nightstogether 56M
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6/6/2005 12:48 pm

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redswallow777 asks me whether I have a sexual preference between male and female, and whether it is hard to be open about my sexuality.

I have no immediate preference, no. Mostly it depends on my mood - rather like someone might be attracted to a raven-haired woman one day and a blonde on another. Some people are more attractive and enticing than others; with some people there is that instant chemical reaction. For me it works with both male and female, for others with only one or the other.

I do not find it difficult to be open about my sexuality because I am at ease with myself. Whilst still a teenager I was very closed and unsure, but had several experiences which resulted in me looking deeper into myself and learning how to accept myself for what I am, on a sexual level at least.

Saying that I am open isn't exactly the truth, though. There is slightly more to it than that. If someone breaches the subject, or if it comes up in conversation in the right sort of company, I have no problems dicussing sexuality and using personal experiences as examples; even when I don't always admit that they are my experiences. If someone comes straight out and asks me, I will tell the truth but, at the same time, I will attempt to be wary of their feelings and stand point in the manner that I answer. I wouldn't, for example, discuss my interest in leather-wearing men whilst drinking a few beers with a group of bikers!

Interesting question. I hope that I have been able to answer it.

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redswallow777 48M
6810 posts
6/7/2005 1:43 pm

You answered it very well. It gives me a better feeling for the person who might use the descriptive "bi" in relation to their sexual preference. I notice you don't use it. Is that intentional?

I also noticed a difference in my perception of women and men who call themselves bi when I sat here and thought about it for a while. That somehow I accept women who are bi in a way that is different than men who say they are bi. Mmmmm....I have to ponder that for a while.

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