All I can say is WTF  

nightstalker172 36M
1646 posts
5/10/2006 7:36 pm

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All I can say is WTF

Disclaimer: this is one about HER again

OK! How do I go about exsplaining this.

I was at my parents house last friday. HER mother showed up for their study thing right..ok...We get to talking the 5 of us (me,my mother, my sister, my neice, and HER mother) The conversation moved to me telling a story about one of my friends and his odd fear of masquito hawks. Anyway HER mom looks right at me and says hmm sound like he would be good for my daughter you should set them up.

Then my sister interjected with her inane comments because shes I didnt answer either way...but damnit you have to be fucking kidding me!

Now on the one hand if you care about someone and blah blah blah you should want them to be happy. On the other hand if you LIKE someone you shouldnt want to set them up with someone else...

I ended up leaving shortly after I was alittle flustered..For a history lesson I did try for this woman and got shot down...ALONG time ago...but COME ON!! It bad enough that I was rejected AND had to see her with someone else but NOW...set her up with one of my BUDS!!!....This does not help me...this does not help me at all...because you know what would happen if they did start dateing...I would end up seeing her MORE often..and I dont want to...on top of that I would be seeing her WITH someone else MORE thx...I would end up not being able to be friends with my bud anymore either...that wouldnt be cool...I wouldnt resent him I just wouldnt want to stick around the two of them..

Now I dont know if she was jokeing or not...she knows I like her daughter in which case thats not a funny joke...but I can respect the sadistic nature of it ...but if she was serious...I dont think I could do it...whether I care enough about her to want her to be happy or not...I think thats going a bit too far for me..I dont think I would take it well...and being around THEM...wouldnt be cool for me and I would end up loseing a friend...its just not something I could watch Im sorry...

Som my loyal followers what would you do in this situation?

NickRules999 39M
9462 posts
5/10/2006 8:34 pm

All I could do is relate something similar. Back in high school, there was this girl I had a crush on. At some party the school threw, I thought this was my chance for this girl. There was an attraction, or so I thought. At least I was attracted to her. Then she points out a guy I knew, but didn't hang out with. (He was in the popular croud.) Our younger brothers were friends, though. She pointed to him and asked if I knew him. When she pointed him out, I knew that if I was going for this girl, and if these two met, my chances were shot. Look at this guy, who was taller, better looking, and had a car, then look at me. Who'd win? So I lied. I said I didn't know the guy. She didn't believe me, though. So, she asked him if we knew each other, and he said, "Oh. Nick? Yeah, I met him." Insert Frogger death sound effect here.

I know that wasn't the best course of action, course, who could have predicted she'd make the move herself? But, I was thinking inwardly. I was not gonna lose out, but I did anyway. I often wonder what that girl is up to now, if she followed her dream of marrying a farmer and is living out in the sticks somewhere. I think the only redeeming quality she saw in me was the fact that I was an artist.

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Hippink 35F
4499 posts
5/10/2006 9:19 pm

What a fucking BITCH! Ugh... it must be so hard to have to deal with HER parents. My God, if i had to ever see any of my ex'es parents, I'd probably pretend I didn't recognize them and hide. I'm such a wimp.

That's gotta be tough, I can't even imagine what it's like to live with the fact that your family knows and is friends with hers. YIKES!

Glad it's you and not me.
At least you can appreciate her sadism. Sheesh.

Hippie XXX

popmuse01 35F

5/10/2006 9:31 pm

Sadly I would have laughed at her and said 'And what planet did you come from?' but I sometimes have the oddest sense of humor.

Forget she said anything about setting your friend and HER up...and if she asks, just look at her oddly and go "HUH" (course then I would have to ask WTF she was smoking!)

Course IMO I think that both mother/daughter are seriously fucked in the head and have been smoking too much shit to have enough common sense to not act the way they are!

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rm_yukonpaul 51M
1120 posts
5/11/2006 4:11 am

    Quoting rm_OhBaby199:
    I would just let this one go. Go on like she never mentioned it. You need to have a polite refusal ready if she brings him up again. I say a little white lie would be OK. Tell her you think he started seeing someone but you don't know how serious it is or something. If SHE wants to meet your bud, she will have to do it herself. I can't think of anyone who would ask me to set them up with someone I had feelings for. It's fucked up, you have every right to be irritated by it, but don't freak out about it or try to figure out mom's motives. Mom is dumb. End of story.
I agree 100% with OhBaby199

MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
5/11/2006 5:11 am

It had to be a twisted joke. I mean, he's perfect for her based on his fear of hawks? What are they going to do? Cower together when they see one?

curvymeli 39F

5/11/2006 7:23 am

If it's truly a friend then you have nothing to worry about, he won't date her bc you would be uncomfortable with it.
As for the motherm what a bitch. The saying goes if you want to see how your woman's going to be in the future, check her mother....

(God, I hope not, bc I'm not too fond of my mom....)

nightstalker172 36M
1258 posts
5/11/2006 12:02 pm

Imebug - Yea I dont think I could talk to her without getting...oh whats the word...ROYALLY PISSED OFF...thus why its better I think that I avoid her.

Nick - Well you cant change the choice she made...but I think when it comes to competeing for a womans affects thinking inward is the only way to shouldnt care about the other guy...but you should respect the womans choice...

Hippie - thanks Im glad its me and not you too ...Well there are other reasons Why I visit my parent regularly...they arent in the best of health and then there is my druggy nephew...hes the one Im mostly worried about..him and the kind of people he might bring around my parents...I delt with it enough when his father was around.

Popmuse - Yea see I wasnt laughing and Almost came close to telling her off and to go fuck herself. It rubed me the wrong way but I remained composed Im good at that...later on when I was alone then I got mad .

ohbaby - Hmmm well I could say that but she might think Im lieing...she knows I like her daughter...I KNOW she knows..and she might call me out for it could work then again it might not...and the last thing I want to do is sit there and exsplain why I lied. But I will keep it in mind.

Missann - Well we said other things about him too the hawk story just changed the subject to my friend. She was trying to figure out if she had met him before...and so we were describing what he looked like and such and thats when she said something about being a good match...but yea..she wouldnt cower with him she'd kick him and ask him WTF is wrong with you

Curvy - See thats the thing about my friend we think alike actaully and we both believe that there are no rules in love and war...if the situation had been reversed nothing would stop nothing would stop him...which is fine I just couldnt handle being around him...Now the check out her mom to see her future bit...thats typically for looks mostly...those two are similar in some ways but are distintly different...Her mom is more out spoken and even a bit rowdy...where as SHE is bit more quiet...and only rowdy when shes comfortable...She is actaully kind of mousey unless you make her mad. But if the some thing could be said about dad and the son...well Im by far more aggressive then he is...or ever knows if that saying really holds true...

8321 posts
5/18/2006 5:58 pm


Ignore the mother, she's clearly a bitch.

No way you set up the girl you want with a friend.

If she gets with him fine, but don't precipitate it....


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