Good or Evil  

nightstalker172 36M
1646 posts
4/12/2006 7:47 am

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Good or Evil

*disclaimer its another one about HER*

I have found myself at a crossroads yet choose to go the way of the good guy...OR....The dark evil this situation Im leaning towards evil...WHY...

Last friday I was at a get together at my parents house...(my dad and I are still working on his rental house basically..putting the finishing touches on it and yard work weee) anyway...Her mom comes over and joins us for dinner (hey im not passing up free food especailly after I did most of the law myself Its a pretty big yard and I always do the grunt work ) Anyway just as we are finishing dinner my sister shows up...sigh happy day So I chat with my family a bit since I dont see them much during the week. And then HER mom gets to talking about HER...Apparently she feels that my mom and well my whole family hates her...She also made mention about when she came over the week before...and how everyone just stared at her...

Now me in my head Im trying really hard to feel guilty or bad for her but honestly...I cant...I had a moment of weakness where I thought about calling her up but then I thought...NO...Now Im not stopping her from visiting my parents thats her doing...I never made mention to my parents about things between her and I...(Im secretive with my parents because well...religious fanatics need I say more) So as to where she got the idea that my whole family hates her I dont know...I can see why she may have gotten that vibe from me because well...for awhile I did...I dont hate her anymore but I cant say Im not still alittle angery with her....

So Im conflicted....A part of me wants to be the "nice guy" and try to get her to at least visit my family...another part of me wants to let her suffer.

Either way though there is no way for her and I to be friends...and honestly if I do the "nice guy" thing she will think its ok to be "just friends" when its not...Yes thats right I finaly made up my mind...Im not going to be friends with this woman reguardless...either she likes me OR she can leave me alone...PERIOD....She can be buds with my family I dont care...

PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
4/12/2006 11:11 am

Sometimes it's just not possible to be friends again with the one who broke your heart. Don't worry about it too much. *hug*

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma

NickRules999 39M
9464 posts
4/12/2006 3:55 pm

I hear ya there.

I've had too many women feign interest in me, then pretend I don't exist afterward. Once something looks promising, it's another fall for me. I need to stay away from the traps, but I never know. I should know, coz each attempt has been met by disaster.

I am one who walks on the dark side. My heart is cold and dead. There couldn't be a better time for me to enter into wrestling. I know the training's gonna suck, but I think I can do it. It's just like when I started driving last year. I didn't think I'd be able to do that. I'm a late bloomer. Better late than never.

Come into my realm! You aren't afraid...are you?

nightstalker172 36M
1258 posts
4/12/2006 9:43 pm

Lovespell - Well I agree you should be nice to everyone. But there are times when people just dont deserve to be treated nicely..and if you let them walk all over you. You just become a pushover whos easy to use and manipulate a victim so to speak. Im not going to be rude to her if I see her...but I think I will be cold to her...As for makeing her suffer...what I ment was...that I "COULD" call her and tell her thats shes not despised and such and that she should visit my family..I "COULD" do that..but letting her suffer is by not doing anything...I own this woman nothing...I did enough for her...I like the fact that she feels a bit uncomfortable around me...wondering if IM just going to lay into her or not...and if thats why shes staying away then GOOD...that means perhaps shes just as miserable as I was and I didnt have to do or say anything her....As far as being they teach us in grade school treat others how you want to be treated...for the most part I do that...and when "OTHERS" treat me badly...there is no reason for me to "play nice" I will say that if she does have the guts enough to confront me...I will blaintly tell her that I dont want to be friends with her and that she is free to visit my family whenever she long as when she bumps into me she leaves me alone...Thats pretty much it and I think considering how things are I dont think its unfair.

themisskrissy 56F
2302 posts
4/13/2006 10:07 pm

let the chips fall where they may....
if she thinks there is an issue with your family, she can address it..
don't let anyone manipulate or draw you into this... be minimally polite when need be, but keep a comfortable (for yourself) distance... piss on her...

Virtue Alone Ennobles

popmuse01 35F

4/14/2006 3:53 pm

Sounds like you have much of it figured out. My only suggestion is that maybe you act indifferent to her when she's around your family and you are the nod of the head acknowledge to her and ignore her the rest of the time like she's invisible. It's worked for me so many times with people I can't stand or get along with lol.

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