sound familiar???  

neotrio 41M/38F
1469 posts
2/25/2006 2:58 am

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3/9/2006 8:44 am

sound familiar???

**pulled this one out of the archives.(aug 29, 2005) this was one of my first posts...but still relevent and applicable i think. what do you think?

ok, tell me if this sounds familiar...

you're on the site, you see someone you like or someone sees you, then...contact. you're emailing, your chatting, maybe you're even talking on the phone. everything seems to be going all right, you're interested, they're interested...you set up a meeting. you go to (insert meeting place here) and maybe you're a little bit early so, you wait. they're running a little bit late so...you wait some more, (especially here on Guam, you know we run on an entirely different system of time, GUAM TIME) hey “shit happens” right; traffic, lost car keys, can't find parking...whatever. but as the minutes tick by and you're still alone, you start to realize ...you've been stood up, another f-ing no-show.

what is up with that? isn't it frustrating for those of us who are seriously looking for good people to have good fun with? you put time and energy into corresponding with someone, set time aside to meet, get all dolled up to end up waiting…for nobody (table for one?)

for those who do that...why? are you sitting on the opposite side of the room watching us scan the room, looking at our watches every few minutes, brows furrowed, heads cocked to one side deciding whether enough time has passed and if it's appropriate to leave? or are you sitting at home behind your computer, snickering at the idea of someone performing the aforementioned actions? What does one get out of that, really?

i hate to admit but it's happened to us a couple of times, but from what i hear, it happens often. and either the offender comes up with excuse after excuse or cuts all lines of communication. the first time it happened, we were still naïve, kept in contact and tried scheduling other meetings, this person had a duffle-bag-o-excuses. it took a while before we started getting suspicious. then there was that couple with whom we almost met but they were too scared to walk into (place) because, "it looked a little too empty." (okay maybe we'll let that one slide, but still a disappointment)

it happened again with another couple. but it turned out that we had just mixed up the meeting places and were waiting for each other at two different locations; all of us scanning the rooms, looking at our watches every few minutes, brows furrowing, heads cocking to one side deciding whether enough time has passed and if it's appropriate to leave? we ended up setting up another meeting, clicking very well, became friends and still have a good laugh about the mix-up once in a while.

but with so few people to “play” with on this island, (over 5,000 members on Guam, my ass!! The site needs some serious updating.) there’s no time for pranks. If you’re not serious about “playing”, i say…get off the court!

your thoughts?????


toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
2/25/2006 3:39 am

totally with you...
it is absolutely unacceptable...

if it's any consolation... I 'd show up... ... ...


neotrio 41M/38F
1213 posts
2/25/2006 2:11 pm

toothy-thanks, i know you'd show up. now...if you weren't so far away....hmmm


Jeepidiot 42M

2/25/2006 3:28 pm

Hasn't happened to me yet and probably never will. I'd actually have to talk to someone first to even schedule a meeting. Maybe one day if everything progressed past the "looking at my profile" part I might get to come here and talk about being stood up. Sorry it has to happen though. I can understand the hesitation to meeting. I mean this isn't your normal "dating" site. The "Theme" of this site kind of says you're meeting for something more than dating. That's honestly a big step for most people.

On a side note, MEN do not get "dolled" up. We get dressed in 5 minutes then wait 2hrs for the women to get ready.


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