nietchze 43M
195 posts
8/10/2005 10:15 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm


Why do I do this? I mean, seriously. I'm not here to meet people. Don't want or need a relationship. So what the fuck? I swear I don't know how some of you people can be so FUCKIN MEAN. For no reason at all. These are real people,not just pictures and text. Actual people with real lives and real feelings. Are you that callous? I catch grief sometimes from friends, family and co-workers for my choice of staying single ( hell my grandmother was convinced I was gay and said so at Christmas one year) but I'm not afraid of being alone. More than anything I fear growing into a bitter, angry, spiteful, self-loathing yet arrogant jerk like some of you. Determined to make everyone around them as miserable as they are. End game.....

pseudohippie 50F

8/11/2005 12:18 am

People are mean because they can't deal with frustration. They never learned or were taught how to deal, they never had a role model, they aren't adept with emotional issues, they just don't care, etc. They're mean because they fear they are failures, and probably, they do fail repeatedly, because they never mastered the adult skills of emotional control, communication and dealing with conflict.

But in our chatroom, its not that meaningful to be treated poorly...that usually is done by strangers, or at least those with whom you'll never move past the aquaintence stage. What's worse is when the people who supposedly DO care about you are mean...words are concrete objects once you say them, they don't float away into the air. Sure, you can step around those words, but they're permanent.

It's sad.

And you do it cause it's addicting and familiar and oddly comforting, even when it's bad, and because you like the people you meet. It fits into your schedule. It suits your personality to have fodder for thought about people and why they do what they do.

I tried to give you a testimonial today, and it wouldn't let me. Grrrrrr.

MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
8/11/2005 12:54 am

OK son, what happened? Do tell your cyber mother.

As you know, I already went through the mother's worry that you were gay. Ok, it wasn't actually worry, it was trying to find you a nice boy, just in case you were. I found several, if you decide to take that route.

Now son, I hate to tell you, but you're already bitter. Turning into a curmudgeon isn't necessarily a bad thing. Some people aspire to it. But if the idea bothers you, then it's not you. You can be a curmudgeon without being an arrogant asshole, you know.

I know what you mean though, about upsetting people. I think I went over the line with a newbie 20 year old lamer. OK, he came in, thinking this site was an instant guarantee of sex. I started ripping his profile apart and sadly, a few really bitter women were in the room and went after him. His feelings got very hurt. So yeah, I learned even the clueless newbie lamers can get their feelings hurt and he probably won't be back. I was trying to tell him why he wouldn't get any and a few women really went after him. So yeah, people can be that callous. To be able to make a 20 year old aspiring to be a pimpmaster cry does take a special talent.

bisexualprincess 39F

8/11/2005 1:02 am

That is very true niet.I tottaly understand where u'r coming from bud.

Their is nothing wrong with being single or not wanting to be in a

relationship 2 many problems lol.

justsayhi2005 51F

8/11/2005 10:34 am

I really am thoroughly disillusioned with AdultFriendFinder and it's time for me to leave before I believe that everyone behaves the way I see people behave on this website everyday. I'm not sure if the site has changed or if it's that I have changed. I suppose it's a bit of both. I do like to chat but I will find somewhere else to do that, the internet is a big place.

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