A little rant for a guy on this site.....  

nightlight702 38M
32 posts
7/28/2005 4:13 pm

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A little rant for a guy on this site.....

I know....I know...shouldn't be throwing negative vibes around on the blog. But sometimes you got to talk about what's on your mind. This has happened to me several times so far. Not sure if it happens to anyone else on this site or not.
I'll see a girls profile, it may have just one picture. A head shot, or no picture at all. I enjoy reading their profile and write to them. In the profile they demand that I send pictures or else they won't talk to me. I'm cool with that, so I send pictures. After she see's my pics, we start to talk. Then take the conversation to IM. So I then ask to see her pictures and guess what.....she gets mad! I don't get that, I don't mean to be rude. I just think it's fair, if somebody wants to see your pictures. They should show their's to.....right??? Why to I feel so bad about asking for someone's picture, when they won't even talk to me until I show them mine?
You think it's because maybe they are hiding something? That would be my guess, it feels like a big red flag!! I don't know, did I do the right thing in asking to see the photograph....when is it right to ask to see a picture? First email, second? Your thoughts....

hahahha...promise I won't be annoyed in the next blog. Have a great night!!!

redmustang91 57M  
8599 posts
7/28/2005 4:29 pm

I do not get the being mad about asking to see what they look like either. Maybe the woman feels bad about her appearance, or is conflicted about internet dating. I like someone with a healthy self image and good feelings about dating, so I would not be interested in someone too timid to even show her face! Next!

triag916 51M

7/28/2005 4:46 pm

Dude, you're absolutely right! I've had the same experience and blogged about it. A lot of the times they are hiding something, like that 25lbs they gained. No, ladies, not all of you, just the ones i've encountered. It seems to be a one way street most the time.

LustGoddess2469 50F  
2453 posts
7/28/2005 4:46 pm

You have every right to ask to see a picture or even see her on cam. If she has nothing to hide, she'll quickly oblige. However, if she's a "he", or if she looks like a "he", or if she's a Madusa lookalike, then she's gonna balk at revealing herself/himself. That's my theory anyway, and I'm sticking to it. lol Good luck to you.


rm_DaphneR 58F
7938 posts
7/28/2005 5:09 pm

I think if someone asks for your picture they should send a picture in return. I also think asking for a pic first is somewhat shallow. I personally don't have any pictures on my profile because of the work I do. People would freak if they saw me on this site. I have posted a couple "parts" pics on my blog, but not a face pic.

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.

nightlight702 38M

7/28/2005 6:48 pm

Thanks for the response guys (and from the girls to ) I feel strange asking for a pic right away. Just like DaphneR says, it's a bit shallow. But, once someone has asked to see your pic...then they shouldn't be upset when we ask in return. Unless like LustGodness said...she might be a he!!! WoW!!! I never thought about that, that's a little freaky!

PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
7/28/2005 6:53 pm

I don't understand it either. The pics on my profile are there for a reason. Honesty is not always the best policiy, however, since I get a lot of hate mail just for how I look....

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma

rm_venture12002 62M
67 posts
7/28/2005 7:23 pm

I find many use the internet to be someone they're not in life.They probably don't want you to see they're 900 pounds.LOL.You have to take everything on here with a grain of salt.The honest ones would most likely send a photo.I had a photo, but took it off and didn't renew because there is 3 woman my age and 5 pages of men, in my town.I just stay for the blogs.

007sexy40plus 51F  
7603 posts
7/28/2005 8:05 pm

In my case I have nothing to hide. I have pictures in my network which contains bothe my face and body. However, I do encounter men who dont have pics but want the woman to send hers, thats not fair. I also feel that if a man has one face pic then he has something to hide because everyone should have a variety. I do, so they should also. I dont post my face pics openly here on the blogs, for discretion purposes.

I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"

Di47Him51 63M/59F
42 posts
7/28/2005 8:08 pm

If she asked for a pic and you did oblige, then of course she should reciprocate, and without prodding. Unless of course she has nothing recent to send or is technologically challenged or perhaps doesn't date anyone better looking than she is...
If she showed depth and intelligence and charisma, and there was a connection of sorts, was a pic really necessary? Roll with it. Let it go. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

mi_mwpm 51M

7/28/2005 8:12 pm

Definitely a big red flag... I'll show you mine if you'll show me yours is definitely implied when someone demands pics up front. You're dealing with picture collectors or guys pretending to be women IMO.

cute_n_bitchy 55F

7/28/2005 8:22 pm

I personally wont talk with a guy w/o a pic. I tried that before and found out few dozen different times that chatting well isnt all that matters ...We need that chemical responce from thier visual image.

Think of it this way..your in a bar..you cant hear the woman speak, you know nothing about her..but something about her makes you brave enough to cross the room say hello and risk. That bravery came from a chemistry.

Your not shallow...there hiding something..CnB

onesweettxcutie 53F
41 posts
11/16/2007 12:43 pm

I agree with everyone else.
I know I have gained weight from my pic, and I say I have. If you dont like it, sorry.
But....if she asks for yours, and you send them, she should reciprocate. Only fair.

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