Personality  

nightstalker172 36M
1646 posts
4/7/2006 6:41 am

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Personality

The ever so long list of personality traits that are desireble in a mate.

Sense of Humor
Kindness
Confidenence
Intellegence
Humility
Strength
(not physical but strength of character)
Honorable
Loyal
Honest


Those would be mine anyway...but how much does personality offset physical attraction? or vice versa. Ive seen people who settle for people who are physically beautiful but have never had a thought in their pretty head...OR they are so arrogant and stuck on themselves how could they ever care about someone else...Or anything else for that matter...Ive also see people settle for less attractive mates because they get along so well....but more times then not...the less attractive ones only become a friend not a lover As Im sure most of us have become just a friend at least once in our lives..but if you think about it...most people who lack physical attractivness (at least in the sense of what society thinks is attractive) Tend to be smarter and have more personality to them where as the "beautiful people" and not entirely dim witted but they dont rely on their personality to get anywhere because they dont have to.

So it makes me think in the law of the jungle terms. Any liveing organism must adapt to its environment in order to survive or it will perish. In essence people who are less attractive Or considered less attractive must adapt or rely on personality to attract a mate...because haveing a mate is appart of survival...It is amazing how much haveing a significant other will effect you even down to a chemical level in you body never mind the emotional state.

But an attractive person doesnt need to develope that side of themselves as much simply because they can rely on looks to survive. And the hard truth is pretty people do have it easier...PERIOD!....Now Im not bitter about it or anything...I just find it annoying and somewhat disgusting at some of these people who are this way. I think its sad. Its sad because the only true useful purpose these people serve is to be eye candy and nothing more...and I think there are very few out there that actaully try to be more than just pretty face or hot body...they are out there...but they are a rarity...

The pic is of Jason Voorhees....I think that if more people tried to get to know him...he might not want to kill everyone


bardicman 50M

4/7/2006 6:52 am

I tried to get to know him.. The one guy in Freddy Vs Jason.. he had my name. My real name...

Yes I was killed at the end..

Damn



I am not dead yet


DIVISION77 39M  
8321 posts
4/7/2006 7:17 am

I've pondered your point and it's true in a general way, but I don't dwell on it.

People will be people, regardless. If they are satisfied being "things" rather than "people", then that's well within their right.

A friend of mine has often coined the phrase to one of these so-called wallflowers who has given him the cold shoulder - "What's so special about you anyway?" - to wit the offended female never has anything of substance to say, simply mouth open aghast.....akin to a Jasin Vorhees victim.

When it comes down to it, it is ALL about a female's personality, and to a lesser extent her physical features. You can find attractive women everywhere, but how often can you find a beautiful woman who also posesses a beautiful personality with intellect and substance? It's somewhat rare. The women who try to get by on looks alone, I bypass, right off......very easy to spot and it's unnattractive.

Unfortunately, since I work in a gym, I attract the superficial ones. It's a quandry...

DIV

"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur


nightstalker172 36M
1258 posts
4/7/2006 8:46 am

Bard - Well...I did say "might"

Div - A gym huh...the superficial hub of society....Well I think there is something to be said about one who takes care of his or her body but to obsess about it is sad. I myself lift but not to look pretty...I do so to be stronger and healthier...and thats the real reason I think its worth it to go to a gym...That I think should be its true purpose.


NickRules999 39M
9462 posts
4/7/2006 4:45 pm

When I think about Jason, I have to wonder, is he justified by his actions? I mean, he drowned in a lake when he was a kid, no one bothered to swim out and save his life, so his mother goes on a killing spree. The survivor of the first movie cuts his mother's head off, so naturally, Jason's pissed. Jason's a killing machine, but I have to wonder, does he question why he does what he does? Is there a method to his madness? Here's a guy that cannot die. Is it necessary to kill everyone else? Or is he only following his mother's orders. I heard somewhere that the "ki-ki-ki-ma-ma-ma" sound is Jason's thought pattern.

I pondered this thought playing the Friday The 13th game on the old Nintendo. That damn game is hard as hell. Why can't I play as Jason? Then I'd win.

Come into my realm! You aren't afraid...are you?


DIVISION77 39M  
8321 posts
4/7/2006 10:37 pm

    Quoting nightstalker172:
    Bard - Well...I did say "might"

    Div - A gym huh...the superficial hub of society....Well I think there is something to be said about one who takes care of his or her body but to obsess about it is sad. I myself lift but not to look pretty...I do so to be stronger and healthier...and thats the real reason I think its worth it to go to a gym...That I think should be its true purpose.
That's true, it is a superfical hub of society. I'm a powerlifter, not a bodybuilder persay. I lift for strength, so no, I'm not a prettyboy-type. I'm a personal trainer.

While I'm in there, it's all business. It's the only way I can get my workout done in an hour. I don't dislike bodybuilders, the ones who are professional or amateur, but yes there are some people who take things too far.

Everyone has a vice, theirs is vanity, which is alot less harmful than drugs or alcohol. It could be worse.

The sad thing is, there are many intelligent women who frequent the gym, but I'm not in any position to meet them because I don't flirt while I'm in there.

DIV

"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur


Hippink 35F
4499 posts
4/9/2006 3:30 pm

I don't believe that's true about attractive people not having to develop the personality traits. A pretty person will get the initial interest... but they'll lose it VERY quickly if they don't STAY interesting.

People who aren't that attractive do have to rely on their personalities a bit more, definitely. I would say it'd be much more difficult for less attractive people to find someone on a site like this, as the picture might be the first thing that stands out. If there's no attraction, a woman might just pass right on by, no matter how thoughtful the email might have been.

However, if a person is able to get to know you through blogs and the various areas in the magazine, she might find there's definitely a personality in there that she's attracted to.

Take Square, for instance. He's got a kinda funny face... looks almost exactly like Jim Carrey in The Truman Show. His face pic was all I saw when he tried picking me up on a site like this. Somehow, his personality shone through all the various pretty boys who also "applied." I met him for coffee one day, thinking that we'd only be great friends, as I didn't think I was attracted to him. Instead... I found I wanted to be close to him... he was like a magnet! Over two years later, I still drop to my knees the second he walks in the door.

As for Jason... Yes, he really does need someone to ask him once in a while how HIS day is going. Show some interest in the poor guy! He seems stressed.
Hippie XXX


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