First impressions.......can be wrong.  

nightguy1961 55M
3324 posts
8/17/2005 11:33 pm

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First impressions.......can be wrong.

I was at a bar one night, when the bartender walks up with a fresh beer and says, "compliments of the lady".

I turn to look...not bad, not bad at all. Blonde hair, blue eyes, curves in all the right places, tight jeans, very nice. She's giving me the up and down look with a warm smile and strolls over. We start the small talk, she's gently touching the hair, the beard, and making cute, but friendly comments.

Then she spies my earring -the one w/ a small silver handcuff. "What's does that stand for?", she asked.

Uh-oh, I think to myself, but try a glib response: "Well, it doesn't mean that I'm a policeman." .................Ever heard a heavy door slam or felt the temp drop when the a/c kicks into high gear? That's what happened when the lady figured out just what the handcuff signified. All interest in me, if any, went right out the window.

Yes, I am into bdsm, but does that mean that I can't attempt to have just a regular encounter with a woman? Just because I've had women who enjoyed being restrained and punished, does that exclude me from the rest of sexual society? Give me a break.....

I've had the above episode happen a few times, but now, I see it in the cyber world. Yes, I have friends who are in the lifestyle and yes, we enjoy each others company, BUT we (or some of us) also like to have non-bdsm encounters and/or relationships. I can almost hear the shrieks over the 'net when a woman views my profile - OMG! Woman hater! Wife beater! Run away! Run away!

Let me see if I can put it in a very simple analogy....I like hot, spicy foods....but I can't eat it 24/7! Maybe I'd like to just hold a beautiful lady in my arms all night and nothing else. Just because I have an alternative lifestyle listed in my profile, am I to be put in a lesser category than other people? Is that what the rule book says? Because if that is the rule, then the rule SUCKS!

Just my opinion, friends...I may be wrong.

Full moon tonight...gotta go howl

bella_ 47F
4030 posts
8/20/2005 1:49 pm

I never knew...we are all labelled...its human nature

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