Was it the alcohol or nerves?...or both.  

newforyou29 42M/40F
66 posts
5/1/2005 6:29 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Was it the alcohol or nerves?...or both.

We had met a guy that I was interested in. My husband did the intro's and made plans for all of us to meet. He was a large built guy that was well endowed. This was our first experience with a 3-some. So everything was going as planned. He came over dressed sexy and smelling great. I made supper. After we ate. we talked awhile. Things started to heat up. So we started to play the "famous strip poker". Of course throughout the game we were drinking to calm the tension. We were all having a great time. Once we were naked, we moved into the bedroom. I started to suck his cock (as much as I could handle) while my husband watched. My husband started to eat my pussy and all was great. I was so wet and excited, I couldn't wait till I got more. My husband started to do me doggie style while I continued to sucked our new found friend. I turned around to suck on my husband and to let pony boy enter me from behind. I was so excited b/c this was my chance to experience a very large cock. As I prepared myself he tried to get it in. He was able to get it in halfway then he pulled back out. He tried this several more times. You could tell he was getting embarrassed. I turned around and laid on my back. He tried to enter this way w/ no luck. The problem was that he could not get it hard enough to do the deed. He apologized said he drank to much and went to sleep on our couch. (my husband did a very good job pleasing me so I don't have to complain) Now here is my ?, was it really he had to much to drink or the nerves. Has this happened to anyone else. Our next time do we have to monitor the drinks or work on the nerves. I would love to hear some comments.

1sunspot61 55F

5/1/2005 9:12 am

I would say it was the nerves...probably performance anxiety. Sounds like you both liked him so talk to him about visiting again. I bet when he's more comfortable it will be great.

wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
5/1/2005 9:52 am

well actually it isn't uncommon for guys when in the presence of other men to not be able to get it hard 'enough', alcohol or drugs can also have the same effect, I don't like my guys drunk, and I don't like guys who prefer to play stoned for this very reason, lol it takes all the fun out of it, for some it loosens them up enough to do the deed, but too much for them to physically do the deed, in which case they are only good for one on one and sober,

few of the guys I play with I allow in on a 3some with myself and boney, I check them out first and assure myself they have the self confidence to perform, it isn't fun for a guy to have it happen to them it is very embarrassing but it is quite common......something best avoided on both sides if you know what to watch for and are careful in your selection for such play....


nicennaughty100 52M/47F

5/1/2005 12:09 pm

Hi..it was probably a little of both...particularly if this was his first time for a mfm. Ironically, alcohol helps calm the nerves but at the same time can inhibit and erection. Next time, he'll probably be as nervous, because he'll be concerned about a "repeat" of your first experience. My suggestion is to make him feel very comfortable and that it happens to guys all the time.

Have fun!

cochise226922 46M

5/1/2005 12:32 pm

Hmmm. I would say both but if he fell asleep right there in your house the alcohol had to play a large part in this. I myself have been with 3 couples in the past 2 years, and I had no problems at all staying hard for as long asneeded with 2 of them. We had a great time and she definitely got what she wanted in each case I am sure. About a month ago however, the 3rd couple I was with I had problems keeping it hard.
Not sure if it was because I had to wear a condom while he did not (recently tested and disease free - they knew this), or if i was nervous because all they talked about was the failure of previous 3rd wheels. Now one on one I have no problems with condoms, but in this setting I knew it was bothering me, and with the added pressure of Him constantly watching me to see how I performed, it began to get in my head. They were attractive and she was damn sexy. I found other ways to help get her off and still managed to bang her good for quite awhile at less than rock hard - but you could feel the tension and things just began to go downhill.
My 2 cents, hope it helps. Now someone give me another shot so I can feel redemption!

patsam69 51M/51F

5/6/2005 8:43 am

Nerves and alcohol...a deadly combo. Has happened to us...don't let it get you down.

mnfun952 102M

7/10/2005 3:18 pm

1 or 2 drinks is good...more than that... and, yea..it can have a 'limping' effect... combine that with nervers and it's not easy to concentrate. He should have 'hung in there' though...just watching you and your husband..no pressure... before long, he would have been excited again.... I do agree with the comment on getting together with him again... give him a call, hang out...see what happens... friends first...fucking later - - it's fun, and you'll have a great time!!

gacpl_looking75 45M/42F

7/18/2005 7:05 am

Nerves, more than alcohol. With each encounter, should get better since he's getting more "comfortable" being naked around you two.

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