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Can we be Ourselves?
Can we be Ourselves?
The question I have here is can we ever be ourselves and have success on AdultFriendFinder? I have been around AdultFriendFinder for just about a year now and last summer my confidence was soaring. I had five first dates that ended up in sex. I am now working on a five month long drought that has frustrated the bejeeses out of me. In the last month or so, I have met two outstanding women that don't want to have anything to do with me for vastly different reasons.
One wouldn't go beyond chatting because I stated in my profile that I would meet with a married woman. Throw honesty out the door. If we would have met, that would have never come up and I bet we would have laughed and loved together as great friends. As it stands...well...it doesn't!
Finally, I admit it! I am a nice guy. It is a curse that I have lived with all my life. I met a gorgeous woman last week and we she won't have anything to do with me for the following reasons.
I am very attracted to you emotionally. I also think you are an attractive man. But I have instincts where men are concerned (perhaps faulty!) and I felt I had to withdraw the other day. Not because of anything you did at all.... it was the combination of my emotional state and my reaction to meeting you.
I think you are the sort of man I fall in love with-- not the sort of man I have a casual fling with and forget. Our brains are BOTH engaged. I don't think it would be possible for us to have a casual thing together, meeting once every month or something for a few hours. I just don't.
Are we having fun yet? I know there is more, but I could never get it out of her.
Now in my frustration, I quickly terminated discussions with a breed of woman that I term "man-haters". Those are the ones that had a bad or a string of bad relationships and are suspicious of everything I do or say. Nix to that. I am through trying to gain the trust of a woman. Meet me, find out who I am and let's get on with life or not. I am a sexual beast and desire the company of a woman...at her sexual best!
With that all spoken, as far as long term relationships are concerned, for the next two years I am unobtainable. A friendship, meeting once or twice a week; sure and should that last two years, we can talk further.
OK...it is all out there. That is more of who I am. But if I am myself, will I have success in the jungle that is AdultFriendFinder?