Spiritual vs Chemistry?  

nightis 52M
247 posts
8/23/2006 9:23 am

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Spiritual vs Chemistry?

My good friend lustcurious42 had a post on August 19th called "Let's Get Honest Here".

Do we ever think it will be or could be forever? Do you believe in soul mates? In spiritual connections?

I had to stumble and think what is a "spiritual connection"? Is that like "clicking" or my favorite term having good "chemistry". Is there something more because i read of it often in profiles. Is my misunderstanding of this term because I am not a religious person and live so much for the day that is now?

Me, with a Masters in Native American education, Perhaps I am trying to make more out of it than exists, but I am stumped by this term.

themisskrissy 56F
2302 posts
8/23/2006 1:06 pm

"soul mates" does not necessarily mean lovers.. a soul mate is someone you have travelled a life with in the past... and you may not ever find yours in this one.. the term is tossed about like so much fluff..

i have found a person on line that lives very far away but it is like we have known each other forever.. she is connected to me on a different level...

i would imagine that the south of the border first nations people are no different then my family/elders/ancestors.. spirits are very much a part of daily life and beliefs.. i have seen with my own eyes the power of spirits.. and their connections to us...

the human race has cluttered itself with so much stuff, noise and nonsense that it can't hear the gentler voices in the soul... cannot see the forest for the trees...

Virtue Alone Ennobles

nightis replies on 8/23/2006 2:58 pm:
Wow Krissy...good stuff! Thanks! Am I hearing you say that you may exchange a "spiritual" connection as "soul-mate"? The way you describe it, it makes sense to me. That certainly does not mean the subject is closed. Again, Krissy, I really appreciate your poignant comment!

lustcurious42 56F

8/23/2006 6:47 pm

Thank you for the credit here, Nightis. Let me see if I can explain how I feel. I think people think they fall in love. Think they have a met a soul mate. Think they have a spirtual connection that binds them. I think these things are rare and as mentioned above, you can go a whole life time and never come across them. I think love grows over time, and sometimes people learn to love each other and have wonderful relationships. I often wonder if My Sweet Lover is my soul mate, the one I waited a lifetime to meet. He is so not my type. Yet he lightens my heart, we understand each other in a way that cannot be defined by words. We often say the same thing to each other at the same time. We are so much the same, despite cultural and many other differences. It defies logic that we found love in each other. When I think of an afterlife, I imagine our spirits together. That the bond is so strong that it will seek one another out no matter what. Even having been apart for 3 years, for all the hurt we bestowed upon each other, the minute we touched there was a magic. I remember to this day the first time he touched me 10 years ago. Not sexually. Just his hand on the small of my back, electricity shooting up my spine. I was married and torn about what to do. I prayed to God to give me an answer and to let him say in our next conversation that "maybe it was meant to be." The next conversation, those exact words were said not once, but twice. Coincidence, maybe. It's about wanting his well being just as much as I want my own. It's about searching for 30 years to feel complete, to not feel restless, to feel like you are finally home. That is how I finally feel. I don't know how to explain these things other than to refer to it as having found a spirtual connection or a soul mate. Have you ever felt like this? It's about when I knew I was loosing him, it was feeling my stomach fall to the bottom of the floor. It's about him knowing when I need him and the call comes. As if he can feel me needing me. It's about people who we meet commenting that "we look good together." What the hell does that mean? We look good together? I think it is their picking up on the connection, the energy that exists between us. It's about seeing two souls destined to be together and my God, that does look good...........

maggie2108 62F
57 posts
8/23/2006 9:36 pm

nightis, as a fellow Lust blog follower/reader, her post sent me to yours! I've tried to figure out what these terms mean to me and like you, I'm struggling. It might be since I don't feel as if I've ever experienced either of them. I'd think they would leave someone not wanting a thing emotionally, and since I'm here, I'd say that hasn't happened. yet. Now if it does, do I know what it will look like? I don't know really. Oh sure, I've connected with a few, but not the earth shattering I'd expect. Maybe someday! Good luck with coming to an understanding with your thoughts.

nightis replies on 8/23/2006 11:18 pm:
After reading Lusty's response above, I would have to say that I myself have never experience anything like it either. Eyes and senses are wide open, or should be and we will see where it all goes!

Thanks for the visit, and please have a cup of something before you go!

lustcurious42 56F

8/24/2006 5:59 am

ok, so I've gone all smooshy........somebody bend me over and spank me, would ya? You've never experienced what I describe or ??????
Some things defy explanation. Maybe I'm just twitterpatted and will come to my logical senses sometime in the near future. But if feels good to me to have this best friend back in my life, it's not always perfect, but a feeling of it being right. Oh geesh..........

nightis replies on 8/24/2006 9:49 am:
Notice I have not responded to your original comment Lusty. I was speechless. My database had nothing that even resembled what you stated! I will still try to figure out how to respond, but the tunnel is long!

warmandsexy52 64M
13164 posts
8/24/2006 10:59 am

I don't understand how it is that some people can form some kind of deeper connection through a medium such as this. To dismiss it as gullibility is simply too inadequate an explanation, because it can and does happen. I think a spiritual connection doesn't necessarily imply a prevailing religious doctrine, just a domain of reality or hyper-reality we simply do not understand. Quantum coupling has already been demonstrated in physics ...... that is you can have two events that appear to be connected by means other than simple cause and effect. I have a friend who is psychically connected to her identical twin to such a degree that when her twin injured her thumb her own thumb came out in a bruise, even though she was far away at the time and she subsequently learned about the injury. This was one of many sensation connections.

The problem with relationships is that they are largely emotional and trying to give rational explanations is practically impossible.


nightis replies on 8/24/2006 4:17 pm:
Thank you for putting a solid and clear perspective on the subject. It is one of many unique perspectives on what is obviously a very "pie in the sky" concept!

Thanks for visiting!

lustcurious42 56F

8/24/2006 6:16 pm

You are speechless and your database had no reference point. You obviously loved your wife, I have picked up on subtle references. Was your love different than how I explain my feelings above? I think sometimes people end up together just because they want to be with someone, seems like the time to get married, and eventually they fall in love. When I think of a soul mate, I think of a connection that is deeper than falling in love over time and that transcends times. Perhaps before you can respond, you first need to think about the feelings that you have had and attempt to describe them? Did they feel complete to you, or always something missing?

nightis replies on 8/25/2006 6:18 am:

How can I do this without thrashing another person that I still care very deeply about. My ex wife had such a lack of spark, passion and all else for life and that carried over into sex. I was the one with passion enough for two of us. She was a friendly, loving person to come home to, but lacked total imagination.

Was she always like this, I believe so. I just didn't see it when I was 25.

I remember one scene as we were returning from an overnight date at the coast. It was one of those classic "are we going to continue the relationship or end it here right now scenes". It is a powerful memory and evokes some of these almost "spiritual" thoughts your refer to.

I was drawn to AdultFriendFinder for the frank discussions about sex and matters of the heart. I stay here because the people here, no matter how down and beaten some of them are by life's circumstances are full of passion and zest for life! They are out to realize their own passion and in turn bring it out in those that they meet.

florallei 99F

8/25/2006 10:49 pm

To me a soulmate is the connection of two souls at it's deepest level, be it a woman/man, GF/GF or BF/F relationship...It transcends beyond the physical and a merging of both into one...I have felt this with a best GF and my BF...rare but it happens.

nightis replies on 8/26/2006 6:50 am:
Hi Flo:

I was waiting to see if you would chime in on this one. Thanks for your thoughts!


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