longer and certainly usually for the better... at least for me. i wish people would be a little less eager to meet sometimes. the delayed gratification makes it SOOOOO much better, just like with the vibe!

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